Why is my friend acting like this?

[adakr]

Okay, so a lot has happened in the last few weeks. I'll start with telling you about my best friend. I won't use his real name, but let's call him Derek. Well Derek is a bit of a rebelious bad boy. He smokes and steals money from his parent. He never listens to the rules. He hates to talk about himself and his feelings. I'm one of the only ppl in the world who can see past his bad boy image and see a sweet, sensitive kid who closes himself of to ppl cuz he's afraid of getting hurt. I've gotten to know him really well after hanging out almost everyday for the past year.

Derek never stops making me laugh and he has the sexiest body ever. Slim and muscular, almost no body hair, with a huge dick and amazingly round butt. Anyways...we're both 15 and a few months ago I came out to Derek and told him I'm gay. He was so accepting and cool with it! He said he was straight but I started to get a crush on him. I would kiss him on the cheek while wrestling or sqeeze his butt. When I pulled a move like that, he'd punch me arm and one time even punched me really hard in the face.

So a few weeks ago, we were hanging out and Derek told me he was bi. Well...20 minutes later we were '69'ing each other. We've had sex 4 times so far, including then. Tonight was the best because it was the most intimate and we went all the way. We've kissed 3 times before and last week cuddled while watching the sun set.

At night, he is romantic and lets me hold him and kiss him neck. But in the day, he goes back to punching my arm and telling me to F*** off if i tru anything on him. It's like he's straight in the day and bi/gay at night. I told him I'm in love him and he got really awkward about it. He told me he has a crush on this girl named Paige and is going to ask her out in a few days. That broke my heart and I cried every day for a week. I got over it but I still love him. Why is he doing all this? I'm so confused!

[Neptune]

He is trying really hard to deny what is happening. It kinda makes sense about the day and night thing. In the day, he feels regret but at night he just gives up fighting the urge and he goes into the bi/gay mode.

I think in the end, if he ends up getting a girlfriend - you should respect that and give up. Although, a sign here is that your still his friend. If I was him, and, I was fighting to be straight or trying to act like I was straight, I would completely push you away from my life. So that's a good thing.

[adakr]

thanks man. That actually helps a lot. :)

[Short Circuit]

I have seen posts on here, about guys that j/o other guys, then feel guilty about it afterwards. This seems to be what is happening with your friend. He probably cannot accept the fact that he MIGHT be bi or gay, its not your problem, its his

[KillerKing]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
When it's the day and he's being.. 'straight', are you in public? If so it might be he doesn't want people to know and at night it's ok because well... it's dark.

I would also doubt whether he is actually Bi or not, he might be just curious and believe his bi because he had physical feelings towards a guy and now he's even more confused because he has feelings for a girl.

If he does go out with this girl, then just let him be... Let him find out more about himself and who he is. But if not, try confronting him about his sexuality.. preferably in the night if he seems more 'gay/bi' XD

One last thing, I just thought this was really sweet, espeically the sunset thing XD I hope it all goes well for you!

[smartass722]

he probly didnt tell anybody but you so he wouldnt want to be like a couple in public

or

he used you just to see what a 69 was like

[Kujiro]

There are a few possible instances,
It could be, derek was experimenting and after the few sessions, he may want to try experiments with the ladies?

As much as some of us; being in the stage of curiousity, are unsure of our sexuality orientation.
It could be after you coming out to him, gave him a window to experiment and find out more about himself.

Its not wrong to be bisexual, but as you have mentioned derek is nocturnally bisexual, but in the day hes all back to his egoistic and highly selfesteemed state.
Its true that he could be jolly denying what happened, and afraid that you tell on him.
But you cant deny that he did not enjoy what happened, as it carried on for 4 sessions.

On another instance, we cannot deny that he could be using you as a tool for self satisifaction, lets look at it this way, if no lady is gonna blow him, and you will, guess he would choose the next best option would he not.

By doing what he has done, he has been sending you wrong signals and placed you to believe he mutually loves him in return.
Give him time to experiment with the ladies, he may or may not return to you life as it is, but these are things which cannot be forced , and we have to accept that what not being yours would never be yours.

Good luck
*smile*

[prob1996]

I understand what you're going through. My best friend and I known each other for about 5 yrs and we started out just experimenting j/o together and everything else. We just became boyfriends this past summer and had sex for the first time. Neither one of us are out so we kinda live that double life of "just friends" during the day and bfs at nite. He is especially like that in public. He considers himself bi and this became a major issue with us. He has since told me that he would only be with one person at a time and respects our relationship. It is not easy and the whole Dble life thing is extremely frustrating.
It does sound like that he has some issues coming to terms with what the two of u have done together. I only say that based on my own situation. Hope u two can work it out.

[BiBoy5674]

he might just want to stay in the closet he must not be comfortable enough with his sexuality :)

[Syvelocin]

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