Boyish tastes

[Megson]

I don't know if I'm a lesbian, bisexual, or straight yet. I've been questioning for a long time. But I know that I really love to wear what some people like to refer to as 'boy' clothes.
I went shopping with my mom today. I kept pointing out some shirts that I liked, and she replied with "No, those are for boys."
Then she proceeded to (try to) force some girly, frilly blouses on me.
This happens all the time. I've asked for swim trunks instead of a bikini or 'girl' swimsuits, but she says the same thing. "Those are for boys." And also, as long as she is still buying my clothes, I really don't have much of a say of what she decides to buy me. It is HER money.
Why can't I like 'boy' clothes? Does it make me weird?
Any ideas on how I can get across to her that I'm NOT into 'girl' clothes?

[Timmy93]

Say that you are a tom boy or just buy your own clothes

[AltoVaughn]

Well, It's not weird. My best friend wears male clothing all the time (Including mine she steals >.<). You're mom is trying to force you to be feminine. Just explain to her that's not you. If she asks why, tell her it's a matter of comfort.

[Love.Hate]

I feel the same as you, I love big baggy boys tops and trousers.. I guess you have to please your mum for the time being.. Or just tell her girls clothes aren't comfy? I managed to get mum to buy me guys tops by saying I would wear them as pyjamas :P

They are just comfy and look better i think :)

[ShatteredWings]

How old are you? It's probably about time you point out to her that you're a teenager and should be allowed to have you own tastes.

[Megson]

Thanks, guys :) Happy to know I'm not the only one. And I've tried to get her to understand the whole comfort idea. Still, the only time she let's me get guy clothes is if its a band t-shirt or a jacket/hoodie.
I'd totally buy my own clothes, but I can't do that til I start making some money! I'm hoping to get a job soon, though, so that may solve my problem eventually.

[Megson]

How old are you? It's probably about time you point out to her that you're a teenager and should be allowed to have you own tastes.
I'm sixteen. And I DO get to decide what clothes I want, just so long as they're 'girl' clothes.

[ShatteredWings]

...Hm.
Explain that things have chanegd from when she was a teenager and that a girl in boys clothes isn't frowned upon and is barely even noticed?

[Megson]

...Hm.
Explain that things have chanegd from when she was a teenager and that a girl in boys clothes isn't frowned upon and is barely even noticed?

Well, I don't really think that's the issue. I think she just wants me to be girly. I don't wear make-up ever, but she still tries to get me some for birthdays/christmas. I've tried to explain things to her, but she never really seems to listen.

[ShatteredWings]

Is your dad in the picture?

[Megson]

Is your dad in the picture?

Not really. He isn't the type of guy who cares about clothes in the least. I doubt he'd be any help.
I think I'll just deal for now and buy what I want to wear once I get a job and start making my own money. Seems like the only option for me, and its not too far off, hopefully..

[Kujiro]

You mum seems pretty opinionated about the clothings you wear, its likely her mindset would still be in the boy blue, girl pink concept.

In fact, clothing preference and sexuality are 2 entirely different entities, it does not mean that wearing guy clothes makes or infers you to be labled.

Explain to your mum that its just a preference like food, books or even subjects in school.

Talking to her about this may allow her to change her mind, everyone here is right, you should have your own freedom to choose the clothes you enjoy wearing.
Give it a shot, tell her how you feel. I'd suppose it should work out fine.

Say that you are a tom boy or just buy your own clothes
Why make her jump to conclusions, when its just a matter of preference.
I feel its not too nice to do that is it?

Good luck
*smile*

[logan fields]

i think you should just be you and dress what feels right 4 you. how would parents feel if we told them how to dress