Parents Freak Out About Drinking

[ParaMagnetic]

OK, here's the story. My mum HATES anything to do with alcohol. I'm pretty sure this stems from my dad, who used to drink, come home late and drunk etc. (he wasn't an abusive or violent drunk though, I mean, he wasn't like the stereotypical drunk dad who beats his kids kind of guy). My mum eventually divorced him, and now I live with my mum and stepdad.

My stepdad isn't like my mum at all; he understands that I will try alcohol, smoking and so on at some point and is more concerned about making sure that I do it safely. My mum, on the other hand, will just get angry and storm off if she so much as sees people drinking socially at a party or a bar.

I'm 15 years old now, and I'll accept that I probably don't hang around with a particularly 'good' crowd. We (me and my friends) occasionally go to a house party or something where we end up surrounded by alcohol. My friends will usually end up either vomiting and falling asleep from the booze, or being chased by police out of the premises on their bikes/motorbikes (yes, they drink and ride). I, on the other hand, am so scared of what my mum will do to me that I don't even drink to be sociable, I steer clear of it almost completely, although there have been occasions where I have a few shots or something. I am also more sensible than my friends in general, with me being the one who stops them choking on their own vomit and stuff like that.

Anyway, my point is, I want to know how I can either convince my mum to calm down a little bit, or at least just come to a compromise and let me drink a little on occasion.

PS Please don't preach to me about the dangers of alcohol, tobacco, marijuana etc.! I understand the risks. I have made my decisions and I stand by them. I also know that 15 is under the minimum legal drinking/smoking age.

Thanks in advance!

[Nathaniel]

Can you blame her? You're 15, so it is developmentally harmful to be drinking, your family seems to have a history of alcohol abuse, and you have friends that get shitfaced and run away from the cops. I don't see how anyone, let alone your mother, would condone that sort of activity. I understand that you're 15 and you're trying to establish yourself or whatever, but be thankful that you have a mother that actually gives a shit.

My advice- thank your mother for being a hardass and probably saving you from ending up in jail with your degenerate friends. (yeah, getting smashed, puking, and riding away on a bicycle is pretty degenerate)

[scuba steve]

If your mother actually gets angry by the idea of alcohol in general by "get angry and storm off if she so much as sees people drinking socially at a party or a bar."

Then to me I would say that she's taking it a bit too far and should realise that the majority of people drink including you.

Although at 15 it isn't a good idea to binge drink as said before it will harm your own development, but there's nothing wrong with having a beer or something every once in a while.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

Be thankful you're mom cares about you. A lot of parents in the world don't give a crap about their child.

...but I know what you mean. I always tell my friends and parents I'm never going to drink, but I want to try it. Not enough to get drunk though, just a few sips.

..plus, I think I could so win those shot competitions. XD Wouldn't hurt to try it at least.

you could always wait until your legal though. By then, your mom can't do anything to you except be angry...