Can't get my mind off of it

[Spinner]

I know I posted something like this before but I can't get my mind off it. I'm almost 17 never had a girlfriend I want one so bad not to just say I have one but I like the thought of being close to someone and they close to me. But I know this will not for a long time and this makes me feel alone and like no one cares people say it will get better and look but I am shy in a lot of ways and don't do well with meeting new people even guys just I'm afraid of a bad first impression because I can be really clumsy and even people i know feel like im annoying them by just saying hi and that depresses me. I think of cutting my self a lot but my parents will send me to mental hospital.

[christcenteredlife]

well luckily, you have to be evaluated before a mental hospital will keep you, not that that's a reason to harm yourself, but maybe you should really think about things and what really matters. you don't want to hurt yourself over a girl. it's not really that big of a deal, relationships are very serious and to have just to have one, is pointless really. it will just lead to pain.

[JohnHoper]

Fear is something you just have to face up to and overcome. There's nothing wrong with being shy, and if first impressions is what your'e worried about, remember this... you are who you decide be. People don't know you by first impressions, so this is why even if you do seem clumsy or something during a first meet, hang in there and build on the relationship between you and the other person. If you are also worried about what people think of you, just go up to them and ask what they think of you, they'll be sure to know that you'll be the guy with the guts to ask! Lastly, why cut yourself? Seriously? Do that weight lifting or something. Girls would sure like those muscles more than those scars xD in the meantime, find a sport of activity you like to keep your mind busy, who knows... you might build your confidence meeting other people in those groups that have the same interest as you as well as meeting that girl ;D good luck

[Amaryllis]

Cutting is -not- the answer. I don't remember when I first cut but all I know is, young. And no, it didn't make me any better. And honey, we won't -always- have people there for us. That's why we gotta learn to rely on ourselves. In the end, nobody can help you except you. people can give you a push or lift but you gotta learn to be okay with just you. We probably spend the majority of our time alone. There's nothing wrong with that. However, if you really don't want to, you can make friends. It's easy. Just go up to someone, smile and say "Hi, I'm Spencer." or ask someone how they are. People will care for you if you care for them. However, this is not always the case. Go with the flow. Wherever that takes you.

Love,
Faith and Trust