Not Sure

[Underground_Network]

There's this girl at my school that I really like, but I have two problems and I'm not sure she likes me back. She hangs around me a lot, and likes to talk (not just to me, but to everybody), but she rejected a guy who straight up asked her out, and made fun of him for asking her out. I don't want to end up like him, so thats one of my problems, she didn't take him seriously (I don't exactly know why) and I'm afraid she'll reject me/ not take me seriously as well. My second problem is that I've never asked a girl out before and I'm afraid I'll screw up, but also to add to this problem is the fact that this girl and I are sort of friends (we talk and hang out in school, but out of school I rarely see her) so I don't want to ruin our relationship as friends by fucking up when trying to ask her out. Although I said just two problems, there's sort of a third, not that this means anything, but only one of my ten or so close friends has a girlfriend, and half of my other friends don't really have crushes on any girls at my school. Because they've never asked out girls, and don't have girlfriends, I can't go to them for advice, and the one person who does have a girlfriend didn't ask her out, she asked him out. I really don't want to wait, I want to find out if she feels the way I feel about her. I'm so fucking afraid that I'll screw up:( . Advice please!

[Ironic Infidel In England]

Everyone fells like that before they ask someone out, especially if it's there first time. Ask her out, and if you get blown off, pretend you were kidding/ were dared to do it. works for me every time! :)

[Underground_Network]

I'd do that, but then she'd be like wtf, and she'd never look at me the same, she'd think, if she didn't like me, that I was a dumbass for asking her out and she'd scold me and say the saying, if they dared you to jump off a cliff would you do it???
I just don't wanna risk my chances, I really don't wanna blow this, I don't know what I'd do if she said no... :(

[Ironic Infidel In England]

Look, whenever you ask someone out, there is a risk of them saying no. Just try and think if you'd be willing to give up your freindship for a chance of going out with her. If yes, go for it. If no, then don't.

[Underground_Network]

You have a point, and there are other fishies in the sea, but I'm not sure I can work up the guts to ask her out, the only other girl I attempted to ask out (a year ago) I ended up not asking out. I went up to her, looked her in the eyes, and then walked away, because I just couldn't think straight. She didn't really give, but I don't know what I'd do if that happened this time. I'm just so afraid of rejection, and I just plain suck when it comes to asking girls out, I've never actually managed to ask a girl out, and I'm not sure I can do it. I've blown my chances several times in the past when it was rather obvious that a girl liked me. (A year ago a girl who I'm pretty sure liked me asked if I wanted to go out to a movie or something, and I've always found it tough to talk to girls, and I was having a bad day, so I blew up at her, and said something like, "No, I'm not having good day, Go away" I barely even realized what she had said until after I said that.) I know I'm gonna fuck up, I can just feel it, and I am very volatile on bad days, and I don't wanna ask her out, have her say yes, and then one day have her walk up to me, for what ever reason and I blow up at her. I've had trouble with girls forever, and the last time I was truly popular was 2nd grade, although the definition of popular at my school is confusing, because almost everybody is friends with everyone else, except for a few kids who don't fit in, including one who refuses to be your friend, and another, who based on experience I know does not know the true definition of friend. Also, to add, the girl that I like in particular isn't a big fan of this, but a lot of the girls at my school like trouble makers, and although I used to get in trouble, I don't now, but a lot of kids, including some of my friends, do immature things that could get them in trouble, to impress one another, as well as girls. I'm just so fucking confused, sorry for all the ranting. :(

[Ironic Infidel In England]

No problem. So you're worried that she'll say yes, then you'll blow up in her face for no reason? I say ask her, if she says yes warn her that you might do that and tell her that you don't mean it. I have to do this with all my relationships because I have SPD, and it helps.

[Underground_Network]

I know, I know, but I'm just so confused, because there's this other girl, who I kind of like, but not anywhere near as much as I like the girl I've been talking about, that seems to be hitting on me. I think I'd have a better chance with the second girl, but the first girl is the one I truly like. BTW Congrats on 100 posts.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

well, what I would do is to ask out the first girl, if she says no, wait a while and then ask out the second one. Be careful though, you could appear really desperate.

Not so sure about this advice, so take it with a pinch of salt.

[Gumleaf]

i always remember what a friend once told me. asking and being rejected won't 'kill' you but not asking and not knowing will. thats what gave me the final courage to ask my girlfriend out and she said yes. 1 out of 1 for me lol.