pressure

[green]

im so annoyed and a little upset. I always get pressured by my mum to perform. She is always pressuring me to do shit. she makes me continue with my karate even though i hate it and i dont enjoy it. she tries to force me to go in competitions, she is always "so disappointed" in me. i just really want to drop my karate and just start going to a gym and i need to show her that i want to make my own decisions. any ideas.

[louisgray]

Sit down with her and tell her don't want to do these things and you want to make your own decisions

[senior.2013]

What Louis said

[Nicky97]

Undisclosed gender, undisclosed age, and you expect us to have an opinion on how to help?

At some point you just have to assume responsibility, but also you must earn respect and trust. I have no idea where that point is for you.

It will happen eventually. It's a matter of when, and to a great extent that's up to you. You can't compare your family to other families. Your past may contain some valuable clues.

[judahtics]

gender and age don't really matter at this point.

you can have a conversation with your parents and if it doesn't work, deal with it. sometimes in life, you have to do things you don't want to, so really, you can count this as a life lesson.

[DerBear]

Undisclosed gender, undisclosed age, and you expect us to have an opinion on how to help?

At some point you just have to assume responsibility, but also you must earn respect and trust. I have no idea where that point is for you.

It will happen eventually. It's a matter of when, and to a great extent that's up to you. You can't compare your family to other families. Your past may contain some valuable clues.

Gender and age dont really matter when it comes to this situation now does it?

But you have made some good points about respect

gender and age don't really matter at this point.

you can have a conversation with your parents and if it doesn't work, deal with it. sometimes in life, you have to do things you don't want to, so really, you can count this as a life lesson.

You have made a good point talk to your parents and work out some kind of deal just tell them thats the best you can do.

But again sometimes you have to do things you dont want to do. Its not like what your doing is killing you its actually something to be proud of as it shows you have skill and you can preform well

[LivierGleek]

Whatever you do, don't push her to much, becoz angry/irritated parents can be impossible to deal with. Give her time to process stuff.

P.S. tell her how sad you feel about her being so dissapointed in you.

[SilentKillah]

Just talk to her and tell how much you dont want to do this. But be careful, dont act angry because that will really make it hard for them to understand what you are feeling. Just simply say why you dont want to, and while doing that still show complete respect for your parents.