Need Advice

[Short Circuit]

I have been friends with 5 other boys since nursery, (kindergarden). One of the boys admitted he was gay when we were 11. We are now either 13 or 14.

Saturday just gone, we went to an amusement park near where we live, there were me, the 5 other boys and my new girlfriend. Everything was fine until half way thru the day, I went to the toilet, and the gay lad followed. Whilst standing having a pee, he looked at me and the conversation went like this:

Friend: Your only going with her because she is easy to get in bed.
Me: No, I am going with her because I like her
Friend: I bet I am better in bed than her
Me: you know I dont do gay stuff, drop it, I like her very much
Friend: I bet I am better at blow jobs too

With that, I lost my temper and punched him on the nose, making it bleed.

I tried to contact him today (Sunday), to say I was sorry and did not want to lose our friendship, but he will not see me.

I had no idea he liked me that way, and dont think I have done anything to make him think that. I am very angry with myself for hitting him. i am also very annoyed that he would make me choose between a girl and him.

What can I do?

[LifeisLife]

I think you should just wait until monday, assuming you go to the same school, and talk to him at school. he can avoid you over the phone and internet, but he cant avoid you in real life.

[DerBear]

Hi Kyle!!!

I think you over reactted as at 13 its stupid to get into this shit I mean 2 years down line and maturity has kicked in a bit more its a diffrent stroy

I suggest you talk to him on monday as if he ignores you let him go as it can and will only make things worse if you continue to annoy him.

I dont see why punched him I mean he was insulting you but again it was not that bad as too punch him but again I cant say what I would of done if I was in your situation at your age.

Talk to him at school best way to go about it.

[scuba steve]

Wow. That was a complete overreaction to what happened. You may have been angry at him but that was no excuse to hit him. I know you've realised that you've done wrong, but you've betrayed this boys trust and depending one what kind of person he is, he may forgive you or hold it against you for the rest of his days.

Make sure you thoroughly apologise to him, that's all you can do. Possibly talk about your feelings towards each other too, remember that he was probably incredibly jealous of her if he does like you.

[Short Circuit]

Thanks for the replys people.

I know I over reacted, and I feel real bad for what I did, I accepted the fact that he is gay, so why cant he accept I am not?

I know I will not sleep well tonight, as I did not last night. I dont want to lose a long time friend over a girl, but I will not finish with her just to please him.

[scuba steve]

Thanks for the replys people.

I know I over reacted, and I feel real bad for what I did, I accepted the fact that he is gay, so why cant he accept I am not?

I know I will not sleep well tonight, as I did not last night. I dont want to lose a long time friend over a girl, but I will not finish with her just to please him.

He can't accept the fact that you're not, because he likes you and believes that you are secretly interested also.

I suggest you talk to him. Find out how deep his feelings go for you: How long he's like you for etc.

[Neptune]

Wow, punching him was out of line. Apologize to him at school on Monday, if he doesn't speak to you, leave him to be. Wait and speak to him the next Monday, or, maybe he'll talk to you later that week.

If he doesn't wanna speak to you at all (even in a few weeks) accept that and leave it alone. If I was him, I would totally stop being your friend. You punched him in the nose. It's not exactly good to be friends with violent people.

Oh, and, while your at it - get some help with the violence before it's too late. Punching is almost never acceptable and some people could argue that it is never acceptable. Fighting lands people in jail.

[Koffing]

You should try to contact him at school and tell him you are sorry. Tell him that you still want to be friends with him.

But if I was him, I would be very angry on you...

Best of luck ;)

[Kujiro]

Wow, chill it's ok to say no and stuff , but it's alittle over to throw a punch at a friend.

I would not deem he's angry, the punch sent his hopes and love for you crashing down.
He's disappointed and heart broken.
The punch definitely did not hurt more than that.

You mentioned he came out at 11, which it's possible he could have liked you since or even before that.
Not over exaggerate, but it could be, his liking for you brought him to this conclusion that he's homosexual.

If you do value him as a long time friend, speak to him. In a private time, tell him you doing love him that way he sees it as, it's cool to be great friends but you prefer girls.

It would be a tough one to mend a broken heart. The wounds would heal but it scars deeper than you may have expected.
You need to be patient and remorseful on this one.

A good friend is not eazy to comeby, treasure them before the are truly gone.

Good luck
*smile*

[mxiii]

give him time! and then show that your sorry. keep trying to reach him =D

[Short Circuit]

We have had a very long serious talk, (2 1/2 hours long), and after lots of tears, (both), and few man hugs, we are now friends again.

I told him I was very sorry for hitting him, and that was the first time ever that I had hit someone, and hopes it never happens again. I also told him that I love him like a brother, and that is as far as I am prepared to take our friendship.

He said he would not talk to me on Sunday, as he was too ashamed and embarrased by what he said to me. I told him it was OK, but I am only interested in girls, and if at a later date that changes, he will be the first to know.

I hope this has taught us both a lesson, think before you act!

[Koffing]

I'm happy to hear that everything is OK between you two and that you are still friends :D

[mxiii]

see... time changes everything. try not to lash a fist next time. just tell you that you dislike what his doing.