How can I show her that i'm telling the truth?

[Hatsune Miku]

So my girlfriend has had alot of shitty exes, actually every one of them cheated or lied to her. So now shes with me, and I would never cheat on her or do anything they did, but shes still so scared that I will. I don't blame her, shes trusted other guys and they ended up hurting her, so because of that shes scared that I'll do the same. How can I prove to her that I wont? Shes already broken up with me because she was scared that I was going to hurt her (we talked it out and she agreed to come back) but I just want her to believe me. I've told her everything I could to try and make her see that I won't hurt her, but shes just too paranoid. Anybody have any ideas how I can prove it? I know she shouldn't be comparing me to them, and I've told her this, but shes still just scared, I want to try and ease her fear so this relationship can go smoothly.

( If anybody would like the fully story, with alot more details and would like to talk to me and try and help then PM me. I'd really appreciate it. )

[anonymous53]

Matty, the only way to gain her trust is by doing the right thing over time. You can't convince anyone to trust you.

[Hatsune Miku]

I know, but I just want to give her a sense of security. I've told her to just give me time and she'll see that I mean what I say, but she said it's really hard.

[Cybercode]

Dude, I'm in the exact same spot. Except I'm still single, but I'm still working on it. I'm not one to brag but I like to be the gentlemen. I respect girls, I open the doors for them, I'd do anything for them. Even though I'm ugly, I try to be the nice guy. With girls that just don't trust people cause of past relationships, I focus on them more, basically cause they need to see that not all guys are bad, in fact there's still some guys out there like you and me, just trying to show the girls, who was dissed, that real gentlemen are still here.

My advice to you, is be a gentleman for her. Basically show all your respect for her, make her feel like she's the queen of the world. OK not that far, but you get my point. Show her that not ALL guys are bad.

[VamosToro]

Dude, I'm in the exact same spot. Except I'm still single, but I'm still working on it. I'm not one to brag but I like to be the gentlemen. I respect girls, I open the doors for them, I'd do anything for them. Even though I'm ugly, I try to be the nice guy. With girls that just don't trust people cause of past relationships, I focus on them more, basically cause they need to see that not all guys are bad, in fact there's still some guys out there like you and me, just trying to show the girls, who was dissed, that real gentlemen are still here.

My advice to you, is be a gentleman for her. Basically show all your respect for her, make her feel like she's the queen of the world. OK not that far, but you get my point. Show her that not ALL guys are bad.

That's good advice but no ones ugly, just unique in looks. There is no ugly.

[music is my soul]

I gotta agree aith these guys. Be as respectful as possible.

[Travis Is Losing It]

Best thing you can do is simply not cheat or lie to her. you said you wont so dont and she will realise in time its the truth

[christcenteredlife]

the only thing you can do is live the truth. don't use words as much as live the words. that's what she's going to believe.

[Dack]

Be the man of men; open doors for her, pay for her food when you go out, bring her nice gifts. Treat her like she's the only girl in the world. Confide in her, make her feel needed. Do this and she'll definitely begin to trust you.

[bravo-charlie]

Nothing will come quickly after all the guys that hurt her and all that.She will believe you over time.Don't push or rush anything.Always tell her the truth.The more you do that, the more she will believe you, and the more trust you will gain from her.

[kizzy]

Matty, the only way to gain her trust is by doing the right thing over time. You can't convince anyone to trust you.

agreed!

[Hatsune Miku]

None of this is working. Right now she keeps saying that I'm going to be like all of the other guys. That I'm going to cheat on her. I keep telling her I'm not, I wrote so much, said so much but she won't believe me. It's tearing me apart and I don't know what to do!!

[Timmy93]

shit if you did all you can do then give up...she can only know if you are telling the truth on her own time just forget about it

[Hatsune Miku]

No. I'm never going to give up.

[Timmy93]

bro you're hurting yourself stressin about telling the truth look if you and God know you are telling the truth then thats all that matters they're more girls out there thats her fault she dont believe you just stop thinking about it and move on with her

[Kujiro]

Trust is brittle; just like Rome was not build in a day, it would take time, and positive actions to gain trust.
She's afraid to trust because of her past experiences, its a tough one, but with perseverance and determination, and motivation by you love for her, it would conquer that.

She's afraid to trust and fall harder than before. Actions always speaks louder than words.
You need to be a supportive boyfriend, and very patient.
Don't make promises for the sake of making her happy, but make them because you really mean it.
These are little bit of details which you may gain her trust, allow her to pour out how she feels to you, share with her how you feel at times.

There's a clear line between being generous and pampering, thread on the right line and all would be fine.

It's blessed that she's already willing to open her doors to you, it now all up to you.

Good luck and all the best
*smile*

[Hatsune Miku]

The promises I made have been very sincere. Everything I've ever said to her has all been truth but she just wont believe it. I am being patient, but its so hard when shes constantly trying to break up with me. I understand that shes scared, that she doesn't want to get hurt and fall even harder then before, but she wont give me time. She says that everything I say to her is bullshit. That I'm going to do the same thing everybody else did to her, but she wont give me a chance, she wont give me time! I just.. I don't know what to do! But I don't want to give up! I want to prove myself to her and never give up.

[Kujiro]

If that's the situation, it's where perseverance comes to play, try to start of as a supportive friend.
Like a bestie, be there for her.
She is very afraid, from the way you've placed it.
In fact she may be still in depression, you can try to give her the room and space she needs, but always be the guardian angel by her side.

Time will tell, and time will heal all wounds. The more eggy it becomes the more defensive she would naturally be.

Taking a step back, may actually be a good approach.
She is not in the mindset of "be mine", but rather "be there".

My quote says, dragons can be beaten, and they always will be.
Good luck
*smile*

[Hatsune Miku]

She just blocked me on Facebook and she wont answer her phone...

[Kujiro]

Give her the space she needs. Don't rush it.
Stay cool.

She's withdrawing due too too aggressive advances.
Relax :)

[Hatsune Miku]

Well she didn't block me, Facebook is just fucking up like usual. I left her a message on her phone. I'm just really scared to lose her and its really hard for me to think when I'm this scared. She did this 3 times already.

[Kujiro]

Go out, take your mind off it, go to the arcade, or mall, play xbox or something.
You just need to calm down.
Doing nothing will cause u to wonder and mull over it again and again.

And at this point, it's not helping.
*winks*

[Hatsune Miku]

Well, considering the fact that it's almost 3 AM. I don't think going out with be very good. I tried playing xbox or something to get my mind off of it but its not doing anything for me. I've taken a deep breath and pulled myself together as much as I can. It's late and I need to get to sleep. I'll deal with this in the morning, hopefully things will get better.

[Dack]

Here's my two cents.

I know how hard it is to not think about her all the time, what she's feeling, why she isn't responding to you, but the best thing to do is to occupy yourself with something else. Play Guitar Hero, go ride your bike, anything that requires full attention will make time speed up. Next time you see her and you two are alone, hold her tight and kiss her. Make sure she knows you're there for her and you always will be. Make her feeling like you need her to be happy and over time she will begin to trust you.

[sarah14]

the only way to let her know ur telling the truth is to be truthfull(duh) and to give her time

[Dark_Desires]

I was going to say give her a hug tell her how u feel about her and that u dont want to lose her cause u obviously dont want to.Try talking to her more asking about how she feels and her day that always helps trust me i was in the same situation

[sammy1996]

just be patient and stay with her, over time she will notice your different

[Hatsune Miku]

We talked about it again, and she says that she fully trusts me now. I could tell more but I'm too lazy. Thanks for all the replies and help everyone. I really do appreciate them.

[Kujiro]

We talked about it again, and she says that she fully trusts me now. I could tell more but I'm too lazy. Thanks for all the replies and help everyone. I really do appreciate them.

Thats truly exceptional, now you have crossed the bridge, maintain it and give her the happiness and comfort she really needs.

Its blessed to love and to be loved, make the best and the most of each other's company.

Enjoy the sweet results of preserverance, and take lots of care for you new loved one.
But always remember women are like waves, their mood goes up and down, and can be somewhat unpredictiable.
Patience and forgiveness are the key to everyone's happiness.

Best Wishes
*smile*

[Ambrosia]

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