Never been in a relationship

[Megson]

I've never really had a boyfriend or girlfriend before. No one has ever asked me out. I've never kissed anyone before, never been on a date, hell, I've never even held hands with someone.

I'm sixteen. I feel kind of like I'm different. Out of the ordinary. I know kids younger than me who've had sex before and here I am, a girl who has never so much as held HANDS with someone else. (not that I want to have sex now, honestly I plan to wait til at least after high school)

It's part of the reason why my self-esteem is so terrible. Am I unlikable? Am I ugly? Too fat? Weird? What's so wrong with me that no one wants to be with me in that way?

[Azunite]

Hello Meg.

Well I've also never had a girlfriend before. No one has ever asked me out, I've never kissed someone before. It's awkward, true. But there are lot of people around like you, like me. Hell, I know a man who never had a girlfriend and he is 19. Don't make it a big problem, your time will eventually come.

[MissDisney_x]

I'm 17 & the same :(
Makes you feel horrible like your ugly or somethin :(

[Angel Androgynous]

Aw don't worry about it. You're still young... you have more things ahead of you and you should be worrying more about education than a boyfriend. ^_^ Trust me, I've been in a few meaningless relationships... and it's not worth one's time.

[Megson]

I'm 17 & the same :(
Makes you feel horrible like your ugly or somethin :(

Exactly how I feel about it.


Aw don't worry about it. You're still young... you have more things ahead of you and you should be worrying more about education than a boyfriend. ^_^ Trust me, I've been in a few meaningless relationships... and it's not worth one's time.

I do mostly focus on school. It's just, it might be nice to actually try a relationship out. I'm not going to have any experiece for future relationships (if there are any...) and it feels like everyone else has had a boy/girlfriend, has kissed someone before, and sometimes even had sex. (which I'm NOT interested in, just adding it in)
Why can't someone love me? Or AT LEAST find me attractive....

[Angel Androgynous]

I do mostly focus on school. It's just, it might be nice to actually try a relationship out. I'm not going to have any experiece for future relationships (if there are any...) and it feels like everyone else has had a boy/girlfriend, has kissed someone before, and sometimes even had sex. (which I'm NOT interested in, just adding it in)
Why can't someone love me? Or AT LEAST find me attractive....

Think about this for a second... do you want this because everyone else is doing it? If so, why follow the crowd? Why be one of those girls with a new boyfriend every week? Why be one of those girls whom everyone likes for her tits and not for her intellect and personality? And how do you know that guys don't find you attractive? Maybe they are shy and are looking from afar...
Of course it's nice to experience a relationship.....only if it's meaningful, not rushed, and lasts longer than a month.

Oh and I am not implying that all middle/high school relationships are like that.... but let's be honest here....it's hormones gone wild. :P

[AmusedDJ]

oh my god that was freaking hilarious @ comment 1 and same here but im 14 but still yeah it does impact my self esteem sometimes

[bambino]

I didn't have my first boyfriend til I was 16. You know its different for everyone.
Angel_adrogynous is 100% right, there are plenty of meaningless 'relationships' flying around high school. Its a good idea to wait for someone you actually have feelings for.

Trust me, if you rush in and are physical with someone you dont have feelings for- it will haunt you. Anyway kiss is a sign of affection and love. You dont want to be dishing it out to anyone ha!
If anything I think guys will be really happy you haven't been with a whole bunch of people and have waited for someone worth your time.
I know thats how I'd feel if I met a guy who hadn't slept with like 10 girls and had 100s of girlfriends- I'd think that he had integrity.
Best of luck chica

[Matt Matoran]

Yea I've felt like this too before. If you stop thinking that there is something wrong with you and that you are awesome, and project that awesomeness to everyone else, then more people will like you.

And yea, there are a lot of people who are like you, so don't feel like you are "on the outside".

[mxiii]

you are not alone. though, I've never really produce feelings for anyone else =X i duno if I'm having problems or what but I just couldn't like someone else. male or female

[Jess]

Neither have I. You aren't the only one.

[Resistance]

Don't worry about that, you still have a life to have relationships. I had a few relationshipd before i was 16 and honestly, the only thing that they gave to me was troubles in school and with my best friends. when i realized that i shouldn't worry about boyfriends yet was when i really found someone who likes me in a sincere way... So my advice for you is that you stop thinking on that and live your life, have fun and the person that will make you happy will apear :D

[Cybercode]

I've never been in a real relationship either. The ones I did have they were just using me to get other people jealous and it would always end up with my butt getting kicked. After that, all the girls where I live hate me and I can't get a decent girlfriend.

So I've finally realized through all this mess that relationships are seriously over rated. Especially at our age (I'm 16 as well). I've decided to focus more on school and extra curricular activities than relationships.

And from what I seen with other people's relationships, some guys can be some major a-holes. A guy who disrespects and abuses any girl doesn't deserve any relationship. If I had a GF, I would NEVER do anything to harm or hurt them.

And I just checked your pic, and you are not ugly at all.

But I know you'll find the one soon. You have a whole life ahead of you.

[abdheuuuchjc]

Hell I can't even talk to a girl for more than twenty minutes

[mxiii]

hey! your not the only one. i've never liked , dated , etc etc etc with anyone before. i dun know why. =((

[blackmaggie35]

don't worry about it. You're still young

[Dack]

Im not tryingto sound mean if anything comes off like that, so excuse me if I offend you;

Highschool relationships are pointless. They are a waste of your time and either way someone will end up getting hurt. I had an experience over the summer, not a girlfriend per-se, but a relationship with someone like I'd never had before. Take it from me, probably the most cynical mo-fo on the outside, it's hard to get someone to find you attractive, but when you do find them, you can truly be open with them, and it doesn't take work. You just have to be open to Ty new things, hell, I lost my best friend for a girl and if I hadn't, I'd not have met my current girlfriend. Try things, even if they're stupid, you'll be surprised as to what can happen.

[Jean Poutine]

I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend.

You could say that

*puts on sunglasses*

I only get better with age.

YEAAAAAAAAHHHH

[Magenta]

I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend.

You could say that

*puts on sunglasses*

I only get better with age.

YEAAAAAAAAHHHH

Oh god, a Horatio Caine reference...


I'm 16 and have never had a serious relationship with anyone. It takes time and teenagers are fickle and things don't tend to last anyway. It's okay and you'll find someone when you're ready. Sometimes we think we're ready but we're not and rushing into things doesn't help. You'll know when you are and it'll likely work out better than most thirteen year old 'relationships'.

[ImCoolBeans]

Life's ahead of you. High school is far from how the real world operates. Cliques are not as prominent outside of high school life, and it's a clean slate to start your life with.

[tylerd001]

What i can say is that maybe the guys in your school, town, city, or county may not be interested in you. I am 17 and i am single but what i can say is that there are guys in other counties and states that you can get to know. I would love to talk to you more and get to know you more. E-Mail me and we can talk more. My e-mail is [email protected]

[MarkieMark]

I know what you mean I didnt have my first date til about 17 and and still havnt had a proper relationship yet. It will come in time :)