ShyGuyInChicago
September 13th, 2011, 12:51 AM
I thought this was interesting. In a documentary called Out on the Job (which focused on three individuals who live in three separate states where it is legal to fire someone for being gay), there was a part that I found especially interesting: one of the people profiled in the documentary, a 20-year-old woman named Mateisha made the decision to come out to her boss Antoinette, because Mateisha believed that Antoinette was about to figure out that Mateisha is a lesbian. Mateisha and Antoinette are close and have a mother-daughter relationship, and Antoinette regularly visits Mateisha at home. Mateisha lives with her girlfriend Sanagwa, and told Antoinette that Sanagwa is a friend; Antoinette finds it strange that Sanagwa is always at Maetisha's apartment, and she is always asking Mateisha if she is dating guys, but Mateisha never gives a direct answer. Because of this Mateisha felt that Antoinette was going to realized she is gay which is why she planned to come out to her, but she is afraid that she will lose her job is Antoinette finds out.
In short, do you/have you ever suspected that the people around you suspected that you are gay, and have you ever considered or made the decision to come out before they figured it out on their own or because you thought they were very close to figuring it out on their own?
I have wondered if my parents suspect anything since I have never dated anybody. However, they may not since I told them the reason why I did not make friends in elementary, middle, and high school was because I did not like my schoolmates and I did not want to get hurt by them and I was just shy (the other reason was that I was afraid of being rejected and bullied for being gay and I thought it would be better to not make friends rather make friends and hide my sexuality just to be accepted). I assume they just think I am shy and stubborn and in their mind if I won't make friends, then why would I find a girlfriend?
I have never considered coming out before being found out. People in high school have asked if I was gay, and I just said no. I assume thy only asked because somehow they suspected it.
In short, do you/have you ever suspected that the people around you suspected that you are gay, and have you ever considered or made the decision to come out before they figured it out on their own or because you thought they were very close to figuring it out on their own?
I have wondered if my parents suspect anything since I have never dated anybody. However, they may not since I told them the reason why I did not make friends in elementary, middle, and high school was because I did not like my schoolmates and I did not want to get hurt by them and I was just shy (the other reason was that I was afraid of being rejected and bullied for being gay and I thought it would be better to not make friends rather make friends and hide my sexuality just to be accepted). I assume they just think I am shy and stubborn and in their mind if I won't make friends, then why would I find a girlfriend?
I have never considered coming out before being found out. People in high school have asked if I was gay, and I just said no. I assume thy only asked because somehow they suspected it.