My Boyfriend....

[SkittleBear]

Help here.... My boyfriend's step-dad is a bit of trouble. He throws him on the ground and calls him an ass.. He hits him.. and just today he knocked him on the ground and gave him a really bad bloody elbow. It made me cry so much.. I just don't know what to do. I feel it hurts me more .. It's painful for him and I.. and I was wondering.. is this normal?.. Is this abuse? :C

[ackmedsgirl666]

hell ya this is abuse and he should be reporting it
hitting,punching, kicking or anything of the sort is considered abuse and isn't illegla i think but not good parenting.. most likely his dad had an abusive childhood and now hes being the same with ur bf... im really sorry about this.. i can relate. my stepmom used to abuse me and now im in childrens aid care because of her... but if you love him you would maybe try to convince him to get help from somebody or report his dad even because what if (not saying it will|) but what if it gets to the point that his dad hurts him so bad he ends up paralyzed or dead or something and u wud feel bad cuz u didn't speak up.. talk to ur bf and get this problem sorted out because i wud hate to see a thread from u saying hes dead or seriously hurt....... get help!!

[SkittleBear]

hell ya this is abuse and he should be reporting it
hitting,punching, kicking or anything of the sort is considered abuse and isn't illegla i think but not good parenting.. most likely his dad had an abusive childhood and now hes being the same with ur bf... im really sorry about this.. i can relate. my stepmom used to abuse me and now im in childrens aid care because of her... but if you love him you would maybe try to convince him to get help from somebody or report his dad even because what if (not saying it will|) but what if it gets to the point that his dad hurts him so bad he ends up paralyzed or dead or something and u wud feel bad cuz u didn't speak up.. talk to ur bf and get this problem sorted out because i wud hate to see a thread from u saying hes dead or seriously hurt....... get help!!

Well if he does report this.... wouldn't he get taken away or something? I really don't want that .. I would completely die inside and I ... I don't know :c

[Matt_is_Awesome]

Yea if hes under 18 I would call CPS on the dads ass but thats just me
I kno it hurts u bc its a horrible thing to see your loved one get hurt like everyday! I would help him by reporting the dad to CPS or something like that or suggest it to your bf

[Travis Is Losing It]

From years of child abuse I would say that its minor but child abuse is child abuse. despite the level of it its important to get it fixed. like justin said child abuse normally progresses. it may not seem as much now but it can escelate very quickly into extreme violence that could end up with him seriously hurt. I would talk it over with your boyfriend and highly suggest CPS

[judahtics]

if CPS finds he is being abused, yes they will remove him from the home, there is a chance they will let him go to a family members home if it's deemed safe and stable. if that's not an option he will either be taken to a children's home or a temporary foster home until proper arrangments can be made. one thing someone once asked me was this:

do you care more about the friendship or the friend?

i had to make a tough choice and i decided that losing my friendship was worth not losing my friend. so how about you, i know it's a hard choice and he might be taken away, but,

do you care more about the boyfriend than the friend?

this is a very tough situation and you should talk to your boyfriend about it. he should be involved in this. if it continues, even if he protests and says no, you should report it anyway, but at least give him the chance. also, you can report and they can keep the reporting party private.

[Travis Is Losing It]

Judah pretty much summed it up. its what you should do.

[SadAngel]

No it's not normal and of course it's abuse. His step dad is aggressive. I would suggest you wont see him and have nothing to do with him same goes for your boyfriend I hope your boyfriend wont see him.

[DoctorWho]

This is abuse because first off he's not his real dad and second even if it were his dad it would be abuse

[AltoVaughn]

Like Everyone's said it certainly is abuse, but there's not much you can do to help besides helping your boyfriend remain strong. Remind him that even if his home life isn't good that you still Love him (It sounds like you do if you're concerned about him). Advise him to talk to his mom... I hope that she wouldn't be with him if she knew the extent of how her son is being treated.

[Princesskay]

Yea, i agree with everyone you seriously need to TELL HIM TO GET HELP! BEFORE ITS TOO LATE !!! :(

[Rawrgasm]

he could one day go overboard and end his life which would be tragic. try get him to talk to the school counselor or someone of that nature

[Unsolvedmind]

get help before it is to late

[LifeisLife]

I dont think it's abuse, not that badly atleast. My dad does the same and I do get bruises or bleed sometimes, but loads of people have parents that lose it and start hitting or pushing people/their children...

[AppealToReason]

I dont think it's abuse, not that badly atleast. My dad does the same and I do get bruises or bleed sometimes, but loads of people have parents that lose it and start hitting or pushing people/their children...

This is just completely fucking insane. There is no "not that badly" abuse. It's just abuse, period.
If a parent is physically harming their kid to the point where there are bruises/blood, it's abuse and he should call the cops.

[acurasrock]

Id call the Police and make file some battery charges against that jerk! How could he hit and abuse a kid like that and not pay for his actions! And maybe have him removed from the house, it dont sound like a healthy situation at that house.

[libra210]

It's Abuse and not right what so ever

[Really]

Of course it's not normal, you should call the cops and report him.

[Sogeking]

It's Abuse and not right what so ever

Please don't bump threads older than 2 months, this one's from August.

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