Aunt Dying Tonight...

[Ambrosia]

My aunt was an alcoholic for over fourty years. We put her into the hospital last Tuesday because she couldn't move and was acting as if she had OD'd on her medicine (She fell and hurt her shoulder). The next morning, we were told her kidneys were failing. She was still awake then but barely coherent. That night they put her into a medically induced coma. They found out she had staff that had gone septic (Infected her entire blood stream) and pneumonia. Friday they told us if she lived she would lose her legs.

Last night they informed us that she is never going to wake up. That her heart is beating because a machine tells her to, she is breathing for this same reason. We signed the papers today stating that they could pull the plug tonight.

Her parents (Whom are 80) are now fighting with their son (My father). They want to sell all her items, property included (Which is part of our property), cremate her and forget she ever existed. No funeral, no viewing, no nothing. Erase her from existence.

It's...Heartbreaking...I don't really know how to feel about this. She's my only real aunt (Out of three). She taught me how to drive. I wasn't very nice to her the last few times I saw her, even though she lives across the road...

[OptimusPrime]

*Hugs* I know how it's like to lose people. But what your father is doing really makes me wonder if he needs some sort of mental help or something. Maybe he doesn't quite understand the fact he's lost her or something.

[DoctorWho]

Well sometimes its hard you know but think how much she would have suffered if she were to live. Were you close with her.

[christcenteredlife]

wow that's tough. best of luck to you.

[Love.Hate]

Im so sorry to hear this, remember all the good memories you had with her, dont dwell on what you could have done different. You cant change the past. Lexi this is a horrible thing to go through and i think your really brave for being able to post it on here. Is it not possible to ask your grandparents if they would re-think and have a funeral for her? Because adults get all hot headed and maybe coming from a younger persons view they may sympathise more. You dont need a funeral though to say goodbye, because she is always going to be with you. In your heart. I know you will never forget her, so she wont be erased from exsistence because she is still part of your life, your childhood.

Here if you need to talk sweetie <3

[Ambrosia]

She lived a few hours before finally passing. It was a horrible few hours. My grandfather, father, and mother kept fighting. Thanks guys...

[Love.Hate]

She lived a few hours before finally passing. It was a horrible few hours. My grandfather, father, and mother kept fighting. Thanks guys...

:hug: :heart:

She is free now, free from the alcohol that controlled her life. She is peaceful.

I hope your okay sweetie, message me if you need too.

[Kujiro]

Hey Lexi,
Deepest condolence, i was away today for abit.
Im sorry to hear what happened.
From this we begin to grow and understand how brittle life really is.

And from this we too learn how hard can it be to let go of someone.

There are times, we look back and reflect on how much they really meant to us,
things we have failed to apperciate when they were there.

I know it would be hard on everyone, but try to get everyone to calm down, theres no need to fight it out.
As a family, work it out together, everyone would be feeling really down, and its always not wise to make decisions when everyone is angry.

As you are older now, you should try and dissolve the anger and blames.
Ive was nearly caught in such a matter 2 months ago.
When my grandmother was in intensive care due to pneumonia, it was complicated and everyone was tired and very worried.
Heated exchange of words would be very common, but always push them aside to stop any form of arguement.

If they decide to erase her existance, there is nothing you can do.
but always remember, she lives in your heart.
She will forgive the times when you were not very nice to her, regardless where she is, she is peaceful now, and would want her little niece to always be happy, to lead a meaningful life.
Stay strong by your family, they need you more than you think you do.
She will always be watching you from above.

Take care
*big hug*

If you need to talk, im here, always. :D

[DoctorWho]

:kisscheek::hug3: Im very sorry :(

[OptimusPrime]

She lived a few hours before finally passing. It was a horrible few hours. My grandfather, father, and mother kept fighting. Thanks guys...

*hugs* Hope you're okay. If you want to talk to anyone I'm always available. If not on MSN due to course then I'm on Facebook and/or MSN.

[StoppingTime]

I'm very sorry for your loss, my condolences go out to yourself and your family.

[Ambrosia]

She was never truely happy, so I'm very glad to know that she is finally some place she can be happy, where ever that may be. My family is very strange, both sides, including her side. So this is going to be a very odd next few weeks. Were not sure if she had an updated will. Her parents are going against her wishes of a funeral and cremating her. Were going to sneak away some of her ashes to sprinkle here, since they want to go put her some place she didn't even like for their own comfort. They are being greedy by wanting to sell her property, even though she left it to us. It's just disgusting.

But thank you all (:

[Brokeandbetrayed]

Aww! :( that's horrible that her parents want to forget of her existence. It doesn't matter what she's done in the past, she's your aunt. Don't let other people impose on your memory of her. Hope all gets well.

[DoctorWho]

You are still kind even after a tragic event like this.... You are tougher than most people I know I hope you make it through this with help from all your VT friends and non-friends
:)

[ImCoolBeans]

I'm very sorry for your loss :hug: