Old friend... Ending friendship

[JackShephard]

idk if this belongs in here but i placed it here because it says "relationships" and in my case, a friendship

So I have, well had a really awesome friend. We where pretty tight. And all of a sudden, after he went to college, he totally cutoff communication with me. We usually texted on a regular basis and would post on facebook and stuff but he started ignoring me. I have no idea what I could have done but it kinda hurts. :(

Just now, I sent him an IM on facebook. "Hey man... Guess who I saw recently?" I figured it would interest him because I bumped into a mutual friend a few days ago. I didn't get a reply. So im not sure if that time he was ignoring me or maybe he just happened to log off. Another time, he texted me out of the blue and asked ?whats up?? I think that must have been an accident because he sounded like he wanted to hang out and I invited him over. He said he was busy -_- in any case, how would i go about bringing him into a conversation and ask why he started ignoring me without sounding desperate? At this point, I don't care that he doesn't want to have anything to do with me, I just want to know why and try and fix it. And maybe then, we could come to an understanding. maybe i could figure out what it is that I might have done (I cant think of any betrayals or anything like that, he was a valued friend)

So after realizing that i was being ignored, I just backed off. Gave it time (like MONTHS) and still i have been ignored

[christcenteredlife]

you mentioned this happened after he went to college, most likely, he's made new friends. how old are you and are you in college or high school? if you are in high school, you need to realize, he is growing up and probably wanting more "adult" or "college aged" friendships. not that he doesn't want your friendship or value it, but is needing more time with his new friends. also, college takes a lot of time out of a person's life. class is one thing, but generally you spend approx 90% of your college experience out of the classroom which means, homework, a job, sports, clubs, and other activities. if i were you, i'd stick to basic communication. as he gets a grip on his "new life", maybe he will be able to balance new and old friendships better.

[JackShephard]

Well as of now, I think he is taking a semester off. I understand the age difference (like one year though) but a few keystrokes wouldn't hurt.

[christcenteredlife]

give him time to adjust.

[JackShephard]

Yeah, I suppose that's what I'm going to have to do. I'm just worried that I might have done something. Whatever, I won't worry about it then.