New school, no friends.

[astronut96]

I just started high school at a new school and have been having trouble making friends. I have one person I know in the class, who I have known since second grade. I think of him as my friend but I'm not sure if he thinks of me as a friend. He never makes plans with me, I always have to be the one to make them with him, and a lot of the time he says he has other plans. He has been trying to get me to make my own friends at school, but the way he does this is by ignoring me, which I guess he thinks will force me to talk to other people. But it doesn't. I end up standing around awkwardly. Everyone else has their own group of friends and I feel weird if I try to join one. There are people in my classes who talk to me, but during breaks and "social" times (not sure how else to word it) they don't even acknowledge me. Any advice?

[Fear]

I know how I feel. Luckily I have some friends. You should try and sit someone you may think will be friends with you. Have a decent convosation, maybe help them with their problems. Just try to be more social with them. Don't sit there looking blankly at them.

[User Deleted]

OP: I recommend joining a group, sport, club, ect. You meet new people, and its pretty much required to make friends. (not really, but people reach out to others in their groups)

Say hi, ask them about them self, tell them about yourself. And actually there is a guide on VT for ideas to make friends as well. It is good and really true.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=25633&highlight=VT+guide+ro+make+friends

[DerBear]

I suggest you try and join clubs or sports, Nothing like making friends with common intrests.

As for your "freind" not making plans with you that is a normal thing in having a friend as some just dont want too or are too shy to make plans and as you always make plans with him he probably wont think to make plans with you

[Unsolvedmind]

i have had the same problem this year so i know how you feel. i moved for north east to down south and i have had a bit of trouble making friends to. you are not alone trust me
:D

[astronut96]

Thanks for the replies! I've read the guide, and I will try some of the things it says. The problem is finding common interests. I like science, mainly astronomy, and no one else seems to like it in my class. I don't do sports, as I'm very bad at them. I'm in jazz band, so I'm hoping that helps me make some friends.

[OptimusPrime]

I know how it feels. I was really popular at Primary and Intermediate as both were combined and when I hit High School I was a loner quick fast.

It will just take some time to make some friends. That's all.

[Spock]

just go for it luckly my friends and i make up our own group so i dont have to worry but go fo smaller groups of friends nd work your way up my group has about 10 ish ppl in it and it is growing so go for groups that are easy to join and go from there

[Kujiro]

To put it really plain, you are not socializing enough.
Like most have mentioned, joining a club or a sport that you enjoy would totally help.

But most importantly it comes down to yourself. If you remain closed to others, i'd doubt others would open up to you as well.
Blend yourself into the environment and try to make yourself as comfortable as you can.
But most importantly do not submit to peer pressure to do things you do not wanna do.

Get them interested in you by being a good listener and knowing when's the right time to talk. It brings down to EQ and being street smart.

But most importantly, do only things you feel that is right, and not get swayed eazily into the wrong direction. If you find that you are being swayed into things that you are not too comfortable with, do not be afraid to say no and walk away.

In due time, you would learn who are the true friends vs the ones whom are just being friends because they have to.

Good luck.
*smile*

[Kdude146]

you should joing clubs or teams that you are intrested in that way you will find people that like the same things as you