How am i supposed to deal with this?..

[love is louder]

So as me and my boyfriend were arguing about other issues. i decided i wanted to go home, he wouldn't let me until we sorted it out.
he later decided to tell me (although he tried to put it a lot nicer than this) that the reason he makes sure were all right before i go is to make sure i don't go home and kill myself!
i am not suicidal or have ever been or aver mentioned anything to him about being suicidal.

what the hell am i supposed to do with that?

[christcenteredlife]

maybe he doesn't understand cutting and self harm well enough. he might think it is a pre cursor to suicide.

[love is louder]

maybe your right. i have explained the best that i could but some people just dont get it. i just dont know where im supposed to go from here.

[christcenteredlife]

i'm complete guessing. i truly don't understand cutting and self harm myself, but i know people who do this don't exactly always have a desire to die. sometimes they do, and i know it's bad to generalize all into this category. i'd try talking to him and explaining to him that you don't want to die, you just want to be happy and your cutting is an addiction as much as smoking or drug abuse, even over eating. then let him know not all those people are in addiction to kill themselves. a relationship needs to have trust and keeping you somewhere you don't want to be isn't trust.

i think a good, genuine conversation is in order.

[love is louder]

i hate good genuine conversations! :P
but thanks for the advice. im going to see him on friday so things will have died down and i had time to think of what im going to say. but im guessing its pretty much going to be something like that ^^^^ so thankyou

[christcenteredlife]

good luck.

[fenrirdies]

figure out what makes him think you are and fid it if you want