Not Selfish

[Wheatley]

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[DerBear]

Well it was selfish but I suggest you Do:

NOTHING

The reason why I say this is because making him lonely achives nothing and I mean nothing apart from tempoary friendship.

Taking him away from his friends is not going to work as when you think about it your hurting him and hurting his friends thay are friends for a reason and you must respect this.

Even if they are a bad influance on him, he needs to learn this for himself not by You playing fate.

Also it will have an effect on you, As deep down in your heart and mind you will know you are "The back up guy".

Sorry truth hurt best to do nothing as in the long run you will feel better and anyway why have a friend who has and does continue to bully you.

Best of LUCK

Derri

[mxiii]

i think your having the "influence" problem. does brandon talk to you occasionally? if yes, what do you talk about ? if he shares his problem with you, therefore he trusts you and consider you his "spill my hearts out" friend. Its a good thing. If he just talks to you when his bored, then you're just his "get out of boredom" friend.

based on my personal experience, i do have friends that only talks to me outside when no one's looking. There are times I wonder why can't we just talk in school like normal. but i figure its for the best. maybe you should just keep things the way it is. its better thn having it backfire on u right? just my 2cent

Please don't double post; instead edit your first post. I've merged both of your posts together. -Jon/Donkey

[Wheatley]

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[DerBear]

It's hard for me to just leave it, that's what i did last time.
I dont care if I'm only his backup friend its better than nothing
I would do absolutely anything for him.
He does talk to me but its only on a "i ask I question and he answers it as briefly as possible" thing

But my main problem is that after building an emotional wall between him snd me, the other day when he spoke to me saying that he was having trouble because girls were ignoring him and being really friendlu towards me, that completely smashed the wall, and i dont want to build another, i want to take other actions now.

Then you will loose your life morals you will become weak and dependant.

Its your choice

[mxiii]

then you should try to talk to him occasionally. =D this will prevent walls from building

[Wheatley]

[WQUOTE=SilverWolf;1442489]Then you will loose your life morals you will become weak and dependant.

Its your choice[/QUOTE]

That's fine with me, as long as I'm with him
But believe me, he holds my confidence aswell.
Since they turned on me, I've had next to no confidence. When before i had enough, building it back up has been hard and taken a long time to get, well pretty much no where, if i was his friend again, I'd regain my confidence within weeks even just a month.

Also, these little pathetic question answer convosations that we have always just end up with me sounding stupid and mentally beating myself up

[DerBear]

[WQUOTE=SilverWolf;1442489]Then you will loose your life morals you will become weak and dependant.

Its your choice

That's fine with me, as long as I'm with him
But believe me, he holds my confidence aswell.
Since they turned on me, I've had next to no confidence. When before i had enough, building it back up has been hard and taken a long time to get, well pretty much no where, if i was his friend again, I'd regain my confidence within weeks even just a month.

Also, these little pathetic question answer convosations that we have always just end up with me sounding stupid and mentally beating myself up[/QUOTE]

Look I will tell you now: You want to ruin your friends life because he fucked up yours? Right?

Bullies do this?
He uses you when he is alone?
You need to gain some self respect as to be rather honest whats the point?

Are you the type of person who can only be friends with the one person and you share that person so to speak with other people?

[Kujiro]

In all honesty, there is absolutely nothing you can do.
Pulling him away from his friends would generally make them influence him to hate you more.

It may cause a rippled effect which in such a case, his friends successfully shutting him away from you.
And that is not the rock you want to hit.
He ran away from you, was because he does not know how to respond to the fact you liked him, that leaves that as that.

Its a very school thing, to ostracise someone whom is different, and brandon is just following suit, due to the want of acceptance and recognition, or its just simply he cant handle it.
I have shared this on another thread, but he too is subconsciously or perhaps consciously taking part in the rat race of being Mr.Popular.

But from the fact he does talk to you when you are alone, and when hes alone, would mean he does not really hate you inside.
Its tough times you have to put up with.

An alternative would be to follow a group and too take part in that silly rat race, become more popular than his group is, and most of the time allegiance would shift.

Thats how it works, and thats school.
At the end of the day, one would realise how silly it is to do that.

Or you may choose the more matured approached and speak to him telling him how you feel, not about liking, but the whole friendship thing.
But i'd seriously doubt he would beable to see that at this point of time.

[Wheatley]

Thanks, that really made sense Kujiro.
Fortunatly after his brief day or so of being really friendly with me, I have noticed that although he is not the best at the moment, he is spending more time with me. Admittinly because he is lonely, but these qre baby steps, as he matures im hoping he either forgets the whole thing or realises that the whole thing is stupid and becomes my friend again. I've realised how shallow a person i sou.ded posting this, and i do now have a big enough friendship group aswell. But there is a spark between us, I uave been pucking up little situations where he has dropped some hints.

Itll just take time for him to realise who he is and who i am, and i will be there for him when he does.

Thanks for the replies everyone, sorry for coming accross as so shallow