I 'sort of' have friends.

[Megson]

I'm always their secondary friend. Everyone I know just uses me as a back-up plan. If there's NO ONE else around for them to hang out with, they just settle for me.
It kills me. I'm so lonely these days... No one ever wants to talk to me. I have no one to talk to about my cutting, or my depression. No one gives a damn about me.

For example: The person I consider my best friend is having her birthday party today. Guess who wasn't invited? ME.

Example 2: We have a project in History where we can pick a partner. I grouped with one of my really good friends. And guess what she does? She blows me off last minute to partner with someone else. Now I'm working alone.

Sorry for the rant. I just needed to let off some steam. It's better than resorting to cutting, I suppose.

[thecanjump]

Megan, I was in the same situation. It does hurt very much but I was lucky enough to find a good friend to talk to a lot now. I feel as if I only have one friend. It's hard to make new friends I know and this is a time to try. Even if you just find a friend online to talk to it's better than nothing. Hope the best for you, I believe in you =) Be strong Megan.

[DerBear]

Try and make new friends its all you can do if your primary friends dont want to talk to you.

Try joining clubs of intrest always a good start

[Megson]

Megan, I was in the same situation. It does hurt very much but I was lucky enough to find a good friend to talk to a lot now. I feel as if I only have one friend. It's hard to make new friends I know and this is a time to try. Even if you just find a friend online to talk to it's better than nothing. Hope the best for you, I believe in you =) Be strong Megan.

The hardest is dealing with it at school. Like in group projects, when no one asks you to be in their group. I'm always left waiting for the teacher to just dump me on some random group...
A lot of my best friends were online, and we were all pretty close for a few years. Sadly, it didn't last.
I've been trying hard to make new friends this year. I'm joining a bunch of new school clubs with the smallest hope of clicking with someone.

Thank you for your time :) It's kind of comforting to know I'm not the only one who has gone through or is going through this.

[Sporadica]

I know lots of "friends" but none of them I like

the way I am once I really know someone i am their friend but the people who I am aquianted with I barely talk to and I just have them as friends on facebook

I stopped caring about making friends, but if someone talks to me and is interested in me I'm cool with that, i got a couple close friends who talk to me

I've been invited to parties as much as the average kid but I don't like to party so I don't go.

[Coolcat1314]

i feel theEXACT same way. i feel like im friends with everyone but everyone else has a group that they belong with whereas im just the loner or person who doesnt fit in. it gets really depressing when all my friends are around me but none r with me

[Kujiro]

Like silver wolf mentioned, make new ones, ones that hold you dearly and cherish that bonds.

But before that, it's good to do alittle self reflection, it's tough to admit, but at times the problem may not lay in them, but yourself.
While at other times, it could be just them being them and trying to make everyone happy and in the rat race of becoming a popular figure, thus neglecting friends they have already made.

Your best friend may have many other best friends, and her best friends may be the one infulencing her to drift from you.

If you feel really upset about it, you may choose to talk to her, and see if you are able to find solace in the process, but it depends heavily on how she's going to take what you are telling her.

You mentioned group projects, in all honesty, it's more productive to do a group work without the group.
The group may not always be the most efficient way to get projects done, and at times retrogressive in nature.

It comes down to being street smart and having a higher EQ does help in social engineering.
It make be alittle hypocritical, but that's life.

We don't need many friends in life, have just one that truly understands you and you would have considered to have lived well.

Good luck
*smile*

[christcenteredlife]

i've noticed people don't like being around depressing situations. not that you shouldn't tell people, especially your friends, how you're doing, but i believe it should be limited. if you're always wanting to talk about cutting, depression, and the BAD things in life, people aren't going to want to be around you because they desire to be around those who are happier and want to have happy, upbeat conversations opposed to downer convo's.

[Kujiro]

i've noticed people don't like being around depressing situations. not that you shouldn't tell people, especially your friends, how you're doing, but i believe it should be limited. if you're always wanting to talk about cutting, depression, and the BAD things in life, people aren't going to want to be around you because they desire to be around those who are happier and want to have happy, upbeat conversations opposed to downer convo's.

It does depend on individuals, everyone had their up and downs and sharing these should normally limited to close and understanding friends.
But there are times opening up to a complete stranger has it's advantages.

As for me I would not mind helping a friend who's in depression but genuinely in need of help.
That's where we filter those whom are just seeking attention, but as far as it helps the person I'm good to go.

Cheers
*smile*

[kuuliluuk]

Then this friend of yours never wasn't your true friend. Just ignore her and its time to find new friends. True ones.

Did you own anything particular why she wanted to be you friend? And now you don't have it anymore?

[Nicky97]

I tend to avoid people who cut and have major depression issues. Not that they don't have a right to live their life any way they choose to, but I just don't want to have to deal with all that. I look for fun, happy, optimistic people. And that's my right. Am I making a point?

[Megson]

i've noticed people don't like being around depressing situations. not that you shouldn't tell people, especially your friends, how you're doing, but i believe it should be limited. if you're always wanting to talk about cutting, depression, and the BAD things in life, people aren't going to want to be around you because they desire to be around those who are happier and want to have happy, upbeat conversations opposed to downer convo's.

Oh, I don't act depressing in person. I have a few issues right now, but no one knows it except for myself. I don't PLAN on telling anyone, I just wish I had someone I COULD trust enough to talk to about this kind of thing. Not that I ever would, though. It's complicated.

I'm generally a nice person. I'm not all that exciting, but I'm friendly and I act cheerful most days.