telling my parents

[davisbr2]

how should i tell them

[CaliKid24]

tell them what?

[davisbr2]

tht im bi

[Foamy]

Flat out tell em.

[StoppingTime]

Are you sure you are ready to tell them? You are only 14, and they will probably go on about how you are too young to make such big life decisions etc... If you are comfortable I think your should start out with telling close friends who will be accepting (if you haven't already) and then think about telling them.

[AltoVaughn]

Are you sure you are ready to tell them? You are only 14, and they will probably go on about how you are too young to make such big life decisions etc... If you are comfortable I think your should start out with telling close friends who will be accepting (if you haven't already) and then think about telling them.

14 is not too young, You don't see people telling 11 year old boys with girlfriends, Oh you're too young to know you like girls.

Agree with the second half of your post however.

[ERB-lade]

i think you first tell 1 of your parents, then let parent-1 tell it parent-2
hope it helped

greetz blade

[Lights]

Telling parents of your sexuality can be the hardest thing you ever have to do. Some parents will be absolutely wonderful about your revelation and give you lots of hugs, while others will turn their backs in denial telling themselves that you're too young to know such a thing and that it must just be a phase.

First things first: you need to be sure of yourself, and that you are definitely bisexual. Why? If you go into telling your parents that you're bisexual, and then decide a few weeks later that in fact you're not, and that you were just curious, you're going to have riled them up for nothing. The worst case scenario would be that they'd still always have that inkling that you were bisexual, ultimately resulting in them looking at you and treating you differently. If you're sure of yourself, then have no fear.

At a young age like 14, it would probably be wise to consider your parents' attitude to LGBT people. If from previous experience you know your parents are quite nasty about them, then you may want to keep quiet for a little longer. The reason I say that is because you're going to have to live with your parents for at least 4 more years of your life, and serious problems could evolve from you telling them such a thing as that you're not straight. However, if from previous experience you know that your parents aren't ones to really comment on LGBT people, or even that they're supportive of them, then you're actually in a very good position to tell them.
You really just have to weight up the odds of what your parents' reaction will be. Although, even if your parents are a little bit more on the anti side of things, that doesn't mean you can't, or shouldn't tell them; they're supposed to love you unconditionally, and almost every parent does love their child unconditionally. Even if the reaction at first wasn't as you wanted or expected, that wouldn't go to say that their reaction wouldn't change in due time. They would really just have to come round to the idea.

Most parents that have a problem with their child being LGBT only have that problem because they're scared that their child is 'different' and 'alien'. In order to change their mind, you just have to show them that you're not a different person to the one before you came out to them. It could be a lengthy process, but if your parents were to initially be very negative about your sexuality, I'm almost certain they'd come round sooner or later.

It's also probably not best to drop it like a bomb on them, as mrappleseed thought would work. The best way possible for it to be done, is for them to start picking up on little hints you drop them. Something really simple like temporarily having a really hot guy as your desktop background on your computer/laptop and leaving it open for one of your parents to see. Small things like that can, and often will, start making your parents think, and even lead to them asking you about your sexuality. That's definitely the best way because then they're expecting it, and you're not just dropping it on them out of nowhere.

I think the thing that works best in your favour is that you're bisexual, and not gay. Being gay makes things a whole lot harder because then parents have to adjust to the fact that their child only likes their own gender, and not the opposite one which they're 'supposed' to. At least with you being bisexual, your parents can appreciate that yes you like your own gender, which might be a little odd to them, but you like the opposite gender too, which you're 'supposed' to. Going back to what I said earlier, you just have to leave them thinking that you're the same person you were before you came out to them.

I put a lot of worst-case scenarios in this post, but I think I needed to so that you're prepared for what could come if your parents are a little close-minded. They could do what I said right at the beginning - give you lots of hugs and love! You have to be the judge of whether you think it's worth telling them right now or not. By all means, if you feel you need to and the time is right, go for it; but if you're not even certain you're bisexual, you probably ought to wait so that you be sure of yourself in due time.

I hope this post helped you, even though it's pretty long. :) :P