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Megson
August 18th, 2011, 03:02 PM
Most of my life, I just assumed I was straight...but I've never even dated a guy. I notice them, and sometimes think they're attractive, but I've never really been interested AT ALL in dating them. Still, I figured I just didn't like any of the guys around here.
Well, last year, I found myself crushing on a girl. I could really relate to her and what she was going through, and I found myself thinking about her ALL THE TIME. I never told her, though. She moved away this summer. I've gotten over that part of it though, and I'm over my crush at this point.
But now, my mind is so jumbled up. I always thought I was straight. But now that I'm putting thought into it, I can't imagine a future with a man. I can't even imagine having sex with one. But with a girl... The possibilities are endless.
I'm only sixteen. Could this be a phase, or am I just confused? If not, am I bi, or am I a lesbian?
I don't hardly 'notice' anyone, whether they're male or female. Most of my thought process goes with how I imagine my future. My high school is so homophobic that even if I found out I was les, I would never come out. I'd wait til college to live any sort of love life.
For my own sake, though, what do you guys think? I need help figuring this out...

jessehs
September 8th, 2011, 09:53 PM
if you have never really liked guys and your one love is a girl then I would say you are lesbian than don't let any one else make you hide that if that's who you are.

humanesquire
September 8th, 2011, 11:30 PM
Keep in mind that sexuality is fluid. To me it sounds like you're a lesbian. You could just say that you'll love who you love.

Megson
September 9th, 2011, 09:23 PM
Keep in mind that sexuality is fluid. To me it sounds like you're a lesbian. You could just say that you'll love who you love.

"You love who you love, it doesn't matter."

I practically live by that, actually :) You don't fall in love with a gender, you fall in love with a person. And thanks for your input!

Anyways, I live in a very homophobic area, though, so as long as I'm still questioning my overall sexuality, I figure I should just say I'm straight. It'll make my high school life a lot easier.