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HAWAiiAN 808
September 6th, 2011, 06:20 AM
Ok, so today is tuesday, and i probably have the biggest dilemma i have ever experienced in my life. So these past 2 weeks, i have been in Las vegas for a family reunion. I have been meeting about 100+ people i have never met before, and about another 60 people i havent seen in about 5 years. Last thursday, i met an aunty and uncle who i never met before, but also met their 16 year old daughter. The same day we met, me and her kind of just clicked and we were constantly texting each other that same day we met to see what we were doing and maybe if either of us just wanted to walk around las vegas and hang out. So from thursday to sunday, we have been basically hanging out almost all day and we have really felt comfortable around each other. So on sunday afternoon, i took her shopping at a big mall place in the middle of las vegas. But during that time, a lot of people were there at the same time so i made sure she was okay and she made sure she didnt lose sight of me. So about halfway through the mall, she gently interlocked her fingers with mine and we kind of just looked at each other, smiled, and continued to walk because a lot of people were walking in between us and she wanted to make sure i didnt walk without her. After a few hours at the mall, we sat down at a bench and just talked about how mine and her families are related. As we were talking, that is when i found out me and her are cousins but are only related to each other by marriage and not by bloold. So that same night, all of our families went to a place called "freemont street experience" in which it shows a big light show and has a lot of street performers which do cool stuff. That whole night, we kind of ditched everyone and me and her just walked around and had a good time looking at all the street performers. But during the main light show, i was looking around and as i quickly glanced over at her, we both looked at each other, and in a split second, it felt like everything stood still for a few seconds and it was just me and her by ourselves, and in that split second, we both kissed each other. And this may sound corny to some people, but when me and her were hanging out with nobody else, we kind of felt like we could tell each other anything and even if i said some things about my past that isnt good, she didnt care because she knew how i really felt and thats all she cared about for me. After we kissed, i got a taxi for me and her and we both went back to the hotel all of us were staying at while everyone was still at the light show. From about 11pm that night to 6am on monday, we stayed at the pool all night just hanging out with each other and talking. At about 6:30am, we were getting ready to leave because some people were coming into the pool. As i was grabbing her phone and my wallet, she tripped over a chair and she fell to the ground. As i went to help her, i noticed she was crying and her right leg had some scratches. As i went to help her, she kind of pushed me away and tried to avoid eye contact. After about 20 seconds, i finally picked her up and put her on a long tanning chair and then went to grab a first aid kit by the front gate of the pool. As i was trying to clean her cuts, she was still crying a lot and i asked her if she was crying because her leg was sore. She said that she wasnt crying because of her leg. I asked her why she was crying, and in that moment, she completely broke down and hugged me as hard as she can as if she wanted me to protect her. She then said that she thought that if i seen her fall and get scratches on her leg, she thought i would think i wouldnt like her because she is a girl with faults or she is not good enough for me. After she said that, i just looked at her and told her that i would never let anyone hurt her or make her cry because seeing her cry really made me sad knowing that she is going through pain that i cant help her. After i got her back to her hotel room and told her parents that she tripped over the chair but i cleaned it and fixed it up, they thanked me and i walked back to my hotel room. As i was walking back to my room, she texted me saying that she had genuine feelings for me because she said that when she broke down in front of me, she realized that she dropped all of her guards on her emotions and she felt like even though many guys would try to take advantage of the situation and try to hook up with her, all i wanted to do was make sure is that she was okay and all my attention was on her and nobody else. After reading that, all i could do yesterday was to make sure she was taken care of and make sure she was comfortable even though i could have completely ignored her and went out and walked around with my cousins in las vegas all day. Then when everyone went to eat yesterday night, i told her mom and dad that i was gonna take her to a small restaurant and just make sure she is not walking around a lot because her leg is still sore. After everyone went to the main hotel place to eat, i took her to a nice, quiet restaurant and made sure she was okay. Now this may sound gay or whatever to some guys here, but during that time, looking at her and just seeing that she was so happy that i was taking out my own time from my vacation during the family reunion to make sure she was properly cared for was making my heart melt and all i wanted to do was make sure she was never hurt ever again or else i would feel like it was my fault.

So now here is the main dilemma i have. If you read the whole story, you could tell that me and her already have feelings for each other. But one thing i wanted to ask people here is that do you think it is weird if a boy and girl go out with each other even though they are cousins? Me and her have no problem with it because our connection is so strong, but one of my cousin's said it is kind of like taboo to date someone who is your cousin. But we are only related by marriage, not blood so it doesnt seem like it is wrong in any way. I just need opinions on this because i seriously want to ask her out, but i just want to know if going out with your cousin is either illegal or weird.

mxiii
September 6th, 2011, 09:30 AM
dude, IMHO, you shouldn't ask her out. my 2cent.
family is family.whether through marriage or blood.
it would be kinda wrong and be considered incest.
and chill. take a moment to think.
judging by the long post, your extremely panic-ky.
are you sure its really u wanting to have chemistry with her or is it your hormones.
oni time can tell. give you n her sometime .=D cheers

HAWAiiAN 808
September 6th, 2011, 02:44 PM
thanks for your advice man. And yeah, that is why i needed to figure everything out because even though she is a cousin only by marriage, to me, a cousin is a cousin and it will always be like that. But at the same time, she is only related by marriage and we basically have no blood-ties with each other. And one of my cousin's went out with another one of my cousin's which were related by marriage and nobody cared because they both liked each other. And trust me, i have been in many relationships so i am completely fine and not panicky at all. And its not i want to have chemistry with her, but its more of the chemistry i already have with her. I am 17, but i can control my hormones when it comes to girls so i am not trying to hook up with girls wherever i go. But she told me that when me and her just hang out and talk when nobody is around us, everything feels right and we can just tell each other everything without the other person judging. And to me, i have never experienced anything like before.

mxiii
September 7th, 2011, 01:54 AM
maybe its d family bond thing? where u can share just about anything with a family member. still its too early to judge. giv it time, see how it progree =D