Very confused!

[Short Circuit]

OK, I have just joined this forum, and I cannot understand how people say they are straight, but admit giving H/J and B/J to other guys.

Surely, if you do this sort of thing, you MUST be bi or gay???


(....sits back and waits for all hell to break loose.)

[Kevinlegit15]

Experementing is completely normal it doesn't mean you are gay or bi

[joeyyy41]

at the age we're at, we tend to experiment. its just messing around, but your not attracted to the same sex. like in my case, me and my best friend have givin each other head, but were both straight. its just trying something new. hence, the reason we are straight-Curious
lol

[lambo420]

You dont have to be gay or bi, maybe the person is just curious thats all

[mrbob360]

if you have been reading the posts then you would notice theres something called experinemnt which is perefectly normal whether its the same sex or the oppsite sex it relates to you having fluctuation hormones which affect the way you behave and feel

[Giles]

There's a fine line between simple curiosity (experimenting) and doing things that could be seen as gay/bi. So if you masturbated with friends a few times, that could be seen as curiosity - when it comes to the fourth, fifth, sixth time though things start looking less like curiosity.

[Timmy93]

because they experiment and are curious plus this is a safe community and we don't judge because we are all the same

[anth1695]

OK, I have just joined this forum, and I cannot understand how people say they are straight, but admit giving H/J and B/J to other guys.

Surely, if you do this sort of thing, you MUST be bi or gay???


(....sits back and waits for all hell to break loose.)

wow im really with u on that!! i wont mind the idea of the H/J we can say its experimentin but givin BJS how u consider tht experimenting thts totally gay or bi .

[StoppingTime]

You aren't gay or bi just for experimenting. This is called being curious.
It is completely normal for every teen, and in no way does it make you bi or gay.
It is curiosity if you did it two or three times, but after this, yes, it starts to look questionable.

[anth1695]

so ill assume givin a bj is a 100% man act ? not gay ?

[Short Circuit]

Right, I undertand what your saying everyone, but curiosity/experimenting is something you do once, if you do it often, that is habitual, therefore it leaves no gray areas, its just black and white?

I am not having a pop any anyone, but where does the "experimenting" stop, and bisexuality/homosexuality begin?

[DoctorWho]

Curiosity.... You never knew?

[StoppingTime]

Right, I undertand what your saying everyone, but curiosity/experimenting is something you do once, if you do it often, that is habitual, therefore it leaves no gray areas, its just black and white?

I am not having a pop any anyone, but where does the "experimenting" stop, and bisexuality/homosexuality begin?

I think if you make a ritual of it, like say "every Wednesday after school" I go over to X and do..... This is no longer experimenting, to me at least. If you do it once or twice with two or three people, I think its fine.

[travis101]

Right, I undertand what your saying everyone, but curiosity/experimenting is something you do once, if you do it often, that is habitual, therefore it leaves no gray areas, its just black and white?

I am not having a pop any anyone, but where does the "experimenting" stop, and bisexuality/homosexuality begin?

kyle u will more than likely not get the answer u are looking for on this forum.......it seems everyone here explains away gayness with hormones or experimenting.......i would say the majority of guys in this forum are gay or bi and the rest are in denial

[TrevorTime]

The way I look at it, if two guys just do the hand job thing, then that's experimenting. But if it goes beyond that, then it could mean you are gay or bi.

[Nicky97]

OK, I have just joined this forum, and I cannot understand how people say they are straight, but admit giving H/J and B/J to other guys.
That's because you are new, that you can't understand.

[Shadowin]

that is because it is normal to wonder i always say ill try most anything once.

[pianodude]

Being bi and gay means that you have both a physical and emotional attraction to men or men and women. Experimenting is simply having fun and exploring your options, it's not til you have an emotional attraction to a male that it becomes acts of homosexuality or bisexuality.

[Kujiro]

Right, I undertand what your saying everyone, but curiosity/experimenting is something you do once, if you do it often, that is habitual, therefore it leaves no gray areas, its just black and white?

I am not having a pop any anyone, but where does the "experimenting" stop, and bisexuality/homosexuality begin?

By far interesting, and some depth in your question.
It depends on how far personally you wish to draw the line on when does it stop.

Im my opinion experimention and curiousity is a 1 off thing the most 3, anything more would be a "want" rather than a "need".

But its definate that a homosexual/bisexual sexuality has to have an emotional factor involved. Consistantly doing it with the same gender, would be odd if you are to actually deny if you do not like it.
As it is a fact that you would not do what you do not like, and there is no way to force on that.

Morever it always takes 2 hands to clap.
But we have to consider at times, its a subsitution for the opposite gender if you dont have a chance to get one.

To each his own.

Cheers

[Short Circuit]

Good answer Kujiro.

I do not want to use the cliche, "I have gay friends but ......"

I always treat people how they treat me, in so that, one of my best friends is gay, and when we meet and say goodbye, I will give him a hug, just like I do girls. I would NEVER consider this to be a gay act, although some would say it is.

I am very comfortable being hetrosexual, and have never ever been curious about doing anything with a boy, thats why I cant understand this whole concept of "I am straight, but would definately "DO" another boy :what:

I have enjoyed reading these replies, and will look forward to some more "arguements" in the future.

Cheers

[SickWill]

Experimenting is normal

[Electra Heart]

Dude, does it really matter? I've done a ton of gay stuff and I havent gone 3 months without a gf since I was 10, who knows what I'll turn out to be but I am who I am

[Kujiro]

Good answer Kujiro.

I do not want to use the cliche, "I have gay friends but ......"

I always treat people how they treat me, in so that, one of my best friends is gay, and when we meet and say goodbye, I will give him a hug, just like I do girls. I would NEVER consider this to be a gay act, although some would say it is.

I am very comfortable being hetrosexual, and have never ever been curious about doing anything with a boy, thats why I cant understand this whole concept of "I am straight, but would definately "DO" another boy :what:

I have enjoyed reading these replies, and will look forward to some more "arguements" in the future.

Cheers

Then perhaps is just you,
Being nice to others whom are nice to you is good, and not minding sexual acts with guys may put you in the grey area between straight and bisexual.
But inclining more to the straight.

We are made to love both man and woman, it's not wrong to say most people are bi , but more inclined towards 1 gender.

[Short Circuit]

Then perhaps is just you,
Being nice to others whom are nice to you is good, and not minding sexual acts with guys may put you in the grey area between straight and bisexual.
But inclining more to the straight.

We are made to love both man and woman, it's not wrong to say most people are bi , but more inclined towards 1 gender.

Dont think I am bi in any way, I just treat him as I would my female friends as he is very feminate. There is a difference between a "man hug" and a loving hug (I hope) :yeah:

[alphus]

It doesn't really matter what people think their sexual orientation is! at the end of the day sex is sex and people enjoy different things with different people across the two sexes! The whole notion of "they must be gay if they've give H/J and B/J" is quite frankly irrelevant if the person is comfortable with their sexual orientation and enjoyed whatever activity they did with another guy! That's just how I feel anyway :)

[Peep Show]

Yeah I think its fine. Just straight people being curious.