Friend Issues

[TheQuietWorld]

I have a few issues with my friends that I need help with and advice for. Please help!

1. I HAVE NO GUY FRIENDS - Yes, I am gay but I don't know why I don't fit in with other guys. I just can't seem to even hold a two minute conversation with a guy. My parents are starting to notice and are getting suspicious (they don't know I'm gay)

2. MY "BEST FRIEND" - Recently, the girl who is supposed to be my best friend has started to ignore me and now our friendship feels like more of an obligation that an actual friendship. There is another girl who is the only one that knows that I am gay that would make a much better friend, but my parents totally hate her and think that we only hang out so I can be a positive influence on her.

[Jupiter]

Well, just be yourself. If they don't like who you are, then they aren't good friends.

[mxiii]

don't worry. i would suggest you take things slow with the guys. Guys may seen scary at first but actually quite nice once you get used to their unintentional insults and mockery all.
2ndly, I suggest you figure things out with your bestfriend. it sucks when someone starts ignoring you and you don't know why. find the time or make time to just talk and figure things out

[Emiil]

just be yourself and everything will work out :)

[DerBear]

I have a few issues with my friends that I need help with and advice for. Please help!

1. I HAVE NO GUY FRIENDS - Yes, I am gay but I don't know why I don't fit in with other guys. I just can't seem to even hold a two minute conversation with a guy. My parents are starting to notice and are getting suspicious (they don't know I'm gay)

2. MY "BEST FRIEND" - Recently, the girl who is supposed to be my best friend has started to ignore me and now our friendship feels like more of an obligation that an actual friendship. There is another girl who is the only one that knows that I am gay that would make a much better friend, but my parents totally hate her and think that we only hang out so I can be a positive influence on her.

I think to answer NO1, some people feel uncomfortable with having gay or bi friends just like some people have issues with black or white people in relation of friends, its a fact of life that one must get used too.

If it feels like an obligation then the friendship is dying that's all that can be said

[cpr97]

Well, just be yourself. If they don't like who you are, then they aren't good friends.

bingo a good friend or a friend worth bein friends with will be your friend for who you are not what you are.

n as far as they guy friends / gay thing... are you maybe scared to make guy friends cuz your affraid you might feel attracted to them n let down if they dont feel the same way? (not tryin to be mean just seems that it could be your own mind strayin you away from becomin close friends like you might be scared of somethin to do with the fact of bein friends with people of the sex your attracted to)
1 more thing i think lots of guys that arent gay or have never thought bout the whole deal are sketchy bein round gay guys cuz they are affraid you might try to do somethin with them (which they may not like or they may like but are scared to realize the like it) i think if any guy friends you know or make or have that know bout your sexuality you should make it clear to them that you respect the fact they arent into guys n you wont try to change that as well as they should respect the fact that your gay and that you just want normal friends and arent tryin to get with them.
i know for me i have gay friends n lesbian friends but the respect thing works best they respect my sexuality n i respect theirs none of us try to pressure or critisize eachother sexuality... sure theres jokin but its known its all in fun n dont get taken to far... they joke with me bout bein straight as i joke with them bout bein homosexual
either way im sure everythin will work out n i hope it does also i think you should talk to your parents n explain to them bout the girl your friends with but they hate i dont think thats fair to you for them to decide whos suited to be your friend unless of course they have other reasons i dont know your friend but if your parents have a legit reason to not like her or think she would get you in trouble or be a bad influence then all i can say is you have to prove to them thats not the case but they should trust n respect your choices on who you want to be friends with n try to patch things up with your current best friend cuz it may not be you where the problem is maybe shes havin a tough time to n you could help eachother out but its better to have her as only a friend if shes not your best freind then nothin at all either way good luck with it all dude

sorry for the long post