Help, not sure if what I feel is wrong

[Michigan48111]

I am about to turn 15 and I am not attracted to guys my own age, I find myself fantasizing about guys older then me. The problem is they are a lot older than me. I have a major crush on the neighbor's 23 yr old who is home after finishing college this summer. I know they always talk about older guys that go after young ones, but it's opposite for me. I am the younger one and I want to be with someone older.....I don't have a problem with it, but everyone else will. Am I wrong to feel the way I do, I don't think I am wrong, to me its just a personal choice that I am attracted to older guys.

[disassociation2016]

You have to respect the laws. I'm sorry that you can't have what you want right now, but I'd think it best you wait till you get older to approach guys that are that old.

[Infidelitas]

Its okay to fantasize (I do it to Cory Monteith from Glee) but anyway, but I know they are too old, its okay to be with someone older, but it is better off if you both are both adults.

[Can'tHelpIt]

Yeah that sucks im only 13 and all the guys in my grade are straight and sporty so all i have is Google Images

[prob1996]

There is nothing wrong in having an attraction to older guys. There are few of my older brother's friends I totally lust after. It's whatever your preferance is.
Now ACTING on that attraction, especially with someone who is 23, can have serious consqeunces. Legal and otherwise. You're best bet is to stick with the fantasy for right now until you become of legal age.

[Travis Is Losing It]

See I don't understand the whole older fantasing thing because i like younger girls and guys (my girlfriends only 15 and im 18 almost 19) but laws are things that must be taken into consideration. If you prefer older guys go for guys that are in your legal range (depends on state most are a 4 year boundary)

[Kujiro]

It's perfectly to like someone older than you, it's very common, and I I'm sure there are attributes which older guys do offer, for instance, emotional security.

It's evident that you are looking for a stable and secure partner.
Age should not be a barrier, I too realize that you have came out on your sexuality, I guess the gap should not be a tougher hurdle.

Love is boundless, and if you really want to look at it, age is really just a number.
You mentioned that some people may have a problem with who you like,
But firstly, yo don't need anyone's permission to fall in love, and to love someone, so why bother what people think?

But a word of caution, do not be too gullible and always watch before you leap,
Know your partner well, and make sure it's love and not sex only.
Geared with everyone's advise, I'm sure you see the road ahead.

Good luck
*smile*

[Emiil]

I am about to turn 15 and I am not attracted to guys my own age, I find myself fantasizing about guys older then me. The problem is they are a lot older than me. I have a major crush on the neighbor's 23 yr old who is home after finishing college this summer. I know they always talk about older guys that go after young ones, but it's opposite for me. I am the younger one and I want to be with someone older.....I don't have a problem with it, but everyone else will. Am I wrong to feel the way I do, I don't think I am wrong, to me its just a personal choice that I am attracted to older guys.

hahah yay you're like me :D i like older guys too haha :) i used to like a guy that was like 25 haha :) and no i dont think its wrong or anything haha :D

[Fushigi]

actually u answered ur question.. yeah you are right.. it's your personal choice and you are the one who will be affected by that , so no one can ever tell you what to do because at the end of the day , you are the only one who will be affected on what you will do.. so better choose what you think is right and will make you happy , so that u wont regret anything that you haven't done or you have done.. :)

[bleedoutlove]

23 is a bit old for a 15 year old, but it's completely normal for you to want to be with someone older -- quite a lot of people do, that's why where I'm from anyways, it's not unusual to see a 13 year old girl dating an 18 year old guy...although personally I find 18 and 13 a bit of an age gap cause they're so young :/ But yeah, it's okay and it's normal.

[kuuliluuk]

your preference isn't a choice really. Otherwise you would have chosen something more comfortable to prefer.

[DoctorWho]

Just leave it and go back to kids your age