Skyhawk
September 15th, 2011, 10:44 AM
Hai thar. :)
First thread, figured I'd make it special with a powerful topic for me. :)
So, let's begin.
This guide may seem a bit more biased towards males, I'm trying to make it include females, but I can't guarantee. Sorry ladies. 3:
1. Identifying the Situation
What do you currently consider yourself as? (Straight, Gay, Bisexual, curious etc...)
Now this is my first guide ever, I'm trying to make it understandable. :P
Let's have a little role-play, if you're questioning your sexuality, and you're age 13-15.
You're in your early teen years, let's say 13 as VT is teenagers, and you're at school walking down the hallways between classes. You've been getting turned on by the occasional member of the same sex recently, maybe not so much by the opposite, or equally for both sexes. You see a very appealing person, the sexual thoughts begin and it'll continue for a while.
Later that day you might hop on the computer and do a little Googling about homosexuality/bisexuality. You learn what the terms mean and what applies, along with some myths.
What's true?
Homosexuality is simply having a strong emotional and physical attraction with minimal desire for the opposite sex. This means male with male or female with female. Popular names include gay man and lesbian.
Straight males note: Not all gay men are attracted to you! I CANNOT stress that enough!
Heterosexuality is what many people call "natural" and "right", and is an emotional and physical attraction to the opposite sex. This means male with female.
Bisexuality is actually more rare that many people believe, it's technically an equal attraction to both male and female emotionally and physically.
I've noticed that a lot of gay people refer to themselves as bisexual when they're still kinda in the closet or something similar. I honestly never hopped on the bisexual bandwagon and admitted I was flat out gay.
I honestly love shoe shopping. (random fact)
HOMOSEXUALILTY IS NOT A DISEASE!!!!!! Therefore IT CANNOT BE CURED!
And no, I'm not saying it's not normal either. :P
Also, there are no specific activities that are gay outside of the bedroom!
A physical attraction is that love action that happens in the bed behind <expletive>s.
p101ers :P
An emotional attraction is that true love that happens, like that natural feeling to start a family.
Technically, bisexuals are gay too, except both gay and straight so keep that in mind!
Gay people are not sex hounds that hump (or whatever else private you do in your later years) anything that's the same sex. We aren't focused around sex, though everyone is different.
I was actually called not gay because I wasn't into camming or sharing pics "down there". WTF? That hurt. ._.
So? Think that's plenty of information? Let's move on then.
2. Acceptance
So you realize that you are actually gay. Some people deny it and become homophobic and aggressive or some embrace it (Think Gay Pride). I actually denied it for a year, but eventually accepted it. As a result I've turned to feeling that sexuality is a private thing, not everyone needs to know. Who cares? Your priest? Pfft. I'm not going there.
Maybe you tell a couple of friends at first, most might be accepting and loving, you might lose a couple of friends. Sorry but that's the challenge in the next chapter.
3. Coming Out
Some people choose to come out, others choose not to and truthfully live a not as happy life, with minimal sexual enjoyment being a factor. It's honestly AWKWARD. Do you want to come out?
Yes, I do want to come out. Congratulations! :hug:
Coming out can be very hard and stressful and worrying. What if your family, friends, classmates, and creepy people around the block don't accept who you are and disown you? What if they accept you and love you the way you are. What if?
Enough with the "What if?"s!
Sorry but seriously. ._.
How to come out.
Coming out is a varying stage for everyone. It may be casual, it may be robust. I actually can't tell you something I haven't experienced.
Maybe Google it? :/ sowwie
What if friends who know you are gay "out" you before you are ready?
If they do, I want to bitchslap them.
Seriously, if you're a hetero and you out a gay friend you are doing the most detrimental thing to your friend's LIFE
That's not cool bro.
Doing this can lead to severe depression, self harm, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, actual suicide, really anything bad can and probably will happen. You pretty much killed your friend. Meanie. 3:
Remember that guy whose friend uploaded a video of him in a compromising gay sexual act to the Internet?
He killed himself.
It was in the news here in America a while ago.
No, I don't want to come out
Well maybe not the greatest decision but I can only accept your choice. It may be a tough life and a lonely one (emotionally), and it'll be awkward if you come out a 40 which generates a "WTF?" moment nearly every time.
I don't recommend this.
No hugs for you then. :( :nohugs:
4. "The Gay Lifestyle"
Lifestyle? Wait, WHAT?
For some people it's a lifestyle, but everyone's different so :hug: for you I suppose.
Being gay doesn't obligate you to be femme, butchy, don't need to love shoe shopping or chopping trees down. (I live in lesbo country, trust me some stereotypes are true for a few lesbians here o_O)
I have a femme personality yet I easily pass off as a straight guy because I'm not stereotypical!
NOTE THAT THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GAYDAR. A "GAYDAR" IS A USE OF STEREOTYPES TO JUDGE PEOPLE BY HOW THEY LOOK AND SOUND."
Seriously, you only guess when you see a really femme guy.
What if he's metrosexual? Hm...
THiNK!
Closure
Well I've spent 12 hours working on this, I hope you liked it. If I forgot something let me know, I'll edit it in.
-Rogue
First thread, figured I'd make it special with a powerful topic for me. :)
So, let's begin.
This guide may seem a bit more biased towards males, I'm trying to make it include females, but I can't guarantee. Sorry ladies. 3:
1. Identifying the Situation
What do you currently consider yourself as? (Straight, Gay, Bisexual, curious etc...)
Now this is my first guide ever, I'm trying to make it understandable. :P
Let's have a little role-play, if you're questioning your sexuality, and you're age 13-15.
You're in your early teen years, let's say 13 as VT is teenagers, and you're at school walking down the hallways between classes. You've been getting turned on by the occasional member of the same sex recently, maybe not so much by the opposite, or equally for both sexes. You see a very appealing person, the sexual thoughts begin and it'll continue for a while.
Later that day you might hop on the computer and do a little Googling about homosexuality/bisexuality. You learn what the terms mean and what applies, along with some myths.
What's true?
Homosexuality is simply having a strong emotional and physical attraction with minimal desire for the opposite sex. This means male with male or female with female. Popular names include gay man and lesbian.
Straight males note: Not all gay men are attracted to you! I CANNOT stress that enough!
Heterosexuality is what many people call "natural" and "right", and is an emotional and physical attraction to the opposite sex. This means male with female.
Bisexuality is actually more rare that many people believe, it's technically an equal attraction to both male and female emotionally and physically.
I've noticed that a lot of gay people refer to themselves as bisexual when they're still kinda in the closet or something similar. I honestly never hopped on the bisexual bandwagon and admitted I was flat out gay.
I honestly love shoe shopping. (random fact)
HOMOSEXUALILTY IS NOT A DISEASE!!!!!! Therefore IT CANNOT BE CURED!
And no, I'm not saying it's not normal either. :P
Also, there are no specific activities that are gay outside of the bedroom!
A physical attraction is that love action that happens in the bed behind <expletive>s.
p101ers :P
An emotional attraction is that true love that happens, like that natural feeling to start a family.
Technically, bisexuals are gay too, except both gay and straight so keep that in mind!
Gay people are not sex hounds that hump (or whatever else private you do in your later years) anything that's the same sex. We aren't focused around sex, though everyone is different.
I was actually called not gay because I wasn't into camming or sharing pics "down there". WTF? That hurt. ._.
So? Think that's plenty of information? Let's move on then.
2. Acceptance
So you realize that you are actually gay. Some people deny it and become homophobic and aggressive or some embrace it (Think Gay Pride). I actually denied it for a year, but eventually accepted it. As a result I've turned to feeling that sexuality is a private thing, not everyone needs to know. Who cares? Your priest? Pfft. I'm not going there.
Maybe you tell a couple of friends at first, most might be accepting and loving, you might lose a couple of friends. Sorry but that's the challenge in the next chapter.
3. Coming Out
Some people choose to come out, others choose not to and truthfully live a not as happy life, with minimal sexual enjoyment being a factor. It's honestly AWKWARD. Do you want to come out?
Yes, I do want to come out. Congratulations! :hug:
Coming out can be very hard and stressful and worrying. What if your family, friends, classmates, and creepy people around the block don't accept who you are and disown you? What if they accept you and love you the way you are. What if?
Enough with the "What if?"s!
Sorry but seriously. ._.
How to come out.
Coming out is a varying stage for everyone. It may be casual, it may be robust. I actually can't tell you something I haven't experienced.
Maybe Google it? :/ sowwie
What if friends who know you are gay "out" you before you are ready?
If they do, I want to bitchslap them.
Seriously, if you're a hetero and you out a gay friend you are doing the most detrimental thing to your friend's LIFE
That's not cool bro.
Doing this can lead to severe depression, self harm, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, actual suicide, really anything bad can and probably will happen. You pretty much killed your friend. Meanie. 3:
Remember that guy whose friend uploaded a video of him in a compromising gay sexual act to the Internet?
He killed himself.
It was in the news here in America a while ago.
No, I don't want to come out
Well maybe not the greatest decision but I can only accept your choice. It may be a tough life and a lonely one (emotionally), and it'll be awkward if you come out a 40 which generates a "WTF?" moment nearly every time.
I don't recommend this.
No hugs for you then. :( :nohugs:
4. "The Gay Lifestyle"
Lifestyle? Wait, WHAT?
For some people it's a lifestyle, but everyone's different so :hug: for you I suppose.
Being gay doesn't obligate you to be femme, butchy, don't need to love shoe shopping or chopping trees down. (I live in lesbo country, trust me some stereotypes are true for a few lesbians here o_O)
I have a femme personality yet I easily pass off as a straight guy because I'm not stereotypical!
NOTE THAT THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GAYDAR. A "GAYDAR" IS A USE OF STEREOTYPES TO JUDGE PEOPLE BY HOW THEY LOOK AND SOUND."
Seriously, you only guess when you see a really femme guy.
What if he's metrosexual? Hm...
THiNK!
Closure
Well I've spent 12 hours working on this, I hope you liked it. If I forgot something let me know, I'll edit it in.
-Rogue