Q for guys

[LivierGleek]

I used to have a guy best friend. There were so many guys he could be bffs with, but he chose a girl, me. so now, im just curious. if a guy is your best friend, is there any chance for him to fall in love with you and would he tell? c'm'on guys, you must know :D

[Giles]

That depends on if he's interested in you, obviously. Some guys would get to a 'best friend' stage with a girl because they want to be with them as a friend and others might do it because they want to get into a more intimate relationship. We can't really tell you what he's feeling so you're going to have to guess (or otherwise find out) what his feelings are towards you - of course you could simply try flirting with him, if he flirts back seriously then there's a chance he's interested in going further and if he passes it off as a joke then he's probably not. That said he could pass it off as a joke because he's nervous or he doesn't know if you're being serious or not, regardless of if he wants it to be serious.

That's the problem with asking for advice like this from people that don't know either of you - we don't know what you're relationship is like and you can't tell us to a degree that would be helpful. You're just going to have to take what advice you can from myself and later posters and apply it to your situation.

[LivierGleek]

Yeah, i noticed guys are afraid of being rejected. Thanks :D

[Sogeking]

:arrow:Relationships and Dating

[Kuervo]

yeah ive seen this before. msot of the times you are best friends with the opposite sex and you guys end up falling for each other :) but there is a possibility of this happening

[LivierGleek]

The thing is i dont want this to happen : D

[Origami]

The thing is i dont want this to happen : D

It can, and is likely to happen. And best friends usually don't work well dating as you simply know too much about one another. My best friend and I are in a similar situation, but we've both liked each other for a very long time now, we've just accepted that it's a no no action and shouldn't ever come to fruition. Now, he may never fall for you, but if he does just make sure he understands that isn't what you want and instead, you want to keep a healthy friendship with one another.

[Sage]

Generally speaking, you could develop feelings for anyone. In my own personal life, however, I have two or three best friends who are female, and the thought of being together with any of them has never crossed my mind.

[LivierGleek]

Thanks guys. You know, I really could have fell for him, but as Origami said, I just now to much about him. There's no surprise/spark. :/

[Spock]

he might not tell but he would drop hints

[Jecko8675]

well yes. if you get in a strong enough relationship he may just fall for you....i guess all that matters is if he does..do u like him to?

[LuckyLuke]

Most of my friends are girls and, to be honest, there's one I've had a crush on since we first met in 6th grade- we're now in 12th.

If she didn't have a boyfriend I would tell her.

[LivierGleek]

I actually only like his as a friend. I used to fancy him, but when i was like, when we brake up, all that friendship would be gone forever.

LuckyLuke --> what if she feels the same way about you ?

[superstar2067]

From a guy's perspective
My bestfriend is a girl and I have to say, deep down I like her, a lot. I like someone else but deep down I still like her because I know that she only see's me as a friend and I'm perfectly fine with that because I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship.

[Kujiro]

From most ive seen, platonic friends between a male and female are rare.
I would not say I've seen much, but it's always the case whereby a guy hangs with a girl is to further into a relationship. It tends to be a little goal orientated.

Guys are tend to assume more than women, they would think a women likes him just because she's treating him better.
They would rather spend more effort on girls they have a chance at, or with their guy cliques.

As I've mentioned it's rare but it's not impossible, there are things we find easier to share on a friendship level, rather than in a relationship.
And going into a relationship is as good as risking losing a friend, assuming it does not work out.

It's possible that he does like or fancy you, especially if you realize he has been douching his friends just to tag along with you to grab a shirt at the mall.
Or have been doing things that he does not normal do for friends.

Women are more sensitive when it comes to this perhaps you would notice them too..

Good luck :)

[LivierGleek]

Thanks for you all ^^

[TragicJello]

i'm in love with my best friend, and i haven't told her yet.

[steve14]

yeahh deff

[LuckyLuke]

I actually only like his as a friend. I used to fancy him, but when i was like, when we brake up, all that friendship would be gone forever.

LuckyLuke --> what if she feels the same way about you ?

I know she used to (she had pulled me aside and told me "So, I don't know if you know this but I used to have a huge crush on you) and I, for whatever reason, didn't tell her how I felt. I think she still does like me, she's very flirty; unfortunately, she's been with someone for over a year and I think telling her now would just strain our friendship so long as she's with this guy.

I should have told her.

[Unsolvedmind]

Most likely yup

[LivierGleek]

You should have. But just wait a little. She's not gonna marry that guy and when they're broke, it's your time to shine =]

[AmusedDJ]

i do if i talk to the girl for a long time but i kinda give her hints and not just directly say "hey i like you"

[Aiedail]

I actually only like his as a friend. I used to fancy him, but when i was like, when we brake up, all that friendship would be gone forever.

I know how you feel here, I was the best friend of my now current girlfriend for about a year before I fell for her and when I did I told her and she said no, that seriously almost broke my heart, particularly when she started going out with another guy a few months later but after they where though and I still had feelings for her I didn't really want to ask her as it might endanger our friendship, however im glad one of my other friends *bullied* me into asking her out again as she said yes :D

Do I miss it? Sometimes, it was good to be best friends without it being complicated all the time and having more worries when shes not around to see me (think thats just us though) but would I change it for the world? No, what we gained is something special, because we knew each other so well we know what the other likes, I can see where your coming from for the brake up point of view and I think about it quite a bit but I think its worth the risk for the gain, that really depends on the two of you and your individual personalities, relationships and circumstances though...

[bambino]

dont know if this'll help
but from my experience boy/girl friendships hardly ever stay 'just friends'. It's actually partly down to natural instincts, boys will only hang around girls they deem 'attractive' because they are subconsciously on the look out for a possible 'mate'. I'm not saying this is always the case, but it does seem that in opposite sex couples its often the guy that harbours secret feelings.

To back this up: all my guy friends have told me they liked me at one point. Through my entire life. Whereas I didn't/don't have feelings for them.

One of my bestfriends is a guy, since we were 14 we met in school, quickly became close. He liked me but I didn't have feelings for him until I was 17 ..when I began to think i liked him as more than my friend.
through our teens we stayed bestfriends and dated on and off. I guess we 'risked' our friendship. yes we had massive falling outs, we saw other people, we got back together, we screwed each other over, we forgave a lot. A lot of forgiveness, because at the end of the day it's not always picture perfect, but I know its stronger and a lot more real when you're with someone you know as themselves and love.
Through everything we stayed friends, even though- it was a lot of work.

now at nearly 19 I finally realize that I have completely fallen for him. It took 5 years, but I think relationships based on friendships are the strongest- if you believe your friendship is strong enough to survive.

"Love is friendship set on fire"~

[AustinFB]

yeah, my gf was my best friend for like two years..

[Jdima911]

i have been a bestfriend (#1) with a girl that led to something, and a bestfriend (#2) with a girl and we are strictly bestfriends.

with #1 we became bestfriends, she cheated on her boyfriend with me. we had sex. i thought we were in "love", about 4 times she changed her mind about me for another guy she knew for hmmmm about 2 weeks. she gave me posters, pictures, and stuff of hers, but now i keep ALL of those things hidden in a box in my room. worst thing in my life thats happened

with #2 i thought something could happen with her, but then i realized i was just a friend and i was ok with it. we make fun of each other, i call her names, use curse words at each other, listen to each other, tell our problems, hangout and make cookies and stuff, make her drive me places. you know, what bestfriends really do. And she is not really a "guy" looking girl. this girl is a girly girl, and im glad calling her my bff :)