i think i destroyed it

[Ashleigh]

ive been with this guy for almost 4 months now and they have been the best 4 months of my life. ive never felt this good about myself before but i think ive ruined it. ive been having some problems recently which he has been helping me out with but i feel that hes telling me what i should do instead of giving me options of what i could do. i told him how i felt and that then escalated into a list of other things that have happened recently that have annoyed me and we argued for about two hours. looking back i can see that i was in the wrong and that he was just trying to think of what was best for me and ive apologised but we arent talking how we used to. i dont know what to do to be honest and its killing me cos its 1.42 am here and hes fallen asleep and we havent spoken in over an hour. what do i do cos i have no idea and i cant lose him :'(

[Jupiter]

Just apologize. I'm sure he'll understand. And, if he dumps you (which I'm sure he won't) then he wasn't the right guy after all.
Peace,
Eric

[Ashleigh]

i have apologised but each time i do he just puts ' :/ xxx' usually he puts about seven x's and hes really blunt with his texts when usually he writes essays :'/

[Jupiter]

It'll all be okay. Just get some rest.

[Ashleigh]

ok ill try.... thankyou.

[Dack]

The best thing to do is to not harrass him about it. Just leave him be, he'll talk to you when he's feeling better. People say irrational things when they are angry, so it's better you leave him be unless he does something he'll regret

[Kujiro]

Theres this thing called the cooling off period, give it some time for both of you to cool down, and mull things over alone.

There is no need to think too deeply and such, give it a day or 2 and thus speaking to him again.
You cant expect someone to be as jovial and respond the way they normally do immediately after an arguement.
It takes time to let bygones and move on from where you left off.

Let the matter slide as it is, im sure as everyone one knows, people would tend to forgive but not forget, and it helps if you do not rub it in again.

There is nothing you can do now, but wait the storm out, then speak to him again.
Do not jump to any unnecessary conclusions, and there is no need to lose your temper over wild imaginations.

What does not kill you make you stronger.

Good luck
*smile*

[Ashleigh]

thanks guys.... hes just texted this morning (not prompted) so fingers crossed to be honest i just feel really bad especially as what he was saying is actually right and would probs be best for me:/

[Kujiro]

thanks guys.... hes just texted this morning (not prompted) so fingers crossed to be honest i just feel really bad especially as what he was saying is actually right and would probs be best for me:/


It's cool, spend quality time together as a couple, let bygones be bygones.

Take care
*smile*

[Mike8492]

So what happen? Are things getting better?