Breaking Up?

[Ambrosia]

I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. He told me the day before that we should give our relationship another week so he could see how he felt about me (We've been together 5 months). I was convinced by other people that I needed to break up with him instead to give him a chance to think and not string me along.

I want to go see him, discuss this with him. I want him back so badly and people are convinced he will come back but, the fact is, I don't think so. What should I do? I'm about to turn into that Crazy-Ex-Girlfriend stalker.

[Kujiro]

Lexi, when you mentioned that you were convinced by others that you needed to break up with him.
I was really surprised that it happened, it was only recently when you mentioned you were about to move over to his, and getting to an independent phase in life.

Im sorry to post a question in a question, but what did the others do to convince that you should break up?
Shouldnt a relationship be lead by 2 people rather than others?

He needed some time to sort out his thoughts and being men, they enter their caves, they brood over their problems in the absence of everyone including their best friends, till they find a solution to their problems.

You should have given him a chance to let him mull it over, do no pressure him nor question him.
Leave him emotionally alone, but as a physical person just be there so he may reach out to you.
Being a supportive girlfriend is the most ideal, but yet passive.
If he wants to go for the dreaded long drama movies; which you hate, just go for it.

But do not question his conclusion and he would tell you when he has came to a conclusion to the problem.

I suggest you should go up to him, tell him that you were just being rash, and would give him time to think it through, Give him the confidence, yet not being pushy.
Do not jump to your own conclusions, work it out as a couple. If he poses questions about emotional aspects, answer them truthfully and tell him how you feel.

At this point you may be in a state of lost, where he feels so drawn away from you. It would be a difficult road to take, but im not telling you it would be eazy, im telling you if you really treasure him, it would be worth it.

Good luck
*pats*

[Ambrosia]

I'm not sure if you understand. He wanted a week to see if he still cared for me. He told me he no longer wanted to kiss me. This would be, in all honesty, leading me on for a week. Stringing me behind. I broke up with him because that would be oddly cruel...But...I love the fact that someones told me to go to him, simply because everyone else thinks he should come to me.

But the fact is, I don't think he wants to be with me. But I have so much hope that he does, and I'm afraid that if I go to him he will simply agree because he doesn't want to hurt me.

[Kujiro]

Men are like rubber bands, they will stretch and recoil emotionally, they would give and give but would spring back. During that recoil, they would be emotionally drifted and that's the time for emotional repair.

I'll drop an ebook to your email shortly about how to communicate to your partner, during such an instance.
Hes likely having some down time, thus the week to consider if he still loves you.
It's the case for most men.

I too would agree he should return to you, breaking was a drastic action, but it's always better to look at it in his perspective, why did he choose to do so.

P.S
Read on chapter 6, tell me once you've got it.
Would take it down after.

Regards
*smile*