Is He Still My Father?

[Twistember]

Is he still my father after 2 almost 3 years of no contact what so ever? He has made no effort to try to be in my life. I know he's still my father by blood, but is he really my father? I'm just confused.

[judahtics]

anyone was be a father, not everyone can be a dad.

[Voodoo]

He is still you dad, no matter what you do, he does, you say, he says. He is still your father. I live two towns from my father, I rarely talk to him anymore, after 13 years of not being in my life he wants to come back to it? I think not. But if he hasn't talked to you in three years? I'm sorry to say but forget about him.

[Kujiro]

Its rather odd, if you look into his perspective, why get off the radar for 3 years and still counting.

Were you able to remember the reason he took off 3 years ago? A disagreement? A third party?

Hes your dad afterall, and that is not by choice. But its by choice if he choose to leave everything he had behind him.
But i'd suppose if hes not resurfacing to ask for money or things like that you may just live your life as it is now.

But either way assuming if he returns; i'd agree that the feelings may be some what of anger or hatred, due to irresponsibility and just being unfair. bear in mind, hes your father afterall listen to what he as to say, but you can choose not to buy it if its unreasonable.

Respect is and should always be given to a certain amount, even to parents, but for the rest they have to earn it. True for anyone and everyone.

Good luck
*pats*

[Foamy]

Never met my dad don't want to meet him

[Nicky97]

I get so tired of agreeing with Kujiro all the time. It feels like no one needs my opinion also. But I agree completely with him.

You didn't mention it, but it sounds like he leaves you and your mother alone. That in itself can be a blessing compared to some situations.

And do you know for sure WHY he doesn't have contact with you? Do you know the whole story? Chances are you are not the one he walked away from. And chances are you are not the reason he is totally silent. Just saying...

[Syvelocin]

He isn't your father, but you came from his sperm. I've spoken to my actual father once since I was a baby, he is most definitely not my dad. You have blood relations to him but he's not there, BEING a father. As well, you can have a father who is a father, but has no blood relations to you. For instance, take my mum's boyfriend. He's been around since I was nine. Now HE'S a father.

[Foamy]

He isn't your father, but you came from his sperm. I've spoken to my actual father once since I was a baby, he is most definitely not my dad. You have blood relations to him but he's not there, BEING a father. As well, you can have a father who is a father, but has no blood relations to you. For instance, take my mum's boyfriend. He's been around since I was nine. Now HE'S a father.

Couldnt agree more

[LivierGleek]

He's your father no matter what. But that doesn't mean you have to love him if he doesn't love you. I have a same problem with my dad, so now, when people ask me about my dad, i always say i dont have one :)

[Timmy93]

of coarse he is still your dad he knows you exist

[StoppingTime]

Did you used to be really close to him? If you were, and you liked him, then I would still call him your father if you think you would still be close with him if he was still in your life.
Did your mother remarry and if so, are you close with him? If she remarried and you are close with/get along with her new husband, then it gets complicated, and it is your choice.
Obviously though, he will always be your father by blood.

[DoctorWho]

Yes he stays your father forever

[Fourth Dimension]

Just Because Hes Your Father By Blood Doesnt Mean Hes Your Dad But Thats All How You Feel About The Situation Me If I Were In Your Shoes I Wouldnt Claim Him

[Muridaee]

It seems like a lot of people put a big deal on whether someone donated some s___ to make a baby. But if he isn't around, doesn't talk to you, doesn't write, whatever, I don't think just because of something he did once long ago makes you have to have him in your life if you don't want. It's up to you if he comes calling.