Seeing a therapist...what to expect?

[LittlePaperStars]

So I'm getting a therapist (who's a man), and my session starts next week.
I never met up with a therapist before, so I'm really nervous- mostly scared.
I don't know what to expect...has anyone had expercience with one before?

Could anyone tell me what happens or if they're nice or what I can expect?

[CyanideGoodnight]

I've had an experience with four of them, so here's my experiences...

They all seemed nice enough, so that was good, however, the first one told me I cared about something I didn't give a shit about since I was 10, and so I stopped going to her after a short while because I didn't need her anyway (I didn't cut then) The second one I went to for my cutting, and she told me I had a good life and quitting should be "relativley easy" for me to stop, so I stopped going to her too, for that and also because she didn't do ANYTHING about the cutting, she didn't even ask about it! The third and fourth I go to for a group therapy, which is perfect, basically the first meeting was an individual with the two of them, and they asked a few basic questions like age and why I wanted to do therapy and when I told them about the cutting they asked about scars and stuff, nothing too in depth though, and for group I just fit right in and you can talk about issues and whatever is the matter, and I also go to individual therapy with one of the therapists there and for individual I can go more in depth with the issues, you can talk about as much or as little as you like, and you may be questioned to go further into it, and sometimes it's hard to but after I do I generally feel a lot better.

So, if this therapist sucks and you need a therapist, don't be afraid to tell your mom/dad/whoever and look to get a new one. It dosn't help you at ALL if you hate them or don't feel comfortable or don't like them.

It may be uncomfortable the first few times, but after a while you get used to them and can trust them more (assuming it's a good therapist you don't have an issue with as I said), and for me with group therapy the therapists and people radiated a peaceful calm aura that I picked up on immediently and somehow could trust them right away, so hopefully it will be that way with your therapist as well.

So in short, expect a few questions, expect no judgement, and expect to be questioned more in depth about things you might not want to go into.

Best of luck!!!

[christcenteredlife]

they are all different and they all approach things in a different manner. he'll probably just want to get to know you for the first couple sessions and find out what's going on and what the problems you're experiencing are.

[LittlePaperStars]

Thanks alot ^^
Feeling a little less nervous, and we'll see how this goes. :)

[christcenteredlife]

i think being nervous is normal. someone new is about to learn all your junk. that's ok though. just think, they can help you!

[Love.Hate]

questions, expect lots of questions and in depth discussion on topics you dont like talking about, you will learn to trust and open up to them.. good luck! I really hope you find it helps you, and there is no need to be nervous <3

[xktx]

from what i know (my friend went in) they ask you alot of questions, you dont have to answer, but it's difficult for them to help you if your not honest, or you dont give them enough to go on... if you know what i mean. x

[LittlePaperStars]

Yeah, I understand. I hope he'll let me take my time, because I'm extremely nervous...

[tommay]

About 2 years ago, when I suffered from depression, the guidance counseler in school, and my parents got me help with therapy. I was outraged, upset, scared, and even more depressed. When I first got there, he introduced himself, shook my hand, and had me introduce myself. He had me talk about myself, and my family, while he wrote everything down. And he asked my why I was always feeling sad.. And I eventually just spilled everything that made me upset in my life, and we talked it out. After a few sessions of talking stuff out over the months, I really started to feel better. He taught me how to deal with situations that made me upset, and how to react to them.

Don't worry, it's not as scary as you would think. You won't regret it.

[LittlePaperStars]

About 2 years ago, when I suffered from depression, the guidance counseler in school, and my parents got me help with therapy. I was outraged, upset, scared, and even more depressed. When I first got there, he introduced himself, shook my hand, and had me introduce myself. He had me talk about myself, and my family, while he wrote everything down. And he asked my why I was always feeling sad.. And I eventually just spilled everything that made me upset in my life, and we talked it out. After a few sessions of talking stuff out over the months, I really started to feel better. He taught me how to deal with situations that made me upset, and how to react to them.

Don't worry, it's not as scary as you would think. You won't regret it.

Thanks so much, that's exactly what I needed to know. :)
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