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[audiophile5]

What do you think your parents would say or do if they would discover your sexuality?

[Neptune]

I think they would not accept it, very christian people. I don't think they would kick me out, or, hit me or anything. They just wouldn't count me as a good son and call me a sinner or something and I would not get any support after I turn 18, and, for that matter any moral support after I tell them. So, I shall not tell them. Cause I'm only 13, and, my feelings may change. Hopefully. Probably not, though.

[audiophile5]

I think they would not accept it, very christian people. I don't think they would kick me out, or, hit me or anything. They just wouldn't count me as a good son and call me a sinner or something and I would not get any support after I turn 18, and, for that matter any moral support after I tell them. So, I shall not tell them. Cause I'm only 13, and, my feelings may change. Hopefully. Probably not, though.

My parents would do the same. And when I was 13 i hoped for a change of feelings but now I know I won't get it so..

[Neptune]

My parents would do the same. And when I was 13 i hoped for a change of feelings but now I know I won't get it so..


Goodluck telling them, when you choose to do so. :)

[audiophile5]

Goodluck telling them, when you choose to do so. :)

I don't think i am going to... At least for the next 30 years lol

[Jon Doe 401]

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[kuuliluuk]

I think they get very worried and unhappy.

[Electra Heart]

No idea... maybe bad but I know my grandparents wouldn't be too happy about it

[Sebastian Michaelis]

Oh god my family is crazy. My immediate family wouldn't mind except for my dad maybe.
My aunts family is very christian, but they don't force anything. My grandparents are crazy, but traditional so maybe good or bad there. Ha and my uncles family would make fun of me for the rest of my life.

[sebastian12]

my parents will kill me what bout urs

[sebastian12]

Goodluck telling them, when you choose to do so. :)

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[Willie98]

They would figure they had done something wrong in raising me. They are real insecure about parenting. I don't want to do that to them. If only they believed more in nature and less in nurture, I would want to tell them. It's not something I choose to feel. It just IS. My BF is around a lot, but being young they don't consider us being close to be unusual. Actually, it isn't. We are just good friends who love to play sex games. Yippee. :yeah:

[Jimmy Page]

I "came out"(they found out) a couple of months ago.they were shocked and told me things that hurt alot the first days.but after that my mom got used to the thought and said she was fine with it.maybe too fine,u guys seen the ugly betty episode where they have a comming out party?thats how my mom is now XD

[TheDoctor]

to be honest my parents would be cool with it. I've actually been meaning to tell them for a while but as most of you can guess its not such an easy conversation to bring up... anyway ya I have to just say that my suport goes out to you man, and everyone else who has difficult parents and difficult circumstances. :)

[Nicky97]

They would be more concerned with grandchildren that with my lifestyle.

[Short Circuit]

Isn't a parents love meant to be unconditional?

[zackboy]

My parents would not like it but I don't tell them.

[Elmo101]

My moms set with whatever... It's my dad that would take all the talking too.... :/

[short boy big]

yea my parents wouldn't be very accepting

[Fourth Dimension]

my mom would not be thrilled but she would get over it really fast like 10 mins after i told her she would be fine
my dad would have me put into a mental hospital he thinks its all a mental illness

[Joe1996]

I told my mum, she accepted it and she hasn't treated me any differently since I told her.
She thinks it's just a teenage phase or something. My dad doesn't know, I don't think he'd react too well, not badly. I just don't want him knowing..

Obviously, it depends on the family, they might react really horribly or nicely, or anywhere between.

Good luck :)

[Young Wolf]

You are a very sensible guy Willie 98 and I agree with your comments. You are sensible beyond your age

[Victor]

My mum wouldnt accept it, she's strongly christian, got depression, and is bi-polar...so thats a no...

My dad i might tell....but if he found out, he would hate keeping something like this from my mother...so maybe not....

And idk why the heck my parents couldnt figure it out already, i love the fashion industry, make up makes me happy, most of my friends are females, its like Are thier heads hollow? Maybe its just they know, but they arent willing to accept it..

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

Mine would be alright about it

[Abigballofdust]

I think they already suppose that. I mean, I'm 18, nearly 19, never had a gf, never had a girl crush, never talk about girls nor do I turn my head around them on the street. I think they know because I got my mother telling me they wouldn't accept me bringing home a boyfriend because those are sick people and it's not natural. Felt like giving her a hi five, in the face, with a chair.

[blackpo]

My immediate family already knows I'm bi and honestly they got over it in like 20 minutes

[HunterXZ]

My parents being very Christian would do a variety of things, like maybe kick me out, take me to get therapy maybe, probably try and cure me, but most likely, if I told them and they intended to do those things, I would've just moved out myself. I still have 2 more years till I'm done with high school, and I can leave them.

[TheUnknown]

If they love you, they will accept you for who you are.
I am straight, but would like to try everything else. LOOOOL.
When they get angry, maybe try to explain in a CALMLY manner, and they might understand. there is a chance. Love conquers all, even sexuality.

Dont stress yourself, be happy. And if your'e gay, then you are.

I respect gays that are casual, formal and civil, and not those bitchy ones who dresses and put on heavy make up and act slutty and bitchy.

I know that gays are people too, and they should be respected, but if they want respect, they must respect theirselves :D GOOD GAYS not BAD. :>

[Dyl4n]

If my parents found out I was bi, they'd be pissed, but I think they would cool down after awhile since they know I still have a potential of ending up with a girl.

[TheUnknown]

and If youre GAY and they cant accept it, then PROVE YOURSELF that YOU CAN be GAY and USEFUL at the same time :D

[logan fields]

parents love is unconditional as long as you follow their rules and meet their expectations and trust me mine would never ever accept me being gay, not their son.
I wish things were different but I know there not

[Castxx]

Both my parents know that im bi...like most others my mom had no problem accepting it but it took my dad a while, but now hes completely fine with it :D

[Abigballofdust]

They told me they wouldn't be accepting a gay son, even though I never came out to them.
I'mma just wait 'till they depend on me and tell them then. Laugh at the hypocrisy and show them how intolerant a son with homophobic parents can be.
This should go in the sexuality thread btw.

[districtnowhere]

i alredy had a close call with my parents finding out so yeah it wouldn't be preety. i'm not sure that i'll tell them anytime soon. but i did tell my sisiter and she was accepting beyond belief so that made me happy that at least someone from my family accepts me for who i am. my dad threatened to kill himself if i were gay... -.-

[MisterSix]

Mine said and did nothing

[Spike7]

I think my parents will go crazy so I wait until I move out

[NHSoccerjock]

they wouldnt mind.. i mean obv they would be disappointed but they wouldnt care all that much.. they would support me. i just havnt come out to them cuz one i like keeping my little secret, and two - i dont know how to approach it. for me, thankfully, my parents arent a problem in that area

[TacoRocco]

They already know, and they are okay with it.

[dkp123]

i don't think my parents would be too bothered

[Hajara22]

my mother was pretty accepting... i dont doubt she thinks about it much. but my dad still dont know. though i dont talk to him much. lol. it is a weight off your chest when you tell them. you no longer have to hide. its not a choice you are attracted to who you are attracted to.

[Antagonist]

My family accepts it (well atleast the family i live with)

[Can'tHelpIt]

Mt parents would be accepting but family is VERY christian and would probably hate me also with the fact im an atheist my family would shun me but my parents and siblings are accepting

[Thomas01]

Idk how they would react. I guess my dad would react calmer, but my mom worse. They usually say, " we will accept you no matter what" but I am not too sure if that is true. My far family is very religious so my grandparents would be on my case sooo much. My aunts are Americanized and accepting so I told one of them already. They are okay with it, they just tell me I should tell my parents. Also I act like really gay so I think they sort of know. Lol. Either way most likely I will tell them when I meet the right guy or at least before the wedding

Gay and out to everyone but family

[mrmooers]

My stepmom i dont think would care but i think my dad would be dissapointed

[nameless12]

i know my dad would accept me as well as my sister... but i really don't want to tell anyone of my family that im bi right now, i want to tell them later on :/

[Mysterious Skin]

I'm pretty sure they would be find with it.my mum would be concerned that I'm not gvng her grandchildren more.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

my mum would be fine but my dad and cousins and rest of my family wouldn't be which is why it is hard for me to come out cuz i know my cousins would make my life proper hard.

[CestDan]

It's a complicated situation. All depends on the communication and trust that you and your parents have. In my case, at the beginning they didn't accept it (I'm bi). They told me that I was confused and all that stuff. However, my mom started realizing that I'm in that way and she finally accepted me; on the other hand, my father is still refusing that idea and, well, I'm dealing with it.

[Vian]

What do you think your parents would say or do if they would discover your sexuality?
Hi, My name is Viensy. I'm 19, and I just logged in this page only to share my version... Well, as for me, I'm absolutely certain my parents would react badly if they figured out that I'm not the such guy who they've proudly believed that I am. My family is mostly scattered. My dad is almost always abroad, and my mom is often busy by her affairs on businesses. She is only at home for lunch, and at night, when it's time to slumber, and I guess it's really for the sake of my little brother, Estuard, who's barely 5; Otherwise, I don't doubt she'd be more happy for remaining out of the house even after dawn. ... I'm in college nearly everyday. The truth is that my family is usually together twice or three times every month, when my father gets back. So it's why they're clueless about my stuff, with exception of the grades I get at college. My parents detest terribly gay people. I noticed it while we were watching TV in the living room, when suddenly two guys were kissing each other in a commercial. Mom said " How disgusting", and then my dad said quietly "abomination". So I fear the first thing they would say if they realized what I---is WHat!!!!? then throw me out home, then they'd let know the whole family, because my family is like this: they spread every single news. Then I'd probably be called the shame, the disappointment, or the error, which would make them detach me of their things--- like nothing to inherit--- utterly deserted.... I know my version has been kind of long, tragic, sad, but what else can I say?. Just I'm scared about my weird feelings and thoughts. Fuck, I never wished to be so. It feels awful to be unable to be what you wanna be... I just wish I could feel like other boys feel toward girls. But.... Luckly, I'm not as those who people can abviously notice they're gay. I exercise my body at gym. I like hanging out with buddies, I do sports, and at times, when I'm bored, somewhat of video games.. You know, tipic from a straight guy. But inside, it's where I have felt bound to hide what I.... . Damn it!

[Coolcar65]

I think my parents would be ok.... Freaked but ok.

[superstarB]

if your like really christian than probably but honestly i dont know , my mom said once i dont really care about sexuality because we are all humans or something like that so if she found out she wouldn't care but i dont know about my dad

[Fruit_Tart.]

They would disown me, especially my dad. Their opinions don't change even though if it's their son. I don't mind, but it'll be different once they know and I might never come back if I get treated differently from them.

My plan is to become a successful person, have kids and a husband, then show them how gay men really live and prove them wrong.

[Fruit_Tart.]

Hi, My name is Viensy. I'm 19, and I just logged in this page only to share my version... Well, as for me, I'm absolutely certain my parents would react badly if they figured out that I'm not the such guy who they've proudly believed that I am. My family is mostly scattered. My dad is almost always abroad, and my mom is often busy by her affairs on businesses. She is only at home for lunch, and at night, when it's time to slumber, and I guess it's really for the sake of my little brother, Estuard, who's barely 5; Otherwise, I don't doubt she'd be more happy for remaining out of the house even after dawn. ... I'm in college nearly everyday. The truth is that my family is usually together twice or three times every month, when my father gets back. So it's why they're clueless about my stuff, with exception of the grades I get at college. My parents detest terribly gay people. I noticed it while we were watching TV in the living room, when suddenly two guys were kissing each other in a commercial. Mom said " How disgusting", and then my dad said quietly "abomination". So I fear the first thing they would say if they realized what I---is WHat!!!!? then throw me out home, then they'd let know the whole family, because my family is like this: they spread every single news. Then I'd probably be called the shame, the disappointment, or the error, which would make them detach me of their things--- like nothing to inherit--- utterly deserted.... I know my version has been kind of long, tragic, sad, but what else can I say?. Just I'm scared about my weird feelings and thoughts. Fuck, I never wished to be so. It feels awful to be unable to be what you wanna be... I just wish I could feel like other boys feel toward girls. But.... Luckly, I'm not as those who people can abviously notice they're gay. I exercise my body at gym. I like hanging out with buddies, I do sports, and at times, when I'm bored, somewhat of video games.. You know, tipic from a straight guy. But inside, it's where I have felt bound to hide what I.... . Damn it!

It'll be fine once you find a boy who loves you like you'd love him.
Even though your parents may disapprove you don't have to hide. Bring out your inner self and let others, if not your parents, know so you don't have to do it alone. You'll be fine I'm sure. :) Be proud of whom you are. :3

[canadaski]

I recognize what everybody here is saying. I thought that my dad would take it badly as I've overheard him "shit-talking" gays when one shows up on tv or something. He took the news pretty well, although I can't speak for everbody's parents.

My mom, I have yet to tell and will probably tell her tomorrow when she gets back from her trip with friends. She's had a few gay friends over the years and usually knocks down my dad's "shit-talking." I have a feeling that she'll be okay with it but I'll have to find out.

I just read a great enalogy about coming out of the closet. Ripping a bandaid off will result in pain for a short while, but afterwards you'll be glad you did it.