Stupid things people say to people with eating disorders

[BrokenButterflies]

My friend (who has bulimia) told me the first two: her and her father were going out to eat, and she was wearing a new dress. She asked him if it looked good, and her father said, "You look beautiful. You achieved what you wanted to, you can stop making yourself throw up now."
The next day, her and her mother were grocery shopping. Her mom said, "I don't know why I bother buying healthy foods. Your just going to throw it up after." She was trying to be funny.

And then I read online, a doctor said to her patient, "you know I've never seen anyone your age (27) with anorexia... whats the matter? Didn't you get asked to the prom?"

Wow.

What's the stupidest thing you've ever heard someone say to a person with an ED?

[Lethe]

Someone said something similar to me. An adult asked me if I never went to prom because I was so chunky (fat). It works both ways; both anorexic and fat people (such as myself).

[Fiction]

I think the stupidest one would have to be being told to 'just eat'. It's not that easy sometimes...

[unknownuser]

We were doing this review Jeopardy game thing for PE and I was put on the spot and got the question, "How many calories in a pound?", without hesitation, I answered, "3500" so I go back and sit down and the guy next to me nudges me and goes, "Well, that's something only an anorexic person knows" and chuckles a bit (he had no idea about my problem, but I was very thin at that time).

I've also gotten "why can't you just eat" sooo many times.

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

I think it depends on the person and how you are feeling at the time. "Just eat more" is one of the most annoying ones. I mean, if it was that simple, everyone would be the perfect weight!

But other hurtful ones I've had has ranged from being in a resteraunt and having a waiter say "Is that all you want? You really ought to eat a bit more" (I mean, is it really your business! I didn't give him a tip) to being trying on clothes and asking the assistant for the next size down and them saying "We don't have any smaller, try the childrens section" I was freaking older than her!

[stories]

1. I was seeing some of my family back in August and my older brother was putting food on a plate to heat up for me. My dad told him, "No, that's way too much for her to eat." Neither of them know of my issues with food. I just felt like he was criticizing me for it and that he didn't want me to get any "bigger" by eating too much.
2. I was at a restaurant for my older sister's birthday and was about done with my small meal. Her boyfriend got the same appetizer I had, though I used mine as my meal, and asked if I would eat what was left of his. He told me, "Here, can you finish this? You can eat this right?" He was more or less saying, "Well you didn't eat that much anyway so you could eat more." Neither him or my older sister know of my eating issues either.

Both of those just bugged me.

Also, a friend of mine has no idea of my issues and made a joke yesterday. One of my younger brothers, her, and I were at an event and we were waiting in line for ice cream. Until the comment was made, I was almost thinking of getting some. But my other two brothers (not older brother) and I sometimes makes jokes on when the world will end or hell will freeze over. Mine is when I start drinking alcohol and one of my brother's is when he gets a tattoo. Both of those things are probably never going to happen. But our friend said that the world would end when she became anorexic. She laughed about it, saying how she loved her food. I just felt bad after that.

Oh, another one. One of my younger brothers told me that I if I didn't want to go work out I just shouldn't. He doesn't know that it doesn't matter if I want to do it or not, it is that I (feel) I have to. He is not taking this as seriously as he should. He made a comment to me the other day about a girl in his class who doctors thought was anorexic but she is just "naturally skinny". I don't know why he felt the need to tell me this story but he did. And he knows I am struggling with this too. It's not that great to tell me someone who is naturally skinny seems to have the problem, but doesn't, and someone like me who is not that small has nothing "too bad", as he said. I think he is not looking past the stereotypes yet.

[bambino]

this is going to sound really weird but

"youre naturally thin"
"you eat loads and just never put on weight!"

maybe some people would love to hear that. But I'm like..you have no idea the things I do or eat. As far as im concerned, 'naturally skinny' is a myth. Ive been told that all my life but they dont know that im barely eating anything or that im always tired and have stomach problems. It just frustrates me i want to scream No someone please help me with this because this is not right. Cry for help i guess.

"your face is filling out"
"you're filling out now you're a little woman"
"I like you bigger, its a cute belly" AHHH a pot belly !

[stories]

(Sorry about the double post. I didn't think of editing it into one).

Recently one of my younger brothers told me... "You know, calories don't matter right. It's not that big of a deal." and "It's just food." (similar to the "just eat" comments").

At the time he didn't understand this at all. He knows of my ED and is learning more about it.

And I usually always feel bad after eating any sort of junk food. I just do. A friend of mine, if I complain after I eat something will tell me "Stop complaining. It doesn't affect you anyway". Apparently she thinks I can eat whatever "junk" I want won't do anything to me so I shouldn't complain. She doesn't know of my issues with food at all...

[Fiction]

This happened last night.

My mum threatened to take my scales away. My dad said not to do that cause "i'll go too far the other way". I'm not sure exactly what he meant... but it sounds a hell of a lot like he thinks i'll go overweight if I can't control my weight. lol.

[Bath]

"Just eat" is probably the biggest one. Yeah. Ok. That will totally solve everything, thank you for that flawless piece of advice.

Oh, and "But you're not skinny enough to have an eating disorder." Please run away before I hit you.

[Faithfull]

Urg i told a friend about it and she actually said ''I'd love to do that but the vomit'd get stuck in your nails...'' I've had loads but nothing seems to be comming to me right now...

[BrokenButterflies]

Urg i told a friend about it and she actually said ''I'd love to do that but the vomit'd get stuck in your nails...'' I've had loads but nothing seems to be comming to me right now...

wow...

[ShadowGirl]

My friend always threatens to make me see a counselor if I don't eat, which is so annoying. She also is constantly making comments about how it's a disease and a mental thing and that I'm too messed up to return to normal without help. She makes me feel like a freak.

[Aubrie]

I don't think I really have an ED. If I do, it's EDNOS, and it's very early. Idk.

But I overheard some girls talking. One of them made cookies. Someone asked if she was going to share them with Kass. She said, "No, I don't want to share my cookies with Kass. She'll just puke them all up!"

My mom tells me I'm going to get fat if I keep eating Hershey pies. I've completely stopped eating them. I'm terrified of them now. Besides, I don't deserve "good" foods anyway.

[Jmihas]

Eh. My best friend has ED or Anorexia so I always say this to him "If you don't want fod, that's not okay because you will get sick".

[Magenta]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: