Advice?

[screamtobeheard]

Okay, so two days ago, my boyfriend was with his friend. His friend said something to him that bothered him, but he wouldn't tell me what it was. Now, I have freakish intuition, so I knew he'd been told to break up with me. I didn't know anything more. I went to his house last night, and we were just laying there talking. And he told me that his friend had told him to break up with me. I said that I knew that. And I asked him why. He told me that his friend said it would be easier for both of us, because we're both going back to school now, and it'll be hard for us to see each other. Which is true, but I know we can make it work. I love him and I don't want to lose him. I don't know, it just kind of bothered me. And then he told me that his friend had actually told him to have sex with me and then break up with me. And I was pretty bothered by that. I know he wouldn't do that to me, simply because he's incredibly hesitant about having sex in general. So I mean, I know that's not what he wants. But...I don't know. We're both going back to school and he works nearly full time and I play two sports and work part time. It'll be hard, but I think it'll be worth it. Because he's the only person whose company I genuinely enjoy. We can just sit and talk for hours. I know that sounds stupid, but it's true. I want this to work. So, I guess I'm asking for opinions or advice for my situation. Does anyone have anything?

[Kaius]

What your boyfriends friend seems to be forgetting is that problem is exactly the same for every couple. Everyone is going to be going back to school, college, university and time is going to be difficult to spare but if you're willing to make it work its up to no one other than you and your boyfriend what happens. You might want to talk to your boyfriend about why his friend thinks he has a say in your relationship and how you maintain it, he shouldn't be doing that and i think your boyfriend needs to tell him that. I think his friend might see you as a threat. As long as you're around he will not be spending as much time with the friend, so his idea of combating that is to get him to break up with you. But in any case its best to discuss it with your boyfriend and potentially the friend.

[Kujiro]

I think his friend might see you as a threat.

I find this line very true.

How does a relationship works out when the meeting time reduces, actually depends on the both of you.
I would possibily agree that his friend feels intimidated by your presence that you are taking him away from him.
Hence he took the chance to tear it apart.

There are people whom seem to support the relationship, but with jealousy and envy brewing inside them, and would take every and any opening to cause a breakup, and to appear as angelic as they were.

Going back to school or any form of transition which changes a person's life would affect the norm for anyone, take it as a trial to your relationship. Surviving it makes a couple stronger, and their love stronger for each other.

Take myself for example, my boyfriend was hospitalised, but the process during the darkest times were painful yet meaningful.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and it makes the relationship more meaningful with the lesser time you spent together.

You are now progressing into a level of more matured love, where understanding and respect is what keeps it going rather than just the sweet and romantic walks on the beach.

Ensure each other that you will be there for each other, sometimes its the fact that you are that really matters.

Good luck
*smile*