why?

[MalditoDia]

im just wondering why do people hurt themselves? Most of the girls i see are beautiful and the dudes don seem that bad off. Please dont get mad at me im just wondering why?

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

Not everyone does it because they think they're ugly. I don't think many people who self harm are exactly overflowing with self-esteem but its not usually the only reason.
Often it is because people have been through things that they don't fully know how to deal with and it is a way of coping. Others because they are in so much pain mentally and emotionally that physical pain can make that lessen. And others still it is because they can't feel anything, and pain is better than feeling totally numb...

[Love.Hate]

Well i do it for the control, but everyone has their own reasons... i cant seem to control things in my life, so if a situation gets out of my control, i regain that control through self harm. I know its confusing and a hard concept to grasp, but hey its just me.

But it becomes addictive and really hard to stop, so the thing i once had control of now controls me.

[MalditoDia]

that explains alot. Thank you for helping me understand a little better not tryin to pass any judgements.

[xktx]

hey its ok, its difficult to understand, peoples reasons behind it are different, but I do it because the pain replaces other pain, makes life easier... but everyones slightly different. x

[RakshaMalayka]

Its hard to understand peoples reasonings unless youve been there. I myself do it because it helps me when everything becomes overwhelming and i need an escape route or when my anger gets to the point where i start taking it out on everyone. Id rather hurt myself than others. Its something i thought i could control..... Everyone has their own reasons and no 2 are exactly the same

[bambino]

personally I do it because its a way to 'punish' myself. Which would sound odd to some people, but that's how it feels. As if I deserve pain, maybe I SH because it's the only pain I can control.

That said. I haven't for 4 months, but the urges can be overwhelming :(
keep strong everyone x

[LittlePaperStars]

I do it because I feel like I'm not in control of anything. Cutting helps me feel in control. I have low self esteem, and I feel like no one notices me. Mostly I do it because I don't know how to deal with all the stress and emotional pain in my life.

[fenrirdies]

I do it because it amuses me ,some times I do it so I don't act on the urge to kill .

[CyanideGoodnight]

Control, self hate, it's an addiction, it's a release, it calms me... ext ext ext. I'd go into detail but don't feel like it right now, sorry.

[Spook]

Nobody is gonna get mad at you for being curious. :D

I am not a self harmer myself, but from what I have picked up; they do it for different reason. Some don't see a purpose to their lives. Something bad happens, and they get very depressed. Others do it as a release. It feels good to them, but later, it just is worse. Others even (as said above) do it for control. It seems like everybody is telling them what to do, so they want to choose something for themselves finally.

[xDarkAngelx]

Some reasons control, self hate, a coping method, release, an addiction have a couple of others but those are some

[Aubrie]

When I did it, there were several different reasons. I used it to punish myself for things that at the time I felt like were my fault. I used it to feel in control of the pain I was feeling. It was easier for me to concentrate on the physical pain as opposed to the emotional pain.

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

It helps people cope. It can make people numb,feel pain on the outside if on the inside they feel nothing,match the pain they feel on the inside,take away their focus from painful memories,or emotions,there are tons of reasons why,it depends on the person.