(nearly) EVERYONE thinks I'm gay

[LuckyLuke]

Before I begin I'd like to state that I have no problem with homosexuality; I'm a supporter of my local LGBT community as well as an attendee (however infrequent) of my schools chapter of the Gay-Straight Alliance. I'm also a supporter and friends with many members of LIGALY (a support organization for gay & lesbian youth).

With that said, I'll commence with my post:

I am who I am and nothing less than that. I will not change who I am for anyone (or everyone) because I enjoy living the life I live even if...

...everyone, yes everyone, thinks I'm gay. I'm very frequently hit on by men and, although it's a compliment, it's quite frustrating at this point. All the people at my school think I'm in the closet (although I go to a very accepting school and friends know that I'm not), female friends call me their "not gay, gay best friend" and have introduced me as such to their friends and parents, teachers did a double take when I discussed my girlfriend (I'm single now), and people that I'd be very interested in dating seem to shy away from me and this seems to be a prominent reason. Hell, even my parents, grandparents, 2 aunts, 1 uncle, and a family friend had the "we love you no matter what *wink wink* talk" and, albeit I love them to death for it, I don't think it was necessary to have it from each of them... TWICE.

Now, I must say that I can understand why people think I'm a homosexual; my habits, hobbies and mannerisms tend to be a bit more on the feminine side and follow the typical stereotypes:

- Despise sports
- Very active hands when talking
- LOVER of fashion
- Strong distaste for the "normal teenage music"
- Lover of classical music, art, theater, etc.
- Strong emphasis on eating healthy and counting calories
- Lover of body products (like face washes and what-not)
- Most friends are girls
- Doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, etc.
- My typical summer outfit includes a polo and shorts that rest slightly above the knee with boat shoes and my typical winter outfit is a sweater (sometimes with a dress shirt underneath), jeans, and matching shoes

In the past, I didn't mind being mislabeled or having people think I'm gay with the notion that they can think what they want and I'll live my life the way I love to live it but now as I become more and more interested in having a relationship I find it much more difficult. I'm not a "macho man" and I could never be a macho man without losing everything I love about myself but, with that said, I don't like people thinking I am what I'm not. I'm literally known around school as the guy people are WAITING for to jump out of the closet in a feather boa. In fact, a majority of students are known to look at one another when I show up in a bit more of a stylistic outfit than the typical teen guy would wear and whisper, "when the f*** is Luke going to come out of the closet?!".

I'm totally comfortable with my sexuality (which isn't something I used to be able to declare without restriction) and I know I'm straight so I guess my question is this:

Do you have any advise, opinions, stories, support, tips, etc.?

[Timmy93]

Ok well if you aren't gay don't worry bout I shit far as I'm concerned that's swag shit dressin like that just sounds like the shit to do but its fine if people think you aslong as you know you aren't I mean I have a lot of girls that are friends and don't change because then you are something you not but kinda find a way to show you are manly...workout a lil or try doing other things ya know find a kinda boyish hobby or better yet look at actresses or models and tell your guy friends how cute they are ya know give it a shot if it bothers you.

[humanesquire]

For a laugh, you could go on Facebook or whatever and come out to everyone as straight

[Jades]

i don't have the best answer but just get on with your life, do what you do. pretending that you're macho and all will just make it worst. Timmy93 is right, try to do boy stuff with your buddies like camping, boating or somethin..

[clr9823]

Just count yourself lucky that people are overly accepting, not bigoted. It's annoying of course, but it won't result in bullying. When your friends introduce yourself you as their "not gay gay friend", nip that in the bud and introduce YOURSELF as straight if they bring up the issue, but other than that just enjoy your above average dress sense and musical taste and your girlfriend :)

[Foamy]

Do what everyone else is saying.

[Dimitri]

You and I are sooo alike, you have no idea.

Here is the answer, you are ...................... wait for it.............................

METROSEXUAL!!!!

[Contra]

Of course it will be difficult since you're asking us for help, but the best thing to do is what you intend to do: keep being yourself regardless of what everyone else thinks.
You see, I'm also like you in certain aspects. I used to be bullied because people thought the same about me and the reputation sticked, although I'm not bullied anymore, some people still think that... Do you know what I do? I get on with my life, enjoy the company of my girl friends and do what I feel comfortable with!

[judahtics]

i'd say if you don't like people thinking you're gay, don't act so "gay".

[Can'tHelpIt]

Yeah I had that in the past and i was like NO but now puberty has my mind all crazaed with hormones blah blah Anyways when your with your friends and hanging out and you see a hot girl "blah blah blah she is Hot" if you do that more often then they will most likely stop thinking like that

[AltoVaughn]

i'd say if you don't like people thinking you're gay, don't act so "gay".

He's not acting Gay, He's acting like Himself.

[judahtics]

He's not acting Gay, He's acting like Himself.

do you always have to argue with everything i say?

if people think you're gay, act more "manly". i'll say it in a more pc way.

[jessehs]

your just effeminent not gay and when people call you gay that's what they mean and if you don't like that they think your gay then don't dress in the cloths you do just wear like jeans or athletic shorts and also you don't need to count calories you are young enough that if you eat healthy you will be fine.

[BiBoy5674]

just be yourself you don't have to justify yourself to people :)

[Syvelocin]

Please do not bump old threads. :locked: