confused... :(

[Matt Matoran]

i have this "friend" who basically just talks to me when he wants something from me and has been doing that for a long time. i've known that hes been doing that for some time, but i just didnt know what to say whenever he came to me asking for help and then just left and didnt talk to me again until he needed help again... can anyone help me figure out what to do in this situation?

[AppealToReason]

Hate to say it, but that's not a real friend if he just uses you for his own personal gain.
You don't need people like that in your life.

[Matt Matoran]

yea, thats what i was thinking... i just dont know how to get rid of him since he is always around my other friends (haha who dont use me like that at all and are pretty awesome guys)

[OptimusPrime]

Hate to say it, but that's not a real friend if he just uses you for his own personal gain.
You don't need people like that in your life.
I learnt that. I had a GF once who just in the end wanted money. Luckily I found out she was cheating on me. I only wasted $30.

Stay away from people who only want you for stuff. Before you know it they'll want money and lots of other stuff. They're just users, not friends.

[AppealToReason]

yea, thats what i was thinking... i just dont know how to get rid of him since he is always around my other friends (haha who dont use me like that at all and are pretty awesome guys)

Tell him something along the lines of "Listen dude, the only time you ever seem to talk to me is when you want something from me. I feel like you're using me and don't want to be around you anymore".
Say whatever you do in a calm manner. You'll probably feel a whole lot better once you have him out of your life.

[Kujiro]

Simple it seems to draw away from him yet so tough don't you agree?

Well this is life, there are all kinds of people taking others for granted, I don't normally categeorize friends, but some of them just should not be standing at that level.

You may of course choose to make an issue out of it, the next time he crawls to get aid from you, but these cluster of people don't usually get many friends if they keep up with that.
You mentioned when he needed you, was it anything in particular? Money? Homework ?
Console?

It depends what his approach is before taking the next step, if he's just about money, just say you have none, or you ain't got enough. In sure over time, denial of your resource would result in an apprehension of his advances.

We meet many in our lifetime, but sadly it's true that only a small fraction are worth keeping.

Good luck
*smile*

[cpr97]

i wouldnt say to get rid of him all together but deff think you need to let him know how you feel n see where things go from there maybe he just needs help learnin how to be a friend

[Abyssinian]

There's not much you can do in these situations. Just tell them that you can't help them next time, and that you're sorry, but also try and stay friends with them. If they disappear from your life then you've done the best thing for you.. and they obviously weren't really your friend, they were just using you.. Best of luck!

[TaylorMM]

When you say he only comes to you when he needs something do you mean like anything from advice, someone to talk to and materialistic things or money? Or does he just come to you for materialistic things and money?
And have you ever gone to him when you needed something or help or advice? if so what was his response?