Best Friend or More?

[red_light drama]

Me and my friend used to like each other like 2-3 years ago but did nothing with our relationship. Although we moved on to other relationships, we never experienced feelings for each other and asked what happened, besides we were pretty different. Ever since I never really admitted I started to consider her as more than a best friend. The thing was, i considered lshe knew all the other ppl i was crushin on, and that was like 4 ppl. During a really deep conversation this week she told me she liked me and she said she knew i didnt like her back and its okay. Well this conversation was mondo deep and it went to how im there for her and me promising how ill never leave her. The thing was, I dont know how I feel, I dont even know if im straight... cause im assuming im bi but thats just being open. Focusing on the relationship part, in public we kinda act like were together and people assume it. But i just like when people think im someones boyfriend cause im kinda a manwhore. And when we'd be together cuddling in a movie or in the park, it feels nice and it convinces me im even straight, but idk. but thats the same with other girls too. If i do, shes so good for me cause were completely honest and open with each other and i thought about kissing her during our deep conversation cause i was just so attracted to her but she was vulnerable. when she admitted it towards the end, i was just in so much shock all i told her was that i dont know how i feel... suddenly were back to normal and idk what i should do cause shes gone thru crap and it goes to me risking our friendship or her feelings, and mine with others cause she dated 2 of my best friends and when i broke the first one up when she liked me, that guy hated me even if we didnt date. lastly if im not too sure about my feelings should i risk trying anything at all. I love her, but im not sure if in that way.

[Origami]

Friendship based romances are tricky and annoying. You know everything about each other which, as you stated, can cause a problem with it. Also, the honesty isn't always so steady once you're with one another, because if she cheats on Bob, she can tell you. If she cheats on you, uh oh. Now, wanting to kiss her I'd say is normal, I've had the urge with my best friend as well, and let me just commend you on "but she was vulnerable." +10 respect. Anyway, as I said earlier, it's tricky. It all comes down to what you think is best. The result could be traumatic to your friendship, or it could turn into a blissful relationship. It may even just turn into nothing. Hope the best for you!

[SadAngel]

Let me get this straight you love her but you don't have any feelings for her? That's not love that's just a crush. You got to love and care for someone that's the feelings. You're young it's teenage crush. Go out with her maybe your feelings for her will grow stronger and you'll love her maybe. When she went out with your best friends you wasn't angry or sad was you? No. Those are feeling's which you have for someone you care about and want spend the rest of your life with. You care about her in a friend way but I don't think you love her if your not sure about you feelings. Just say if she did went with another guy how would you react? Mad? upset? stressed? depressed? lonely? confused? fuss about it? Only you know your feelings no one else you got to answer this question to see what would your feelings be.

[red_light drama]

"you love her but you don't have any feelings for her? That's not love that's just a crush."

So when I said I love her but I'm not sure in what way, I dont mean I know if im In love, or crushing on her, but I might just love her like a sister or best friend, i just know I probably care about her cause were best friends but i might also have a slight unresolved crush...

[SadAngel]

"you love her but you don't have any feelings for her? That's not love that's just a crush."

So when I said I love her but I'm not sure in what way, I dont mean I know if im In love, or crushing on her, but I might just love her like a sister or best friend, i just know I probably care about her cause were best friends but i might also have a slight unresolved crush...


Maybe you been friends with her too long and your so use to seeing her as a best friend more then a lover yeah I think it could be that. There's always a try to go out with her on a date and be boyfriends and girlfriends for a while maybe it would change your mind about seeing her as a best friend.