Girl having openheart

[Travis Is Losing It]

She just had openheart surgery and went to a hospice and they dont think shes going to make it idk what to do :.(

[christcenteredlife]

she had open heart surgery and immediately left the hospital?! what in the world!

who is this girl? is it a friend, girlfriend, or what? i understand this can be difficult so get it off your chest friend.

[Travis Is Losing It]

Shes my girlfriend and she went to hospice which is a hospital for people that are going to die...

[christcenteredlife]

well, if i remember correctly, this was expected, correct? didn't you have some issue's going on with her? anyway, that doesn't change your heartbreak now.

why did she have to have this surgery?

[Travis Is Losing It]

We had an arguement but now that shes actually on her death bed i dont know what to do. we cleared everything up and were fine but she had a hole in her heart from 3923487234 other things and yah...

[christcenteredlife]

oh wow, generally those can be fixed now, with our medicine these days. my foster parents lost a child in 1980 due to a hole in the heart. it was a little girl. she died when she was 2 or 3 days old.

so how long do they expect her to live? and is she at home?

[Travis Is Losing It]

no shes in a hospice which is a hospital for terminally ill. just with all the health problems she has even her family has given up

[christcenteredlife]

generally speaking, not always, hospice comes to the home. that's why i was asking. actually, i don't think i've ever heard of someone, especially a 15 year old going to a hospice center.

so how do you feel about this?

[Travis Is Losing It]

hospice is at home??? theres a ton of hospice hospitals here... like hospitals... and i feel like biting a bullet

[christcenteredlife]

some yes. doctors/nurses, they come to the home to care for the patent. it's typically when a person has 6 months or less to live, or, their care just isn't and won't help any longer. now, all they do is help with pain and things like that. so just because she's in hospice, doesn't mean she's going die tonight. but open heart surgery is a big deal!

[Travis Is Losing It]

She lived through the surgery which her family (mainly her sister letting me know whats happening cause i couldnt get to hospital) basically gave up. im just praying so hard she makes it

[christcenteredlife]

well if she just had the surgery, she should still be at the hospital because it would be too dangerous to move her. so i'm not sure why they moved her to a hospice center.

[Travis Is Losing It]

they moved her to a hospice hospital i even have the adress and name cause im going tomorrow.

[christcenteredlife]

i'm just saying i'm surprised. that's a major surgery and you don't tend to move people after a major surgery like that. moving her could have killed her.

[Travis Is Losing It]

Its connected to pittsburghs major hospital which is connected to our psych ward ^^ i know that place like the back of my hand

[christcenteredlife]

that was still an intense move. anyway, i hope all works out. remember, you've only been dating a few weeks, not even a month. don't make more of this than it is. ok? i know you care for her, and i'm not attempting to down play this at all, a life and emotions are in involved, but remember, you are young. be there as much as you can, but don't let this kill you also.

[Travis Is Losing It]

idc if shes my girl lol. Shes like my best friend shes there for me for EVERYTHING and im there for her for EVERYTHING. I will not allow her to die.

[christcenteredlife]

i'm sorry friend, but you can not control life and death, but what you can do, is help her with the lifetime she's been given left to live, no matter how long that may be.

[Travis Is Losing It]

I know but i know she will make it through this. just wish her own family would think that

[christcenteredlife]

generally, it's a lot harder for family to think positively. they are stuck in the mix more of time.

[Travis Is Losing It]

yah i hear ya. but they give it no hope at all which doesnt help her out at all

[christcenteredlife]

just keep her spirits up the best you can, but remember to not wear yourself out.

[Travis Is Losing It]

i dont care if a wear myself out if it helps her

[christcenteredlife]

wearing yourself out won't help her. you'll end up like her family. you'll just want it to end.

[Travis Is Losing It]

I never give up hope untill its already over. i care to much

[christcenteredlife]

i never said a thing about giving up hope.

[Dack]

I know words only go so far, so hear me out:

I know that you care for her and parents have seemingly stopped, but I don't think it's not for a valid reason. They wouldn't have moved her if her chances were much higher anyway; a hole in her heart is serious irregardless of the the surgery. I know you don't lime it, but I think you should say you last respects to her but don't mention death to her at all. Just tell her what you need to, do NOT cause an argument, then leave. It's for the best, I think, as it sounds that she may not have much time left.

It will hurt to say it, and it will break your heart and hers, but tell her your feelings and then say goodbye. Not to her life; to her. Only come back if you KNOW she'll make it. It will help you get over her sooner, trust me.

[christcenteredlife]

how long have you known this girl?

[Travis Is Losing It]

@ Cailean = thanks but i have to say no to that... i will not say my respects to her because i believe she will make it. i will always be there for her till she gets out or dies next to me.
(also your post dublicated twice may wanna fix that)

@ Kai - honestly i cant remember its that long

[Dack]

Yeah, I know, it quad posted, and I can't delete. Mods, can you get those for me?

[Travis Is Losing It]

ill report it for you so they can get to it and let them know it was a mistake

[christcenteredlife]

how are you and your gf doing today?

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

I'm really sorry to hear about this but I say to you and to this girls family, do not give up hope. A teacher at my old school had to have open heart surgery and everyone was convinced she wasn't going to make it, she was in ICU for 4 months. Then all of a sudden she started to get better and less than a month later she was teaching again. Miracles happen.

But your girl is going to be really really scared right now so try and stay strong and positive for her. I hope everything is ok :hug3:

[Travis Is Losing It]

were doing great :) no fighting what so ever just keeping her calm

[Aubrie]

I'm so sorry about your girlfriend. Just be there for her, but it may not be a bad idea to prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. That's how we handled my dad's situation before he died at least...

[Euroter]

Oh man, how i can relate. I have this girl that a care much about (she isn't my girlfriend and probably never will be, thats okai cause i don't exactly have feelings for her like THAT), she didn't have open heart surgery, but she had fallen fractured her hip, punctured her kidney and bled out inside. i called her every day after school to see how she was doing, and her and her family were worried she wasn't going to make it. and to be honest, she still has problems to date related to that accident. my friend, death is rough. i would really like to know how things went since im obviously past due to reply (considering i just joined). i know how you felt though...