My Dad Wants To Come Back Into My Life (Years Later)

[OFWGKTA]

First off, sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, I'm new to this site.

My dad left before my mom and I before I was even born and when I turned 8 he started coming around and wanting to do stuff with me and being the age that I was, I was just kinda whatever about it. But now I'm 15 and he's still trying to come around and do shit with me, but I really can't forgive him for leaving, for all I know, he could be the fucking reason my mom doesn't have a good amount of money and has to work all fucking day and night just for a small sum of money. When I look back on it, it just fucking pisses me off that he decides to come back into my fucking life and thinks that I should work my fucking life around him. What should I do? :/

[Travis Is Losing It]

Maybe your dad regrets leaving you. Sure its hard for you to accept that he wants you back in his life after leaving you and your mom for 8 years in my opinion is trash. But if hes honest and wants to come back you should atleast try.

[Julien7]

hey, omg ive had the same thing 2 years ago, never seen him then my mum tells me he was @ our house, freaked me out and he wants contact again.
He lives in the Caribbean, Ive been going to him loads of times in the past couple of years, its fun having a second dad, (I love my stepdad more)

[Travis Is Losing It]

Yah listen to julien. its worth a shot and he could turn out to actually be a good guy that just made a mistake on impulse and was to embarresed to admit he was wrong and come back to the famiy he left

[Kujiro]

You mentioned your dad wanted to do shit to you.
How are you able to define that?
Abuse? or trying to control your life?

But either way, as you have mentioned, this has happened years ago, which i believe whatever he was doing to you, was not that all bad.
Maybe he was just trying to discipline you and guide you to the right path.

You did not mention his reason why did he leave, but you are unable to forgive him.
Why not be rational, have a chat with him.

It was wrong for him to take off for a couple of years, throwing the responsibility to your mum.
But everyone has problems, and only by getting them to open up we would know what they are.

If you do not give him a chance to speak for himself, how are you going to accept a person that is actually back in your life as it is now.

My suggestion would be to speak to you mum and dad about it, regardless he is your dad, and its not a choice.
Friends can be chosen, but theres no way we can choose where and who we are born to.

Being forgiving and accepting is a step to maturity, being your dad, an amount of respect should and always be given, but the rest he would have to earn it.
It applies to everyone.

Good luck
*smile*

[georgiamay]

:arrow: Family and Friends.

[Rawrgasm]

give him a chance, hes clearly trying..

sure its never the right thing to leave a mother and a newborn child, but the guys still a human..

[Foamy]

I never met my pop. Don't even rly care about him. If wants to be in ur life, he shouldve been there from the start.

[tyler007]

Hey I know this will not be a popular answer,,, but FUCK HIM... i dont know who my real dad is: but i have a step dad who is awesome. My real dad never did shit for me or my mom ever, so fuck him and take your step dad if it is safe.

[Kdude146]

well everyone should get a 2nd chance and I think you should give him one if you don't want to go see him alone then bring a friend you trust