Actually Knowing if your Gay?

[cowattack54]

I would first of all like to say that this question is in no way ment to offend any younger person who is gay.


Looking around these forums I have noticed that their are a fare amount of people in the 13-15 age range who consider themselves to be either gay or bisexual. I myself am 15 and personally am straight, but i was wondering to my self the other day how could someone at this young age possibly know that they are gay or bisexual. I know for some people they have always just liked guys and that was it for them, but I guess im just interested in hearing what other people have to say about this?

Thanks

Jack Johnson.

[Donkey]

Puberty For Boys -> Teen Sexuality

[Teen141]

Because im more attracted to guys and dont anything really do to with a girl sexually ... Im more of a penis guy, what can i say? ^.^
Btw can i just say that Everybody doesn't start out straight and then 'changes'... So at this young age how could you possibly know that you are straight?

[Tristin.]

you just know. once you realise, you notice that the signs have always been there. tbf, how do you know your straight? because society has told you you are? the question works both ways.

i know because girls do nothing for me, i can tell a girl is pretty or beautiful, but thats it, there is no more feeling for them. I have kissed a girl before and i must say, i hated it, it was bring and felt wrong. Now for me, liking boys is just right, it is who iam.

when i wake up in the morning, i know im gay, because its part of me, i just know.

[Electra Heart]

I'm attracted to both girls and boys and have been for as long as I can remember... that's about it. And don't worry, I don't think your offending anyone.

[cowattack54]

That is a good point you both made about the question going both ways. To be honest id have to say im not sure How i know im straight, I know that ive never been interested in guys in a sexual way. I guess by default that makes me straight?

[Tristin.]

That is a good point you both made about the question going both ways. To be honest id have to say im not sure How i know im straight, I know that ive never been interested in guys in a sexual way. I guess by default that makes me straight?

but, you are basing sexuality on sex only. you have to consider the emotional side also.

[CryWolf]

but, you are basing sexuality on sex only. you have to consider the emotional side also.

This hits it on the head. Being gay or straight or whatever is so much deeper than sex.

[Nicky97]

I don't know if I will be totally gay as an adult. I won't know what my "preference" is until I have more experience. But at the moment, I feel very gay. Oh I don't want to act stereotypically gay, but I fall in love with guys and there's plenty of sex with agemates, mostly straight ones. I can't just call that "curious".

[TrevorTime]

I've heard that some guys know when they are really young. Anyways, I suspected it when I was 12, but I knew for sure when I was 13. By then, puberty had kicked in, and I started to notice the cute boys in a whole different light.

If a girl has a nice chest area, I will still look. I might be gay, but I'm not dead, LoL. But girls don't do anything for me emotionally.

[Starlight Blaze]

welll...like some others have said, you just know it...I mean it may change, but I highly doubt it. I don't have any feelings for girls besides friendship, and I just...I can't imagine my life with a guy, and this actually makes me sure I'm gay (I know that makes no sense...I'd explain it but...)
anyway I didn't know from birth, but I went through a lot of denial and then acceptance after realizing I might be at around 13

sometimes events in life can trigger people's feelings before they come out on their own, and that sort of happened with me

[Shadowin]

Well first off i would like to point out that you dont just say im straight one day and the the next say im gay or bisexual. For me it was more of a slow process girls just dont do it for me in a sexual way i just like the emotional part. I have know this for about a year now i just when i think about Boys i just feel something i cant describe the feeling but it might be in away that i think they are cute or something like that it just isnt a change that is over night it is over a period time i finally realized it when i started to think about boys in a sexual and emotional way.

Hope it helps :)

[AltoVaughn]

It's not like being straight is the default setting, and some people's get changed to the LGBT Channel. We have different default so to speak.

I hope that made sense.

[Kujiro]

This question is as good as, how do you that person is the right one for you?
In fact we don't, like altovaugh has mentioned, there is no default settings to sexuality.

While nicky has mentioned, we are unable to perceive what becomes of our sexuality in the coming future.
But we see ourselves as what we are now.
All whom has opened up has somewhat been through not only the sexual aspect, but more importantly the emotional aspect.

It is wholly possible to be emotionally gay, but enjoy sex with girls. Technically it does not make you a bisexual either.
Love does not have to always lead to sex.

There is a limit to curiosity, it's ok to say you are curious once or twice. How about 10 times?
By the 3rd time we would have an idea which gender we are emotionally attracted to.

There's no right or wrong answer. We ignore stereotypical thinking and are people that follow what our hearts tells us.
It never leads us the wrong way. Does it.

Cheers
*smile*

[christcenteredlife]

i would say, knowing you're gay is the same as knowing you're straight. i personally think puberty is a bad time to decide on whether or not you are gay or bi-sexual, only because of the crazy hormones that cause your body to react to things it normally wouldn't, like a guys penis might turn a guy on, who is straight, because it's sexual. that doesn't make the male gay, but he may think he is because he was turned on.

sexuality is such a tough thing in life that it takes along time to work out. some kids know from childhood they are "different" or gay. some don't realize until they are in puberty or far beyond puberty. while some don't realize or accept it until into a marriage. it's different for all people.

[Baby_James94]

How is someone as young as yourself able to know your straight? lol. It's a psychological thing that society has brought into the minds of everyone. If you walked up to your mom and said "mom I'm 15 and straight." she would look at you like 'why are you telling me this?' but if you were to walk up and say "mom I'm 15 and i'm gay/bi." she would actually react to it. So why is it straight boys and girls can know they are straight but if your the same age it's hard to believe the individual knows they are gay or bi..
There's a different way to look at it. :yeah:


I would first of all like to say that this question is in no way ment to offend any younger person who is gay.


Looking around these forums I have noticed that their are a fare amount of people in the 13-15 age range who consider themselves to be either gay or bisexual. I myself am 15 and personally am straight, but i was wondering to my self the other day how could someone at this young age possibly know that they are gay or bisexual. I know for some people they have always just liked guys and that was it for them, but I guess im just interested in hearing what other people have to say about this?

Thanks

Jack Johnson.

[BiBoy5674]

i would think you would just like guys :L

[Syvelocin]

Please do not bump old threads. :locked: