Housemates and SH

[amor2429]

So...
There was an incident on my bus which involved a kid telling me to cut myself, at which i got really pissed at him for...The bus driver told the shop keeper that i cut myself on the bus and that i was showing my blades around(which i was definitely not and i wasn't even talking about cutting...).
The shop keeper told my house mate about it...
While i was at school, my housemate called mental health(without even knowing the whole story or even the truth!), who told her to take my blades away...She went through my room and took all of my blades(even my shaving razors, which i don't use for that anymore)...
She also moved around my personal belongings and 'cleaned' my room..
I am really upset, especially because it's my room and it's my sacred place and i have lots of personal notes and momentos in my room.
Is it right that she did this???
I'm thinking because i'm desperate, luckily i found 4 small blades that had dropped behind my cupboard, so i wont go too without and go insane...But now i can't shave my legs or anything and i can't SH and she threw out about $15 worth of sharps gear!!!!

[bambino]

I think it was a strange thing for the mental health services to tell her to do. Because as ive said much to my friends horror..."you can take that away but ill just get another its no good trying to stop me" I feel so bad for saying that, poor girl was terrified.

anyway, until a person wants to stop self-harming, taking away their blades isn't going to change anything, they'll just find another and become more secretive.
I think you should discuss it with your housemate, say you were hurt she went and did that without permission but you understand she did it in your best interests blah blah. Explain its more complex than just: take the blades away that'll fix her!
hopefully shell be understanding?

[Amaryllis]

I completely understand. My mum stormed into my room and shook the blades and precision knife at me, screaming "What is this? WHAT IS THIS?!?!" It was terrible. I got so pissed.

But hun, she means well. Really, she just cares and she wants to help and for non self-harmers, they think it's just a matter of "Oh. They can just stop." They don't understand, hun. Try to explain. Tell her it's not just that easy. That you need help, support.

Are you ready to stop, though? Do you want to?

[Aubrie]

I don't know if it's like this for you, but if anyone had ever taken my blades from me, I would have had a meltdown. They were my security blankets. If you're like that, too, you may want to explain to her how it affects you.

She probably doesn't understand that it's nearly impossible to just stop. It's an addiction. Most people who don't SH don't know that. My mom was shocked when the therapist told her that lol. Anyway, just sit her down and explain to her. As for getting razors back to shave your legs, you may have to compromise. Maybe buy an electric razor if she won't give them back?

If you're ready to stop, this could be a good thing. But you have to want to stop.

[amor2429]

Hola
Thanks soooo much everyone... I've read over your replies quite a few times but didn't now what to really say... :)
So thank you :) I really appreciate the replies...
I'm not so mad about it at her anymore, but more mad at myself for leaving them in a place where she could easily find them and take them... :(
Outlook on life has changed a little(desperate) and my psychiatrist assessment at the hospital is on the 20th..so less than a week... :)
I'm going out tomorrow which i guess is good :( I didnt want to because i have work to do but oh well! :P