Selfharm past/presant + relashionships

[Charlotte93]

So the way i was razed you don't lie to your partner (gf bf whatever u want to call it) and well with the last guy i dated i always felt like i was liying to him because i never told him about me shing. It put terrable guilt on me and i just hated felling that way. We eventualy broke up not for that reason though. Now im going into highschool and i will probably be in new relashionships but i don't want that terable guilty feeling.

2 q's Do anyof u guys feel like this? Is there anyway to make it go away or would i just have to tell the person that at any moment i could relaps and possibly land myself in the hospital.

Sorry if this post is in the worng place it just seemed like the best place to ask.

[Love.Hate]

If you trust them enough, then you should be able to tell them. I had that guilt feeling, but if they love you they will be there to support you through it. But it's all your decision whether you tell them or not, people usually have a habit of finding out eventually. It's your descision you shouldn't feel guilty about it.

[Amaryllis]

If you think this is a relationship that will last and you've been in it for a while and you trust him... Well, I see no reason why you -shouldn't- tell him. If he loves you, he'll help you get through it, maybe. If he doesn't know what to do or freaks out, that just means he cares and well, doesn't know what to do. If he's a jerk about it then, well, he's a jerk and you should leave him. Cutting isn't who you are. It is a part of you. It isn't -you-. You are not "The Cutter". You are Charlotte or whatever your name is. It's like calling a guy, "The Guy". It's a part of who you are. Not -who- you are. And even if you don't tell him, you have no reason to feel guilty. You don't tell your boyfriend every single time you get your period or what you ate for breakfast, lunch and dinner so... Really, I don't think it's a problem. But tell him if you trust him enough.

Love,
Faith and Trust