View Full Version : What does this mean?
Nameless
August 30th, 2011, 04:49 PM
My ex split up with me a few days ago due to her saying "she isn't ready for a relationship" but she said she still wants to be close friends.
We stopped contact for a couple of days then she sent me a text asking how I was. Then a couple of days after we started talking again and I asked if i could go meet her at the weekend just to have a chat as we haven't seen each other for around 3 weeks. She said she couldn't because she has to go to a family birthday party, and I ask about the weekend after and she said, I'll see what I'm doing and asked why i wanted to see her.
I said just to have a chat and she said "Mhmm might be a bit awkward and not much will come from it :L"
What does she mean by "not much will come from it?"
christcenteredlife
August 30th, 2011, 04:53 PM
she might think you want her back. give the "break up" sometime. she may still be hurting over the break up. how long did you go out?
Nameless
August 30th, 2011, 04:55 PM
I sort of do want her back, how long would you say give it? It wasn't long at all really only 6 weeks.
christcenteredlife
August 30th, 2011, 04:57 PM
i'd personally keep it simple contact. texts saying, hi, how are you? what have you been doing? things like that. but i'd wait to start attempting meeting up with her again. i'd give it a month or two.
Nameless
August 30th, 2011, 05:00 PM
Mhmm okay, I'm just finding it really hard to wait at the moment :/ Thanks for the advice, really appreciated, any other ideas are more than welcome.
christcenteredlife
August 30th, 2011, 05:03 PM
i don't get attached to people like "normal" people do. so i know my answers seem seriously, just do it, it's easy. i do realize it's not that simple. since i don't experience "normal" human emotion and experience this is hard for me to help with.
i was thinking, maybe give her the space you'd want?
Nameless
August 30th, 2011, 05:07 PM
I'm the complete opposite to be honest, i get very emotionally attached to people very easily, I just can't help it. I tried to give her space, i did for the first couple of days and she initiated contact and i just could help talking to her again today.
christcenteredlife
August 30th, 2011, 05:10 PM
i don't see any issue's with talking to her. just don't be clingy about it.
Nameless
August 30th, 2011, 05:12 PM
Mhmm, that's another one of my problems, we used to text constantly verging on 500+ texts a day and had some like 7 hour skype calls, so i find it hard to come across not clingy :/
christcenteredlife
August 30th, 2011, 05:20 PM
yea that's going to make it even more awkward and harder for her to want you around her.
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