my boyfriend

[natalie1342]

I was at home with my boyfriend once, because my parents had gone out. We were sitting on the sofa and all of a sudden, my boyfriend got down, pulled my trousers down and started oral sex. I don't know what to do.
He also wanted me to do the same to him. I'm afraid of what will happen
What should I do?

[Ironic Infidel In England]

If your boyfreind is doing things your not comfortable with or not ready for, you should tell him to stop. There is nothing worse than having someone do something to you that you don't want them to do. You should tell him that you weren't comfortable with what he did, and don't want him to do it again. If he keeps harassing you over it, he's not worth the effort.

Good luck!

[Gumleaf]

just tell him that your not comfortable with that. if he really likes you he will respect your wishes. if he doesn't you should get rid of him straight away because he wouldn't be worth it. relationships are always '2 way streets'.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I'm sorry, but you should have kicked that son of a bitch in the nuts. I am a guy (obviously) but I get really mad when scum like your "boyfriend" (nothing against you, but GET THE HECK OUTTA THIS RELATIONSHIP) treat girls this way. NEVER let this jerkoff pressure you into ANYTHING! And if it gets to the point (I pray that it doesn't but it happens all the time) where you find this to be sexual assault/abuse, don't hesitate to call the police on his ass!


Forgive my language, but people in my family (relatives) have had this predicament and it gets me really riled up. The best of luck to you!

[Gumleaf]

(comments directed to that canada guy) i think you might be jumping the gun a bit. she hasn't said that he was doing the oral sex after she said no. if he did, i agree with everything you said. however, if thats not the case then i think calling it sexual abuse and calling the police is over the top. as i have already said, if she is not comfortable she should talk to him about it. if he still wants to go on with it she should dump him quick. am i wrong?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

No, but I'D STILL KICK HIM IN TEH NUTTIES!

But yea, yur right...

[kikicupkake]

(comments directed to that canada guy) nice i like the way you think man ^_^

[Xull]

Yes, talking to him is probably the best idea.When ever I start a relationship a few weeks after I tell them my pace can how fast or slow I want to go.Same from her prospective.It just helps things for me.I don't wanna kiss her or do other things with her when shes not ready, same for her.I want her to know I usually don't like to have my first kiss until a few weeks after.Yes this may sound kinkey, but it helps me and could probably help your relationship.Now your not planning it in a calender saying April 18, 2007 is when shes gonna kiss me.Just a idea when your both ready for that and how long you wanna stay there.I have used this is one of my relationships and I got my first kiss and she did too, but it was also the longest relationship I have had yet.

.......just an idea.;)

[dmeek7]

well if you do want to go a step further in your relashinship then you should talk to your parents and get their permission to you know do it. but if your not ready give a reasanable excuse that hell back off and wait till the time is right because if he truly is a good boyfriend he will understand but if he does it again without your permission then hes not a real boyfriend and you should dump him.

[Kamloops.man]

No, but I'D STILL KICK HIM IN TEH NUTTIES!

But yea, yur right...

Being an idiot like him I don't think he has nuts.

[Learn2Bsmart]

For some reason i hear this A LOT and yet the answer seems so obvious to me. Its basically reading symptoms. Number one, if boyfriend suddenly takes off underwear, exposing the genitals, thats assault, if boyfriend suddenly starts to lick and suck vagina, thats sexual assault. And if you are sitting there uncomfortable, shocked or just plain scared, then its wrong and can be considered rape.

Like i keep hearing around the forum, and agree with, BOTH partners must agree. In order for sexual relations to start, both the male and female must engage openly and willingly.

So if you BF did this to you, or is continuously doing this to you without your approval, then make him back off.

[RowanVer.3.0]

Being an idiot like him I don't think he has nuts.

You'd be surprised, some of the biggest idiots on the face of this earth have nuts.


Anyway, just think about it for a while. Are you ready for this kind of relationship? Do you think it should be with him? Are you secure enough with yourself yet? If you're answering yes to these questions, just tell him not to be so impulsive... Or, if you've been answering 'no' to those questions, tell him you aren't ready for that kind of relationship yet, but maybe in time.

If he can't relate to you in that way, he's no good~

[emowhotxts]

well my point is did u want him to do it if u did u would of just went along with it but the way u reacted not knowing what to do u obviously didnt want it to hapen and u should of kiked him out and dumped him but my thin is i think that if he does that again and u dont want to do it kik him out of the house and call the cops for an asault

oh ya pm me if u want to ask questions dis has happened to me b4 and now he is in jail

[Affliction]

Juat tell him ur not ready

[Maverick]

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[Aηdy]

Ant, emowhotxts wasn't the one who bumped it, it was Learn2Bsmart, but anyway, it was bumped a while ago!