Nightmares,HELP!

[Jimmy Page]

Ok,some of you might know that I have dealt with loosing someone important to me in the past(http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=108540),while I was depressed I started having nightmares(i have never had dreams in my life until now)
Then I got a new bf and thought I was out of the worst and the nightmares went away,until my former best friend(we were still very close but not so much as before) died in a car accident,then my aunt got a divorce,and on the same day my bf broke up with me because he had found someone else.One week after a very good friend of me shot himself while drunk.Then the nightmares came back(,same nightmare but longer and with all these things except for the divorce in them.
I have for some time now managed to deal with it and managed to keep the nightmares away.
But two days ago they came back,this time including another "scene".

I will describe the nightmare:
It starts with me being in the woods,I am not myself(it is like in HP when Harry is the snake that attack Ron's dad),i walk up to a tree and find my Erik(from the post) lying there with his wrists slashed.I pick him up and yell "I have found him,he is not breathing",then it changes to a road.
I'm standing next to the road,suddenly I see my friend running(i can see he is high as hell) out on the road,a car comes down the road,it cant see him,I yell to him but he cant hear my,the car hit him and the "scene" change again
Now im standing in my Daniel(my second bf,he cheated on me) bedroom,i look at the bed and see my Daniel making out with someone i don't know,i stand there yelling at him and crying,but he just look at me and says "Ur a ugly stupid emo,go cut urself and leave us alone"Then it change again
I'm in a bar,my friend is standing on stage playing(hes a musician) and drinking during tuning of the instruments,i can see he is getting very drunk Then in the middle of "Tweeter and the monkey man" he pulls out a gun and shoot himself in the head.I stand up and run to him,he dies in my arms.
Change,
I'm in a house,never seen it before,for some reason I know exactly what room to go into,I open the door and look around,it reminds me alot of my own room with a few changes,i notice someone laying in the bed,I walk up to the bed and notice a pond of blood next to the bed,I pull away the sheet,and see that its a friend of mine(don't wanna use his name) lying there,his wrists are slashed and he is pale,I start screaming and lay down and cry
Then i wake up and find myself crying in fetal position.
When I have these dreams I usually go without sleep for weeks,either because the nightmare steals my sleep or because im afraid what i will do if i get desperate.
I really need some advice on how to get the nightmares to go away.
Sorry for the long post,and thank you for reading it.

[Kaius]

I'm really sorry for your losses Ian, I've been through something similar of losing a lot of close people and I know its not at all pleasant or easy to go through. So if you need to talk at all you can contact me at any time.

The nightmares are most probably stress induced, after all its only been 2 months and that really isn't long enough to get over something like this. Have you been offered any counselling at all for it?

I have nightmares like this a lot as well as flashbacks, dissociation's and hallucinations, however thats due to PTSD which i developed after witnesses a close friends death. It might be a good idea you go and see someone about these nightmares, because it might not actually go away on its on.

But first you need to relax yourself before you can try and stop them yourself. Do an activity you enjoy, watch a movie, play a game, spend some time with family. Take a warm shower or bath just before you go to bed and try and sleep at an early time. I find this helps cease the nightmares. Hopefully for you it may cease them permanently but considering the nightmares are based on the last few months events you might need to see someone along the lines of a counselor for some help.

[districtnowhere]

first erik was depressed which means you couldn't do much you were there as much as you could. second pot is a choice not a must so it was his own fault. and third you are who you are you can't be neither a bad or a great bf so stop killing yourself with that you're making them nightmares happen because you feel guilty. but you shouldn't because you didn't do anything..

[Jimmy Page]

I went to a psychologist(we dont have counselers) for it,she told me i showed signs of borderline personality disorder,but she is not good at her job(she didn't see my friends bipolar,but me and a couple of friends did and took her to another psychologist,he diagnosed her pretty quick and was shocked that the other shrink hadn't noticed after 4 months of weekly meets),and in addition to that she have diagnosed ALOT of people wrong,so i don't trust her.And the nightmares have been going on for 9 months not 2.

[Kaius]

Ah, sorry I saw the date of the other thread. Well 9 months is still pushing it a little bit, is there no one else you could consider going to see about it?

[Jimmy Page]

not here,i would have to travel into town if im going to get help from someone else,and that would cost ALOT,and i really don't want my mom to know,she is not be able to handle anymore bad things happening.

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

I'm so sorry to hear about what you have been through, no one should have to go through all of that. I am not surprised to hear about the nightmares if you have not had good help. After a tough incidence in my past, which I wont go into, I had awful nightmares, I woke up crying my eyes out with my fingers bleeding from me biting and scratching them deeply in my sleep. I didn't go to a doctor because I was always scared of doctors. Eventually the dreams did stop, but I still struggle going to sleep just in case they come back.
The biggest peice of advice I can give you is to get help. I know that it may seem dauting and I can understand you not wanting your mom to know in detail, but you could just say that you're having trouble staying asleep and asking if you can go see a doctor to get some pills prescribed. If you just say to a doctor that you wake up because of weird dreams then he may be able to precribe you something that will give you a dreamless sleep. It wont help your heartbreak but things are always easier to put into perspective if you have had some rest. And maybe if your mom copes OK with that, you may feel more comfortable in telling her the truth. If you spend time searching, some therapists are not as dear as you think, and even just a couple of sessions will help

Sorry for going on a bit, but truly my heart just broke for you after reading this. Please feel free to send me a comment on here if you need to talk and I will give you my email address and you can talk to me. Years of various types of therapy has made me pretty good at being an impromptue therapist myself

[Jimmy Page]

Ok i should maybe explain why i will not tell my mom,after i came out she broke down of the shock,she accepted it but was so shocked.She was so shocked threatened to shoot herself,this is months ago but it still stuck with me,i go to her for help or if i want to tell something,but if i know it will shock her im deathly afraid of telling her.