How Do I Be His Friend?

[Twistember]

There's this boy I like. We don't have any classes together, but we're in marching band together. Im in the color guard, he's in the band. I've seen the people he hangs out with. They're all out of my league. I'm the freak with the scarred up arms and an excellent grade in all of her science classes. He's #3 in the class with all AP classes and clean, un-scarred arms. What I'm trying to say is I don't see him during the day, except morning practices. But that's not very long. And I can't just walk up to him out of nowhere at practice and be like "Hey! What's up?" I'm not that kind of person. I have 4 anxiety disorders. That is not possible. I want us to be more than friends, but first we have to be friends. So....How do I be his friend?

If that's really jumbled up and hard to understand, I'm sorry. This is my first real crush and I don't know how to handle things.

[anonymous53]

Alright, well first. Just relax. Approach him casually and be like "What instrument do you play?" Etc, an icebreaker.

Don't worry about the scarred up arms. You don't know what people are hiding. I can tell you that for a fact, when I used to cut back in public school, it wasn't anywhere visible.

Take a chance, go say hi :)

[Twistember]

Approach him casually and be like "What instrument do you play?" Etc, an icebreaker.

What are some other icebreakers? I already know what instrument he plays :)

[Dack]

Ask him anyway, even if you know. It will make him think you're just curios instead of asking a random question with no relevance to anything nearby.

[anonymous53]

*Thinks of non-corny icebreakers* *Tries to get the "How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice" out of his head*

Ask him what his favorite classes are? Or if he likes video games?

Or maybe if you have a class with him, if he knows what the homework was etc.

School based stuff almost always works

[senior.2013]

Just ask him if he likes anyone. After you say Hey, talk more. If he says he has to go because youre starting, tell him you wanna talk later.

[Kujiro]

Its a good start to be friends, observe how does he behave and choose the right ice breakers,
Although his clique may be out of your league, but there are definately ways to become his friend.

Im sure there is a breaking point where you beable to get thru and become at least aquaintances.
After which i'd suppose thats where you can start, from facebook to messanger, to mobile.

Its good to find out what does he like, what does he not, and work along the line, becareful to not step on the wrong landmines.

Take it slowly and not to rush things, and in time, im sure even if a relationship does not happen, you would still have him as a friend and not just a face among the crowd.

[LuckyLuke]

What are some other icebreakers? I already know what instrument he plays :)

Just because you know what instrument he plays doesn't mean you can't ask this. It's only an icebreaker, a seed to initiate further conversation.

As for the scars, everyone has their scars they just may be on the inside.

Now let me be very, very clear about this: NO ONE is out of ANYONE'S league. I don't care who you are, what you do, who you're with; no one is better than anyone else. May he and his friends have different strengths? Yes. But that in no way means you're less than them. You have the right and the option to simply go up to him and initiate a conversation and just because he doesn't have any "visibile scars" and just because he's book smart doesn't mean there's a wall between you two.

Go for it.

Your only option is to go up to him and initiate a conversation. Use an icebreaker, anything. If you haven't ever introduced yourself, you need to do that first. Look in his eyes, say, "Hi! My name is ____" and smile.

You can do it.

Best of luck!

Lucky Luke