Ugh lol I'm confused and irritated too! help?

[assassin321]

Hey so i have a problem. I'm straight, I like women a lot. I've had sex before and it's kind of a hobby for me and my best friend to go and pick up chicks and try and get pretty far with them. I just turned 18 and I was late with puberty too. This lifestyle of really going for any hot chick is pretty new to me, and I do it every weekend with my best friend.

Here's the problem. I've really grown to love my best friend a lot. In the deepest way possible. I seriously value his life more than mine, and I only say that about my mother, sisters and him. I've never felt that way about anyone else. Well for some reason, he is able to get me pretty turned on. We like to physically fight a lot because I was on the wrestling team. When we wrestle, i get turned on. I've never had that happen before. He does it very easily and it really irritates me because I don't think I like him like that! It just happens! I am not into anal with anyone under any circumstances, so why would I be gay? Although, I can see why women find him attractive, why am I getting turned on!? I don't want to have sex with him. ehg.. it's weird just thinking about it. This would completely ruin our friendship because he is really homophobic. I know he knows i get turned on while we wrestle sometimes and I don't think he minds because we both know for a fact we like women and we don't stop wrestling, i just sortof hide it... although it's really difficult. really. lol. What is going on here? Do you think i'm in denial? BTW, he's THE ONLY guy that does this to me. ugh. i'm so frustrated. Thanks.

[Connor1]

Hi Bud...

Your not the only one. I had a friend in high school that we used to mess with every hot chick in school...Kinda the gigolos around school...well he and I used to hang out everyday and do random stuff...then he started getting weird like stripping down in front of me to mess around, then like wrestling and even once we had an "EPIC" halo battle and after like 5 hours he won and was so excited he wiped his dick out and j/o...I started to get turned on and thought I was the weird one. We later talked it out and actually found out that its not gay...so guys just like seeing other guys or their buddies "feel good"...there are "sites" where straight guys j/o together for fun....me and my friend later had late night porn sesh's and now that we're older we have three ways with girls. As for ur feelings....hes ur best friend so ov's u got strong feelings for him...my friend moved to the states from canada and I see him like once a year and feel horrible everytime he leaves...its called close friendship...ull b ok!

Hope this helps
Connor

[assassin321]

Connor,

Thanks man. That actually does help a lot. So your friendship even escalated to having threesomes?! wow. You know, we talked about that before. Sometimes we're both all for it, other days we aren't sure. We think it's a little weird because it's called "The bad threesome" lol. How does having that straight, but sexual, side of the friendship change things when you first do it? I have some pretty personal questions to ask, but I'm not sure if its appropriate on a public forum.

Thanks again!

[assassin321]

So I thought I would just sortof update you guys on what's been going down. Really it's not much, since I don't actually plan on doing anything with him when I could be with a girl. Either way, we went to the beach the other day and he brought up this girl that kinda tricked me. She told me she was 15, almost 16, and I just turned 18. We made out one night. I later found out she was 14. ugh. damn over developed girls lol.
So I tried to justify myself a little bit and brought up how there is worse than making out with a 14 year old. I told him a couple of my buds are J/o buddies and my sis made out with me when she was 14 and i was 10 for practice. lol.
Well, he didn't react the way I thought! He said he doesn't want to ever see my buds again and considered it incest that my sis made out with me (like I had any idea at 10?!). We're still best friends and stuff, but what are your thoughts on this situation ppl?
Do you think it was okay for me to make out with her? I don't plan on going further now.
Do you think it is incestuous for my sis to practice on me? There was no "extra" feelings.
Do you think my friend will eventually be more comfortable with the fact that budz j/o together? I don't care either way, but I'm comfortable with it, i guess.