Baby_James94
August 26th, 2011, 03:42 AM
Alright.. Well where to start.. When me and my boyfriend started dating he made comments about how his mom was mean and didn't accept him.. A few weeks before that he posted on facebook saying "I might have a concussion.. Again.." and he wouldn't tell anyone what happened. Well After a while he told me she's extremely abusive, she's hit him with blunt objects such as Metal Candle holders, she's scratched the hell out of him and what not.. Well A few weeks ago she found his facebook under a fake name and added it and saw he was in a relationship from me. He sent me a text saying "My mom's pissed, she found out and idk what she's going to do to me." I told him I was going to have the cops sent out to stop her and he wouldn't let me, he said even though she's horrible he still loves her and doesnt want to lose her or the rest of his abusive family. I'm worried that one day she's going to go to far and do some serious long term damage or worse... I won't go against his wishes even though I want to and know in the long run it could help, but I can't go against his word, he'd never do it to me.. Now, I was in a abusive relationship where I would be hit and put down for everything and I know the long term effects, psychologically and physically. I know that some people hold on to it and have nightmares and sometimes aggressive actions. I don't think he could ever hit me or hurt me like that, he's not like that with anyone. I'm just worried that I might say something to set him off to the point of him hurting me, himself, or someone else. Lately he hasn't said anything about her abusing him, but what do I do? I've talked to him and he's 100% on the fact that he doesnt want it reported or anything. I asked if him counseling was an option and he said no because when you talk about suicide, harming others, or being abused by someone, it has to be acted on, it doesnt stay confidential, I know that and a lot of other people know that. I just don't know what to say or do.. Do I just leave it? Do I keep pushing for him to do something? I just can't stand to know he's being hurt, I can't stand knowing someone could hurt someone so nice and innocent like him.. Just breaks my heart.. Any advice would be helpful..