Obeying Parents

[Sporadica]

Alright I just watched one of the latest TheAmazingAtheist video about standing up to your parents.

I agree with him when if your an atheist and your parents make you follow their religious type rules then if you don't want to then basically tell them to go F themselves.

he said something about "if you don't stand up for yourself now in 30 years you're gonna end up working a shitty job you don't like, you're gonna let people walk all over you, and you're going to just keep getting bent over and taking it up the ass from the man.

he also said that if they are going to disown you and never speak to you again than he's right when he said that you'd have shitty parents anyways and it's better to form your own path

he said to stand up for yourself now and not to take any BS from anyone



My question is what do you think of that? You think we should conform to our parents until we can support ourselves (ie listen to them until you can movve out at like 25) or leave right away and form your own life path (be it even and aged 16)?

[mxiii]

dude, IMHO you should obey your parents .
but not all you should obey .
you need to tink whether their being reasonable or not . if their not , tell them. you might work something out .
whether u can support yourself or not, u musn't forget that your parents raise u up.
remember who fed you 1am in the morning when u were just a baby.
never forget what and how your parents sacrifice for u =D
just my honest 2cent.
cheers !
oh ya, i'm new at VT. add me up will you =D

[Short Circuit]

Its the parents job to raise a child into adulthood, and that means listening and obeying what they say. You may not agree with what they say and do, but put yourself in thier shoes for just a moment, why are they saying this and that? Is it to keep you safe and out of harms way?

I have a condition that means I have no sense of danger, so it is very important for ME to obey what they say, sometimes I agree, and other times I cannot see the point of it and think they are being petty!

If you think its hard being a teenager, try thinking how hard it is to be a parent!

[Nicky97]

It may not be ideal, but I doubt you will lose much or endanger yourself doing things their way. If you are taking their money (especially at 16-26) then you have an obligation.

[logan fields]

wow i could never say stuff like that to my parents even if i didnt agree with them about stuff. they are your parents and nothing should come before loving your parents but thats just my feelings about that.

[Skyhawk]

Tbh, TheAmazingAthiest talks a load of crap. He's just a famewhore who posts videos with controversial topics, beats it to death, teaches people to over-rebel and it's just not a good idea.

Yes, you should have a right to an opinion, however when you are under 18 in the USA, your parents technically own you as if you were a chair or something. That's a decent thing to consider, though as a minor you do have rights yourself.

I'd advise against refusing to obey, just do what they say (idk about religion) until you're 18, probably until after college as well just you can rebel a bit more.

I consider myself a bit lucky, my mother isn't very religious, so I don't have to deal with the crap. Though in other ways I hate her, I act like I love her (skillz y0) and everything's fine.

Just saying.

[User Deleted]

Some basic things standing up to your parents is okay. (i.e. they are against gayness, you are gay, they need to get over it) But my mom is paranoid and overprotective. I wouldn't stop pushing away a bratty kid. She took my phone away. I got it back early by being bitchy but that was mostly luck. It wasn't worth it.

[Kujiro]

Obedience and respects are virtues, there is this little thing termed filial piety which in our culture is taken so seriously that it ain't funny.

Although I believe in respect, it's always to a certain amount, whilst the rest are earned. Goes the same for everyone, teachers, friends and family.

For those whom have known me alittle, I'm raised by my fostered parents, and they earned that respect from me.
To a certain extend I would agree that we are currently a liability, and the only way we can show a little appreciation would be to obey.

But your matter being religion and believes get very touchy, and it may be tough to put it through to your parents in what do you wish to believe in.

Having constructive conversations does help, do not be pushy, nor demanding.
But not too defensive either, in time they would and should accept.

Do not take such videos too seriously, it's normally an exaggerated perception of things, it's a marketing thing.
Watch it, enjoy it, learn from it, but apply some if applicable.

Good luck
*smile*

[Solvez18]

obeying ur parents is important, unless it's a life and death situation

[Sporadica]

Tbh, TheAmazingAthiest talks a load of crap. He's just a famewhore who posts videos with controversial topics, beats it to death, teaches people to over-rebel and it's just not a good idea.

Yes, you should have a right to an opinion, however when you are under 18 in the USA, your parents technically own you as if you were a chair or something. That's a decent thing to consider, though as a minor you do have rights yourself.

I'd advise against refusing to obey, just do what they say (idk about religion) until you're 18, probably until after college as well just you can rebel a bit more.

I consider myself a bit lucky, my mother isn't very religious, so I don't have to deal with the crap. Though in other ways I hate her, I act like I love her (skillz y0) and everything's fine.

Just saying.

Incorrect, I'm Canadian, therefore I can self govern in terms of living location and I can be emancipated at aged 16.

still can't vote/gamble/smoke/drink/get a line of credit until im 18 but I could live alone

I agree with the amazingatheist in the sense of not becoming an absolute pushover though, our lives start from nothing because of our parents but parents should question their practices like for instance my dad doesn't care about human rights really, he thinks that everyone takes advantage of them like protesting, I told him I would go out and violate curfew law just to protest it, and he thinks it's ok that the government infringe on 6 of our rights to feel safer

[Skyhawk]

I'm pretty sure I mentioned I was talking about USA.

Anyway have it your way, I don't know about Canadian laws.

[Jerald]

It depends on the context of where you are staying. If you are an Asian, most likely is following the traditional Confucianism.