A friend in need..I want BAD??

[donidoni111]

I have a friend who is going through a lot right now. We are not close but I want to be. Is it really bad that I want to try and get close to him and maybe make it more than friends? I do want to help him I really do but I also want to be with him really bad? Moral issue here? Dont know what to do?

[ExhibitG]

well i think you should be a friend first, and if you are good enough friend maybe he'll like you back :) that seems like the best route.

[christcenteredlife]

in my opinion yes, it's wrong. not that you want to help him, but that you want it use this hard time in their life, to get something more than friendship. they need sincerity, and i'm sure you want what's best for them, but you also have secondary motives. i feel it's wrong, but that's just one guys opinion.

[donidoni111]

I want him too really bad. I will try and help so he will let me in but he is tough to get close to. I guess the rest will work out if it was meant to be.

[ExhibitG]

I want him too really bad. I will try and help so he will let me in but he is tough to get close to. I guess the rest will work out if it was meant to be.

do you want to experiment with him? is it that kind of sexual attraction? or do you have a crush on him?

[donidoni111]

I agree. I wont do that at all. He just lost his mom and thats enough for him to deal with right now. I will try and be there as a friend if he will let me. I feel so stupid for even asking. thanks guys

[donidoni111]

Thanks for all the comments !!! It was in bad taste I know but no chance anyway. He wont let me in to just try and be a friend. I hope he will at some point.

[BeachBoy]

Donny, give him some space. I know you like him always have but now is not the time. Not saying you are doing anything but man.

[Boxerbriefs96]

Doesnt everything start with a friendship? OK mabye not but in this case that is how you should start. Become friends and you two will trust each other more and you will progress from there if all goes well.

[BeachBoy]

Missing the point, I dont know the person well at all but I do know what he is going through. now is not the time Donny so I think backing off is a good idea !

[SilentKillah]

Just be his friend at first man. Can't rush it.

[Tristian1994]

I agree give the guy some room. The last thing on his mind is prob you? Dont want to sound mean.

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

Just be friends first. Be truthful to him and you never know what may happen. Curiosity and experimenting my lead to more, you never know. I would not compromise friendship for that one "chance"...you never know how it will turn out for sure.

[Ambrosia]

p101:arrow:family and friends

[Unsolvedmind]

Just be friends for a while and then tell him the truth

[StoppingTime]

I would just be friends for now, and wouldn't talk to him about it while he's in a bad place. You never know how he will react.

[Kujiro]

Some things in life cannot be forced on, technically it's a window to get closer to him, but with an intention to progress further than friendship is wrong.

It's equivalent to swooping a girl when she's fallen out with her boyfriend.

What I would suggest, would be sincerely aid him to tide these hard times, getting to know him better, in turn understanding yourself better.
From the looks of it, you are more likely infatuated with him rather than in love.

Unconditionally being a supportive, encouraging and sincere friend would be the best way.
Anything else that develops would be a mystery.
But this is the most rational move you can take, while leaving the rest till later.

Many a times, it's better to be best friends then to pursue a relationship, only to realize it was a moment of impulse.

Advise we share can only bring you thus far, the final decision lies in your hands.

Best of luck
*smile*