telling my parents.....

[ally_____]

hi, so i'm bisexual, i have been for years and always will be(just thought i'd get that out there right away). So i'm bi and i've been thinking about telling my family, but my whole family is very Against gays and lesbians ect.. they're always making fun of them and when they talk about them they make it sound like they're a compleatly different species! and its not just my parents, its my WHOLE family, i was raised to think that liking the same sex was gonna send me straight to hell! so if you have any advice or ways i could tell them without them compleatly disowning me, i would LOVE to here them :yes:

[Infidelitas]

hi, so i'm bisexual, i have been for years and always will be(just thought i'd get that out there right away). So i'm bi and i've been thinking about telling my family, but my whole family is very Against gays and lesbians ect.. they're always making fun of them and when they talk about them they make it sound like they're a compleatly different species! and its not just my parents, its my WHOLE family, i was raised to think that liking the same sex was gonna send me straight to hell! so if you have any advice or ways i could tell them without them compleatly disowning me, i would LOVE to here them :yes:

You have to weigh up whether its worth being tormented by your family, and telling them, or being okay and not telling them.

You need to decide what is best for you. You need to be okay, Please be okay :)

[Lights]

If you think there is genuinely a real concern that your family could reject you if you came out to them, then it's probably not worthwhile to tell them because you're only 14, and you're still going to be living with them for at least 4 more years. If your parents are quite close-minded, as many parents are because homosexuality/bisexuality wasn't very open in their days, then it could be a big mistake for you to tell them. The last thing you want is for them to start looking at you and thinking about you differently.

However, your concerns that your family will reject you are most likely misconstrued; you are family after all. Sure, they might say a few crude things about gay and bi people, but if they come to understand the whole concept of being gay or bi a little more, as a result of you coming out to them, then you're actually doing a very good thing. You really have to educate them that there's nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual, it really is just a simple case that you have interest in your own sex. Eventually, it should just click in their minds that there really is very little wrong with having interest in your own gender. If they realise that you're bisexual, and have been for a while without them even suspecting, then they're more likely to come round to the idea of you being bisexual because they won't see you as something so 'different'.

In the end, love is love, and don't let anyone ever tell you you're wrong to have feelings for, or even love, someone of your own gender.

[Kujiro]

Id agree with aurora's opinion, if your entire family is against such, may be a better choice to not tell them at all, afterall you are not going to get the support you are looking for.

It is not that good to be keeping it from them either, but I'd suppose it's about choosing the lesser of both evils.
Keeping it to yourself and not be tormented by them.
But it should not keep you from opening up to your closest of friends either.
Just place it in the "need to know category"

I feel it would be the best option you have for now.
Moreover it's your decision, advise can only bring you thus far, execution is at your decision.

Good luck
*smile*

[StoppingTime]

If they really are against it, then I would stay away from telling them for now. However, just becuae you aren't going to tell them, doesn't mean you don't have to tell anyone, (i.e. close friends etc...) And if it is really bothering you how they treat lesbian, bi people, then if you feel comfortable when they make a rude comment, you could tell them your opinion.

[judahtics]

just do it an get it over with! you know what to expect, so prepare yourself and be ready for their reaction. at least you don't have to worry about what their reaction is going to be, cause well, you already know.

good luck!